if i change religion, will i forever be doooomed!!!!???????????????????

Question

i am a catholic, but my boyfriend is a protestant. This difference has proved a big problem for us because we intend to marry one day and have children and we both want to be in the same religion, problem is i want him in mine and he wants me in his! i dont know wat to do. What if i do change my religion for him...would i be making a huge mistake? could god ever forgive me? will i go to hell!!!
i honestly feel i'd be going backwards......but i dont want to lose him. He told me he has done many life-changing things just to be with me (like not go to the navy come back to this city instead of studying in another one).......are these reasons enough (i understand he really wanted to do those two, so.. probably it is enough)
although...my change could affect my AFTER life..............................THAT IS WHAT HAS ME SO SCARED..........ans so sad cuz i dont want to lose him!
ps. this question would probably be most understood by a wise catholic person but im takin all opinions :Dthnx

Answer 1

No.

Answer 2

Catholics and Protestants are both Christians. Whether he converts or you convert, you would still be praying to the same God and you would both still believe in Jesus. The only thing that would really change is the incidentals - you kneel to pray, he probably doesn't. You take communion at every mass, he may or may not. You have the incense, unmarried priests and saints. He may have the incense, but that's probably it.

I'm wondering why the two of you feel you have to convert and be either one or the other. I know more than one Catholic who is very happily married to a Protestant. A close friend of mine just had a traditional Catholic ceremony and her husband is absolutely not Catholic but was happy to give her the wedding she wanted. One of my cousins (my family is Protestant and his father is a minister) married a Catholic woman and they've been together over 20 years. Neither of them saw any reason to discuss converting. Why can't you each keep your own religion but agree upon which faith you'll raise your children? Just because you worship Jesus differently doesn't mean you are fundamentally different.

Answer 3

I am protestant, so I advise you to go that way. As I said earlier, the Catholics believe some things that I don't, but I am not a student of that.

Since you know about the Catholic faith and He knows about the protestant (whichever denomination) why not first see what you agree on, and then list what you don't. Sit down together and search for the answers together in the Bible, Gods word. Hopefully, you will find the answers you need.

But the Bible says not to be unequally yolked with unbelievers... and this would go with different beliefs.

You can e mail me from my page and I can give you some specific things I disagree with if you like.

But the wrong faith, could get you in Hell; atheism is one example.

Answer 4

You both trust in Jesus, and that is what determines your eternal life, don't worry.
I was Catholic and became a Protestant.
You both need to understand and respect the other - he needs to respect your beliefs and practices - and then you both turn it over to God if you are going to be together.
There is a couple at our church where he is Catholic and she is Protestant and I admire them because they do rather well. She comes 2-3 time a month and sometimes goes with him, and he does the same. They go to the social events of each church together. It has worked for them for almost 30 years.
The key is to be mature and not judgmental - it can work. Have a loving and accepting mindset - especially if you want to be married. I would say to settle this before you are married as well.

God Bless.

Answer 5

I am a Non-Catholic Christian Woman. I believe to solve your problem, you and your mate need to take time to sit down together and READ the BIBLE. Pray together before reading for Understanding, For the TRUTH to be opened up to the both of you. If you do this with your heart into it, God will show you both where he wants you. And don't be in a rush, take your time. God is not on the same clock as us. Every man/women has their own opinions on what is right and wrong, So advise from us can become overwhelming and very confusing. You both should serperate your selves from all you have been taught by others, and Seek out the Truth with God himself and His word. The bible. Pray for His will in your lives.
God Bless you both and may his truth be opened to your hearts.

Answer 6

Of course God would forgive you. There are many paths to God. The big question is, would you ever be able to reconcile your choice? I think you'd better think long and hard on this one. I think you should both stay in your own religion, and if you are both adult enough, go with each other from time to time. Regarding the children, you know what your church teaches. You must pray about this and be very sure of your choices.

Answer 7

Ma'am, first of all, I don't think you can be doomed forever for changing the denomination.

I don't think that a man who says he has accepted so much for your sake; should be asking you to change your denomination either.

I would also like you to appreciate that you are not changing your faith but merely moving over to another denomination of the same faith.

God, however is far above all these petty things we call human.

Each and every "Religion" has it's rights and wrongs. After all, they are what Man thought he heard God say. And to err is human.

If it is such a vital thing, I'd say - go ahead and make him happy, He will forgive you. For God always loves you.

Answer 8

SLOW DOWN!!!! Religon is a creation of man...God is God..period. God coudl care less if you were protestant or catholic. You're not changing religons. Do you still belivethat Jesus is your savior and lord? That he is number1? If so, you're not going to go to Hell. Catholics might say otherwise, but are they God? Are they Jesus?

but, as for "converting" If you marry this man, then you shoudl convert to HIS beliefs in church. He will be YOUR Husband, head of household ect...If you can't except that, then you two shouldn't get married. Try reading a bible that isn't catholic, and you should find the comfort you are looking for...

Answer 9

I would say the church has you brainwashed. Why would you be doomed for changing religions? I changed religions (because of belief, tho) from Christianity to Judaism.

G-d doesn't care what religion you are, as long as you are a good person, and are comfortable in that religion. You may never be comfortable as a Protestant, tho. If not-------your marriage is in trouble before it starts. I hate to think you are that controlled by the church.

Answer 10

Catholic & Protestant - It's still Christian. They both believe in the same God, they both believe in Jesus Christ. They just have different ways of approaching it. By switching, you or your boyfriend are not going to be changing your key beliefs. You will not be doomed :) If you keep God in your marriage, attend church regularly, and pray for guidance, you will be fine. My advise would be to begin attending different churches together each week. (Catholic, Methodist, Episcopal, etc.) Find a church where you both feel comfortable.

Answer 11

What you are feeling and thinking is the sad end-result of organised religion.

The trouble with any religion is that it will teach that it is the only true religion, and if you don't believe it then you face eternal damnation.

This is because religion is a tool created by humans to exploit other humans, and make them subservient, with the threat that if they do not do as they are told then they will be punished once they die, and the promise that if do they as they are told then they will be rewarded once they die.

It's a very, very clever and devious tool, and I feel sorry for you that you believe such awful things can happen to you when you no longer exist.

May I suggest that you just try and enjoy life.