Changing your body for hubby?????????

Question

I feel very insecure about my body now that i have been out with my hubby while he works at clubs and socializing place a strip club. I have always known he liked the bodys of women in the music video's with full bodys and nice butt but now i feel totaly akward about my own body now that i have seen him stare at them in real life. I am only 5 ft 6 and 114 pounds and almost flat chested, small hips, and small butt.Hubby has mentioned that maybe i should work out more, consider breast implants and see a nutritionest.My doctor told me i am only 18 yrs old and that i will probably fill in on my own in next 2 yrs.My husband is 24 yrs old and i want him to look at me like he does those other girls?

My hubby jokes that the only thing that attracted him to me was my pretty face and that makes me feel worse.

He works in for a record label (rap)doing promotions hopes to be a producer

Answer 1

Sounds like hubby is a pig

You sound pretty good to me. Don't change anything for HIM. If the doc says you'll fill out, I'd wait and see. A nutritionest may be a good idea now.

As far as breast implants, I say no. Natural is always better. As long as they react to touch, I don't know of any man that does not enjoy that.

Good Luck..................

Answer 2

This sounds bad. Why are you all hanging out at strip clubs? Why is he spending so much time watching other women? And why are you being made to feel that there is something "wrong" with you? This does not sound like a mature, healthy or balanced relationship. Your body will continue to develop and any changes you want to make should be totally up to you and done for a positive reason. I think you need to wake up and realize that your relationship is a little narrow and male focused. Respect yourself. Have pride in who you are. Set your own boundaries and make your needs know. Stop the strip club nonsense and start building an adult marriage.

Answer 3

Your husband should wake up and smell the roses, he's got what sounds like a nice looking wife who loves him and is willing to stand by his side. My question to you is, Why doesn't he already look at you like he does those other girls? And as far as changing yourself, if you like the way you look and feel good about yourself then that's all that counts. Never change yourself for anyone because you'll only regret it in the long run if things don't work out the way you planned, take it from someone who knows and went through it already.

Answer 4

Instead of looking at yourself look at him. He is a jerk for even asking you to get breast implants. My guess is the nutritionist is so you can gain a little weight to fill out? Work out to add a little muscle?

You are still young. Let your body fill out on its own. If you start changing your natural looks for him or any other man it will never be enough. Change your body for yourself and only yourself.

Ask him why he married you if he likes thick women?

Answer 5

Do not change your body! I predict this marriage to fail!! No offence, but why is your 24 year old working in a strip club? A bar, fine but a strip club. And to change your body now just because you see him "stare"at other women is sad!! You never had a prob. b-4 right. And why is he working at a strip club agian...and "staring" at other woman?? You are just asking for trouble.

Answer 6

Wow you are so young and im sure very sweet .Don't spend all your time worrying what your husband says .He married you just the way you are and he will love you no matter what .Sometimes men see other women bodies and for some reason feel its necessary to tell their wives they wish she looked like that .Just be yourself and love your own body .Don't worry what other people think of your body.

Answer 7

First of all if he is your hubby he should love you for you and not for what you look like.OK what about if you have kids and put on weight will it be bye bye because your body isn't perfect?
If you aren't satisfied with your body you should do something about it but for YOU not for him.do it to make yourself feel good not him. YOU come first.Why did he get together with you in the beginning?
Please wait a while before you make a decision. 18 years old is still young to make drastic changes especially to please someone else.

Answer 8

Your husband is obsessed with your body and doesn't care about YOU. If he really loved you, he wouldn't bother looking at those girls. Even if it does take some time to fully develop, you're perfect just the way you are.

Answer 9

I know you want to please your husband but if you change anything about your body do it because you want to not because your doing it for him. The outcome of taking pills or surgery could be far worst. Besides didn't he like what he seen when he married you unless there's been a drastic change besides the one your wanting to make he should still love you just as you are!

Answer 10

awww...: /
actually theres no problem with that, if you are happy with changing yourself also. he shouldve just shut up. he shouldnt have suggested that, he shouldve just let you make that decision yourself. its always better that way. i mean how would he feel if you tell him to shave his hairy back or wax his butt? lose the paunch or have that much needed botox? fix his schnoz or that hooked nose?


i think your weight is already right, you can even gain a pound or two.
do it only if you feel that you can "get over it" and not make an issue of it afterwards. you may not like the change, and it is painful.