Ever since the 1st grade my son as been acting up in school. There has been days he is good and then the days he is bad...he is really bad. He has been sent to the principle office twice less then a month for the same behavior. He talks back to the teacher, doesn't listen, or follow directions and walks around in the classroom. He wants to be in control of everything. Not to say for the past two years I feel his teachers are not strong teachers. I do not play with my son when he misbehaves in school. I have put him in football but since the season is over he as gotten worst. I'm a single mom, I work full-time and go to school two days out of the week. The teachers and I have put my son a behavioral program and it didn't matter to him. I have got to the point I don't know what to do and it seems to me the teachers don't know what to do either. Please someone help me with this issue. Thanks
2006-11-09 00:43:43 · 8 answers · asked by Mommy M 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
I"m a single mom here as well. I would say that you really need to start at home. Put him on a strict schedule, when you are with him. If he talks back at home he needs to know thats bad behavior and be punished. if he dosen't listen to you or follow your directions he never will at school. Set up a reward system at home. For every good deed he does at home or everytime he follows directions at home give him a marble in a jar. Everytime he acts up you take away one marble. This way he'll see that acting up has consequences. Have teachers send home a progress report everyday to tell you how his behavior was in school. When its good you reward him with a marble. Let him know that when he earns X amount of marbles he earns a special treat. It can be a new video game, having a sleepover with a friend or even special day with mom. Don't punish him by taking way the time you two spend together. Punish by taking away his favorite toys or no T.V. or video games. Continue being with him by reading or playing a card game. Thats what he needs most. Do not punish him by taking away the time you two play together.
2006-11-09 01:01:31 · answer #1 · answered by foodie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Mommy M,
Your plight is not uncommon with single moms of boys. Boys have different needs than you had growing up as a girl.
Unlike you, they need very clear rules to feel secure and loved. They need to know just exactly how far they can go without breaking the rules. So set the rules a little stricter than what you might actually expect from him. I know this can seem cruel to you but a boy will feel very good and accomplished when he meets the rules. I have no doubt he will surprise you. So give him more rather than less.
Also, boys are very competitive by nature. They need daily challenges. So give him some in the form of chores and projects. He will love you for it.
And most of all, be careful not to penalize him for being a boy. Don't be quick to give in to the teachers that pose as physicians and tell you that he needs medication for ADHD, etc. They have some very selfish interests for this advice.
In the end, just give him what he needs first and the other things will fall into place!
WK
2006-11-09 01:42:57 · answer #2 · answered by olin1963 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's probably acting out because you are not at home very much. He wants attention. Try spending a little more time with him at home. Do some activities with him. He probably just needs a little attention from his mommy. If you are still concerned, take him to a psychologist or counselor. I have a 6 yr old nephew who's doing the exact same thing. He's been doing it since Kindergarten.
2006-11-09 03:07:18 · answer #3 · answered by *T1nk* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try a psychologist. My son had the same problem and was ADHD. Being around large groups of people (classroom) gave him sensory overload and his reaction was to act out.
2006-11-09 00:49:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe there is a good martial arts school in town.
This may help him respect others.
Also, teach him about military school now.
Explain to him that this is were bad kids go.
2006-11-09 05:40:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wellt he best thing to do to your child is gve them a whooping. if they dont stop the first time just whoop them with a switch. then if they dont straighten up just whoop them with a paddle. Belts do work you just got to make them understand why they getting a whooping. Let them know when they do someting bad they going to get a whooping.
2006-11-09 04:01:34 · answer #6 · answered by #22 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you had your son tested for adhd yet? Consider this please also ask to have a woodstock johnson test preformed.
2006-11-09 06:07:12 · answer #7 · answered by kelly r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ground or punish him... it works... just be assertive
2006-11-09 01:31:07 · answer #8 · answered by cutie379 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋