After marriage shud a woman stand strong against her in-laws and husbands wishes and go ahead with her career and also take some interest in home activities or should she give it all up and just be a home manager and keep track of every lil thing happening at home to keep her in-laws and husband happy?
2006-11-09 00:59:29 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
A woman SHOULD do what she wants to with her life. if she wants to maintain her career, then she should.
2006-11-09 01:02:53 · answer #1 · answered by blondie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can't see where the in-laws come into this. It's none of their business. This is something between your husband and you. It seems a shame you didn't discuss and agree upon this before marriage, but since you didn't, you need to make the best of it now for both of you. Is there a compromise situation you can find? Perhaps you can agree on your career for a certain number of years, then give it up. At that time, if you still want to work, maybe you could get a part-time job that would give you the time at home your husband wants as well as the time in the working world that you want. It's hard to give advice, not knowing your motives for wanting to work. Is it truly a career that you love, or is it for the extra money or is it just so that you're not bored at home? The solution depends on the answer to that question. Think hard about it, then try to mold a compromise solution around it.
2006-11-09 09:03:39 · answer #2 · answered by Mary C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll put the BLUF (Bottom Line Up front): Do not give up on your dreams for your marriage/husband/inlaws.
I guarantee you'll regret it. You are a unique person who deserves to have happiness in your life. Having a career and following your dreams does NOT make you selfish or unloving towards your family. If anything, it is selfish of your family to expect you to sacrifice your dreams so they can all have theirs. What are you to do, watch on the sidelines while everyone around you does what they want? As a single mother of two boys I can tell you right now that you can do BOTH. You can keep track of home (and since you have a husband by your side, HE can help!) and achieve your dreams and career.
Sweetie, you need to put your foot down. Let your man know that your marriage is between you and him, not you, him and your inlaws. They don't have a say in the decisions made in your house. It doesn't mean that you don't respect the fact that they raised an awesome man that you love...it just means that they need to quit choking him with the apron strings. get the scissors, honey, and CUT those strings. If you don't do it soon your are going to end up feeling like a prisoner in your own home.
Good luck!
2006-11-09 09:10:27 · answer #3 · answered by dancing_in_the_hail 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should persue your career. Honey, you only live once, so live it up. It's your life live it the way you want to. You shouldn't let people tell you that you should keep track of every little thing that goes on in the house, you should do what makes you happy. You should be able to look back on life and say "Hey, I really did enjoy my life, and I did what made me happy" because if you wait on your in-laws and hubby all the time you are going ot be so unhappy an d miserable the marriage won't last long because you'll get sick of it.
2006-11-09 09:46:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't matter if your married or not. You can't lose by educating yourself in what interests you. The more you look after your self in what makes you a whole person, the further you will go in life. Being a stay at home wife can get boring. Being out socializing with people is the best medicine one can have. We are all different and require different needs to keep us happy. Go with your own instincts, don't worry about what everyone else wants for you. Cocoa
2006-11-09 09:59:09 · answer #5 · answered by cocoa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The in-laws and husband need to back down and let her do what she wishes. If you knew her stance before marriage, why go through it? Don't you want to keep her happy, or should she only make you happy? Why would you be upset if she pursues a career? Dude it's the new Millenium, gotta roll with the times.
2006-11-09 09:03:16 · answer #6 · answered by gnomus12 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I,believe it is a matter of personal conviction. Our current family arrangement where both husband and wife work to earn a living have the positive and negative effects. Here where I come from it is still mostly preferred to have the woman stay at home to do the household chores and takes care of the kids. Which arrangement is better will vary depending on prevailing circumstances.It is your priority and decision and no matter whatever it is. II believe it will be a reasonable one.
2006-11-09 09:13:42 · answer #7 · answered by proelvispresley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A woman has a wright to a career as much a a husband if you can make you husband understand that your in laws should mind there own business.
2006-11-09 09:04:03 · answer #8 · answered by John M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all your husbands parents should not be involved in the decisions that you and your husband make, there job ended when he said i do. so, if this is what you want to do then you need to talk to your HUSBAND and tell him that you would like his support. and that you don't mind his parents advise but its just that advise.you are a grown woman and can make your own decisions. so do it. I'm sure that if it were your parents doing this you would go against what they want if what you were planning was going to make you happy. so, it should be no different with the in-laws.
2006-11-09 20:26:29 · answer #9 · answered by here to help 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband should be concerned about making you happy too!!!!! His parents should have no impact on your life or his at this point. Stand your ground and do what makes you happy. He should be proud that you want to make something of yourself other than being susie homemaker. (No offense to anyone who does stay at home! I am a stay at home mother of 2) If in the future you decide that you want to take on that role THEN is the time. Not now while you are having your doubts.
2006-11-09 09:51:24 · answer #10 · answered by Kerri E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all the in laws would not be anywhere in the decision process. They would be told politely to mind their own business. As for my husband, we would have had this discussion well before we made it to the alter. I personally, enjoy working, I have worked very hard to get myself through college and would not want to give that up. I may consider a compromise and work only part time. However, to be totally dependent upon even my husband would be to much of a sacrifice for me. God bless
2006-11-09 09:03:50 · answer #11 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋