I have been going down hill for a while now, my relationship with my fiance is on the rocks. I dont get along with my family and im dropping out of college.
Everynight me and my partner argue i always end up crying, i feel like i have nothing to live for anymore.
All my friends tutors at college and my partner say i need to have counsorling, i know i'm down and i do get upset but does this really mean i'm depressed.
I dont talk to my family because my partner threatened them he also hits me and pushes me about.
Whenever we argue he calls me nasty names and says im worthless to anyone. I try to make up to him but theres no happening in that but the thing is i cant get out of that relationship, when i do leave him i go back.
please help me i don't know what is going on i am so confused.
jade 17 uk
2006-11-09 01:35:16 · 22 answers · asked by Jason 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I laugh and smile all the time, does that make me happy? Do you think maybe the family is pissed off because of the abusive BF? Depressed? I don't know, Maybe your just paying the price for the choices you are making in your life. You know you can start over. Your young, so learn from your mistakes. Thats what life is all about...
2006-11-09 01:50:08 · answer #1 · answered by silsa1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jade you are simply 17 nothing more.
You are not alone. You are not strange.
You simply are finding yourself.
Things will be fine in the long run.
Short hint list.
1. Yes go see a councellour. (Rabbi's are good to even if your not Jewish, I'm not but one helped me.)
2. Stay in college at all costs.
3. Don't worry about your parents. They are prolly as messed up as you are right now. They love you.
4. Abuse should not be taken. You are a person of value.
You are valuable to many people. Some you have not met yet or even been born.
Yes there will be mistakes and problems.
You are not done yet. You have things you must do.
You are a critical part of many lives now and in the future.
Find YOUR way.
2006-11-09 09:46:06 · answer #2 · answered by Kaustaub 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Darling, you need to go talk to someone experienced in this. You are experiencing a very bad relationship, with self esteem issues and probably depression. You are clinging to this boy for no good reason because you think he is as good as it is going to get for you. I assure you, that is simply not true. You are a lovely, worth young person with everthing going for you. In college? WOW! So you are failing right now, that can be fixed. Study more see BF less. If a boy is hitting you, pushing you and threatening your family, why is he still so attractive to you? Why is your self esteem so low that this seems like Mr. Wonderful to you? You need love and care, from your family and you need to be ought of this relationship ASAP. College may be a wash for this semester, but there is always next one and a chance to start over, without the dumass fiance. Lose him and feel a 100 lbs lighter. Yes you might "miss him", but not for long. Let your Dad and Mum know what is really going on and ask for their help, or some trusted teacher. I know you are capable of so much more than you are giving yourself credit for. Please seek help IMMEDIATELY, don't wait! I will be praying for you! Good luck!
2006-11-09 09:45:35 · answer #3 · answered by Tippy's Mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand that you feel like you do, whit everything going on in your life there is no one in this world that wouldn't get depressed from that and you are not alone, you just have to be strong and don't give up! You can NOT stay whit your partner, go back to your family try to work it out, ask for help. Dos your friends know what is going on?He is the one that needs help, don't protect him, bud you have to talk to some on professional if you can´t get out on your own. Stay strong your only 17 you got a good life a head of you! good luck
2006-11-09 10:02:42 · answer #4 · answered by bella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, You are depressed. You are in a destructive relationship and need to get out of it as soon as possible. You need to work on your self esteem because if you believe in yourself, you will not ever go back to anyone who ever treats you like he does. Read a book about Co-Dependency then read it again. I promise this will help. I think you need the support that your family has for you. Leave this piece of trash and talk to your family first. Do some reading on Co-dependency and see how you feel. If you still have problems, Go see someone professional. At least a preacher or church pastor. Let me say it again. GET OUT OF THIS RELATIONSHIP!!! You will be perfect for someone someday. Talk to your family.
Godspeed
2006-11-09 09:57:31 · answer #5 · answered by kstfas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first bravest thing that you can do as a first step is to leave him. Even if you are dependent on him, just leave him. It will seem that he is the world for you right now, but he is not. Trust me, life is more worth living when you begin to love yourself. You are worth everything than you can imagine. Listen to no one to bring you down.
Your life is special, when all things go wrong, remember that you still have yourself to lean on. Be brave and leave him. You dont have to be with someone that hurts you all the time. You need someone to love you , which means someone who would listen ,understand and never would hurt u intentionally.
Arrange things that you need to do after that. Since you are dropping out of college, find a job and be independant.
I dont know which country you belong to. I would love to help you by getting you the social service contacts to help you further to arrange your life. You may IM me at haseena_haldir@yahoo.com.
Be brave and do the right thing.
2006-11-09 09:52:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anne H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to stop and take stock of your life. Everyone has control of it but you. Take back the control. Lose the boyfriend. He's an abuser and you are too young anyway. Go back to college. And see a doctor about maybe getting anti-depressants to help you through this mess. Good Luck
2006-11-09 09:38:07 · answer #7 · answered by sheeny 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well yes you are depressed, to what extent only a professional can help you with that. I live with chronic depression, have all my life. I can tell you that you are in an abusive relationship. If you truly want help then you need to help yourself now and get out of it. Go to your family and admit you have a problem and need their help now. You may need police action if this person is being threatening to you and your family. Please for your own behalf do something NOW. SAVE YOURSELF, YOU ARE WORTH IT.
2006-11-09 09:47:46 · answer #8 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run, don't walk, to the nearest mental health facility. You need someone to talk to, and theres nothing wrong with seeking the help of a professional. At the very least, it can't make things any worse. NOW GO.
2006-11-09 09:38:22 · answer #9 · answered by spencer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your depressed alright, but you don't need to see anyone. Get out of that relationship and stay away from him. That sounds like that should get read of your depression. Besides why would you want to be with someone that pushes you around. That will only get to the point that you end up hurt real bad.
2006-11-09 09:43:52 · answer #10 · answered by ranchforman57 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋