2006-11-09 01:01:12 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he doesnt go out with the lads, i aint clingy and give him a lot bof space.. i basically bring up kids who are very happy as he lives at home rent free with his mum!! hes training to be a plumber..
2006-11-09 01:17:45 · update #1
maybe he thinks that having children is the biggest commitment that anyone can make.
He might not see the point of going to all the expense of a 'big day' when so many end in divorce, when you two are happy together bringing up to children together.
2006-11-09 01:03:20 · answer #1 · answered by Heather 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
He's a loser who doesn't know what he has. Seriously some guys are just not cut out for commitment. I have a lot of single girlfriends who have the same problem. They give and give and give their guys take and take and then go have sex with whomever they want. I think what you need to do is forget about him romantically and move on. If you are living together kick his *** out. Be civil for your kids, have a civil and well drawn up plan for where the kids will live, when he gets to see them and all that. But remember this...if you are not happy your kids will not be happy. They don't need to be around all this turmoil. They need a safe, happy, solid home. If that means getting yourself out of a go-nowhere relationship..then so be it. But whatever you decide you have to stick with that. You can't kick him out and then take him back and go back and forth..you have to make a choice and stick to it. Or else your kids will be the ones who are hurt.
2006-11-09 09:07:59 · answer #2 · answered by jmk_jenmarie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hubby and I met in 1995 and we didn't marry until 2003. We had our daughters in 2001 and 2003. I was desperate to get married from quite early on but realized after a few years that I had his committment without a marriage certificate. During those eight years he felt that the relationship we had was strong enough, he had seen so many friends in longterm relationships get married and then divorce as they had done the standard date, couple of years later get married, then have kids, then suddenly stuck in rut and marriage breaks down, then divorce.
We decided to have children first and considered marriage, but did not want to get married just because we had had children. We eventually got married when he just came out and asked me one day, no reason at all, nothing in our relationship had changed, no idea why he did it and since we married, nothing at all has changed, it is exactly the same as before, I just wear a wedding ring and we look back at a fantastic day we had. I actually had my 2nd daughter 5 months before we married.
Really don't worry, if he is still with you after all this time he obviously loves you and one day he may just surprise you and pop the question!!!
2006-11-09 09:17:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you asked him this question? It is a heck of alot easier to end a relationship when you arent married, maybe that is what he is thinking. He can honestly walk whenever he wanted too and nothing to stop him except for a little child support. Maybe he is also comfortable where things are right now, so he is thinking why change them. Sit down and have a serious talk about where to go from here, and if you dont get the answers you want, maybe it is time for you to really sit down and think this relationship over before it does go to the next level.
Good luck
2006-11-09 09:06:49 · answer #4 · answered by slim27 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you two have kids together then you are eternally linked by those kids. But if you mean he won't marry you, why should he?
You give him everything he wants from you without the commitment of marriage so what good will marrying you do him?
You want a marriage? Then start over with a new man, & do it right this time.
2006-11-09 09:06:57 · answer #5 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
8 years? So, when you were 14 you were with a 21 yr old? I think that speaks volumes about him. He should be in jail. You need to move on and not waste anymore time with this guy.
2006-11-09 09:06:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've been together for 8 years and have 2 children with him, how is the guy not committing?
2006-11-09 09:06:22 · answer #7 · answered by tattooedgray 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why should he at this point?? i mean is clear that he is never going to do so, specially if he sees you're willing to put ip with his crap...
Walk away girl, u are still young, i mean training to be a plumber?? Pleasee!!
sorry if the answer seems too harsh
2006-11-09 09:22:54 · answer #8 · answered by Charlie Mejia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for 8 years .. that started off illegal.... If you live together and have kids together and all you really want it a wedding is it really worth the trouble your as good as married in most peoples eyes and as long as hes taking care of you and the kids what is a last name worth.
2006-11-09 09:04:15 · answer #9 · answered by uswitchesthree 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Think on this if you break up once it will not work, really dont think that it will, if he loved you then he would go ahead and marry you, he still wants to play around and not settle, does he go out on boys night often if so get out and find someone that will love you and your children before you to old to have anybody in you life..
Dont mean to be hard but rather have the truth...
2006-11-09 09:05:30 · answer #10 · answered by clinton o 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋