how do i stop hurting myself?

Question

please help me, i dont know what to do anymore, my best friend died and im so depressed. i dont know what else to do

Answer 1

First of all, I am very sorry for the loss of your friend. I know it feels like the whole world just got up and walked out of your life, doesn't it? It hasn't, just a part of it has, one that meant a great deal to you. Do you have anyone at this time that you can talk with on a regular basis? If not, then get one. It will help you grieve for your loss and be able to accept it and move on. A support group is absolutely your best option for now. Not only are you hurting inside but there are others there that are hurting just like you, as well. There are others at group therapy that know what your're going through and know of ways to offer support and help for you too.
Please go and seek out a support group in your area. You don't know how therapeutic talk therapy can be until you have gone to one of these meetings. It's free, and not only will you shed tears but others will be right there with you to help you and they too will shed tears. I am sure your friend would want you to move on and take care of yourself. You are also having I'm sure what is called situational depression and might need the help of a pyschiatrist right now. Call your doctor if you feel like your suicidal or if you feel like your gonna hurt yourself in anyway then call 911 and get help please. I wanna hear back from you to know your okay and gonna be alright. Think of all the good memories you had with this special person. I believe in the spirit world and I think those that have left before us are still with us just in a different way.
Take care of you, and the best of luck to you my friend.

Answer 2

Im not sure how you are hurting your self here, but it seems emotional pain? Death is hard and this is from experience. A girl who I knew from my Highschool died like 3 weeks ago..and its hard and still is. I can imagine how hard it would be if it was a best friend. Something that could help would be to do a blog type thong, and you can keep it personal too, like a journal. Write how you feel each day. You can write about anything...and even his/her death. Think of it as talking to them....hope i helped..e-mail if u need to talk

Answer 3

I am very sorry for your loss, and you need to grieve. Think of the best times you had, how much that person enriched your life and made it better for knowing them. Then, understand that we all hve a certain time on earth before passing on to be in another place. Your friend will always be with you, in your heart and memory, they have not left completely, just in body not in spirit. I suggest you go for grief counseling, that helps a great deal. Pray for your friend and for yourself, prayer is powerful.

Answer 4

You need to speak to a professional right away. Call the info line, 211, they can direct your call to an appropiate person, I have used this often! The person will probably call you right back and talk to you on the phone. The person will ask you all sorts of questions and if needed, direct you to the hospital. Losing someone we love is horrible and no one should have to go through this them selves. Ask yourself this, would your friend approve of you harming yourself? I assume not! Please call 211 and ask to speak to a mental health worker, the worst that will happen is that they help you! Be Safe!

Answer 5

Death is a very selfish emotion. You are sad that your friend passed away, but It was their life that they lost. You can be sad for them becasue they passed away...see the difference..
This should also teach you that life can end in a moment so live life like you only have one day left!
The Truth You Can not Afford to Ignore Any Longer



'What would you do if you had only one week to live?'



When posed with a question like this, our heads

spin with ideas. So many things to see! So many

things to do!



We do not worry about what other people would

think or what would happen if things didn't work out

- we would just do it.



But then REALITY sets in.



If everything goes well, this is not your last week.

You actually have many, many more to come, and

this realization gives you a way out. You can put

everything off until a later date.



The energy and excitement brought to life by

thinking about the question soon fades away.



But what if it did not have to? What if you could

actually keep that drive going strong and, as they

say, seize the day?



It truly is easier than you think.



The Source of the Drive



After accepting the truth, you would be incredibly

driven to make the most of your final days if you

discovered you had just one week left to live.



But why?



Well, the strongest reason would be the limit to

your opportunities. You would know, beyond the

shadow of a doubt, you either go for your goals and

dreams today or



You will never get another chance.



One week - that's it!



If you put anything off, anything at all, you would

never get the chance to do it.



Never!



But your timeline extends much farther, so does

that mean you can not experience the same drive?

Not at all!



You simply have to accept a single truth about life

and you will have all the drive and motivation you

need to get and stay moving.



The Great Dilemma



There is just one problem with this truth.



“People will do most anything in their power to

deny, avoid, and ignore it.”



Even though it is a fact you can never change, and

that it can be the source of an endless supply of

drive, people do all they can to turn away from it.



So it is at this point that I have to ask you to be

open and honest with yourself and your life.



You can not get to the place of endless drive if you

hide from the truth. You have to face reality and let

it help you enjoy a richer, more rewarding life.



Are you ready?



You Have Just One Week Left



We already agreed the person who had just one

week to live would be driven to make the most of

the final days, but the truth is, you are this person.



No, you do not have a single week to live, but the

time you do have is coming to an end just the

same. In the grand scheme of things, you are alive

on this earth for a very short time . . . a very short

time.



And you know it.



Just think back to high school – the times seem to

fly by? Or how about your kids growing up - they

changed from babies to adults in the blink of an

eye.



Life happens so quickly. Before you know it, the

time to do all of the things you have promised

yourself you would do slips away.



Of course, we do not like to think about it.



Instead, we act as if we have forever and a day to

do the things we want to do, and only when it is

too late do we realize our error.



Realizing it before it is too late.



It is Time to Get Moving



Take your goals and visions for the future in mind.

See them as clear as day, full of energy and

excitement.



Now recognize or at least imagine for a moment

that your time to make these things happen is

running out. I understand you have years ahead of

you, but you know, as well as I do that years can

fly by in what seems an instant.



You do not have forever. Time will, as it always

does, run its course and the chance to enjoy the

life you want to live will run away with it.



Do not fear this fact - use it to your advantage.

You can not change it no matter how hard you try,

and so embrace it! Let it drive you toward a better

life.



If you take this message to heart, I guarantee you

will feel a new sense of drive to take advantage of

the time you have now. To make this feeling last for

the rest of your life, I suggest learning more about

motivation and how it actually works. If interested,

just ask me.

good luck and I know you move ahead with a positive attitude!

Answer 6

Alas, bereavement gets us all sooner or later. I have lost several of my 'best friends' over the years and there's nothing you can do except get past it. Life is about getting past things and the process leads to growth.

The circle of life begins at birth and ends at death. Sometimes the end is heartbreakingly premature. As sad as it is you need to attempt to move on as soon as you're ready.

In the immortal words of the late Theodore Seuss "Dr. Seuss" Geisel from El Cajon, California:

"Don't cry because it's over; smile because it happened."

I'm sorry for your loss.

Answer 7

stop making everything about you. it's not about you. i had my best friend die when she was 19! the most pointless death i ever heard of. she was closer than a sister. but you can't make it better by hurting yourself.
i cried myself to sleep every night for a week. and then started feeling guilty when something made me happy. it was very confusing and i was very hurt. but it wasn't about me.
try talking to someone, a parent, a councilor, a friend. you are not going to make the situation better by hurting yourself.

Answer 8

are u depressed or do u cut?well i use to cut and be depressed and i got more involved with schoolstuff and i started talking to new people i now go to a church community thing and they help me alot

Answer 9

one day every person will die , so we can expect it any time
so we don't need to worry about that
we do the right things and pray to the god

Answer 10

hunny bunny ...plz dnt hurt urself PHYSICALLY !!!! PLZ DNT OR STOP IF U HAV ALREADY . if u mean hurt in another way (emotional) then i guess the time will come