well im just gonna tell yall a little about our relationship. we have been together for 7 months and some days and he has always told me that he wants me to have his kids which basically means in my situation that he wants to marry me because he knows that i dont want to have kids until im married. well i was just doin some snooping around oneday and found all of these messages from another woman and him telling her he doesnt know why they cant get together and on his myspace i found him writing messages to gurls asking them to be his **** buddy and i was so upset when i found out because i dont know if im just a side line chick that hes feeding bull **** to or what but the thing i dont get is i have met his family and they know about me so.................anywayz i confronted him about it and he flipped it and tried to put the lying on me, he thinks i lied to him about what skool i go to, by the way i go to st francis university and he thinks that i go to the high skool so can u help
2006-11-09 00:41:10 · 16 answers · asked by gurl_balla14 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The truth....
Learn a woman's best word.. "NEXT"
You caught him... He lied.... He tried to put it back on you...
What in the world do you need to be put in a situation like this for, if he is cheating online, he has a real potential to cheat IRL, so move on, find a man that worships the ground you walk on, not the sheets you lay on. So many time we hang on to a relationship for the few good things that we like, or think are fun... but we also ignore the hundreds of bad things that keep coming our way... Just do it pros and cons... they should at least be equal if not leaning more to the PRO side.
2006-11-09 00:46:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Okay, don't kill him in real life. Kill him mentally in your head a few hundred times then calm down and think it through.
If he's doing this now, do you think he'll stop in the future? I'd have to say no to that one. He's a player, and like some one else suggested, he's just after the booty. Either from you or one of the other girls he's talking with.
Do you want to have these feelings for the rest of your life? I'd say no to that one too. Kick him, (not literally) aside and to the curb where all good rubbish belongs and move on with your life.
A misunderstanding about schools is really hitting the bottom of the barrel for excuses for his behavior. If that's the excuse now, what little nit-picking excuse is he gonna come up in the future just to start an argument with you? He could always use the one about the color of your nail-polish, that's always been my favorite! lol (And yes, I've actually had that one used on me, something about the laughing I was doing kept me from arguing about it though).
2006-11-09 00:55:11 · answer #2 · answered by Lucianna 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well if both of you are not being honest with eachother, you prolly have your answer right there and dont need to go any further. secondly, why were you snooping?? do you feel you had the right or at least a good enough reason??
if the both of you are telling the other lies, whether big or small, then that has GOT to change or the relationship needs to end. It'll only get worse if things dont change...
2006-11-09 00:46:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
In one instance, he just wants to be needed. He probably thinks that marriage and a baby will better the relationship you have but if it aint half as decent now, it aint gettin no better. Or Secondly, he's just tellin you what you wanna hear in order to have sex how he wants with you (without a condom).
As far as the snooping around, maybe he feels he cant trust, talk, or get enough intimacy with you. So the easiest thing to do is to go to someone who will and make him feel appreciated (in his mind).
On the other hand, he could just be your typical dog who just cant get enough of women.
so depending on what type of guy he is ( you only know), you have to decide if this is person you can see yourself with for eternity.
2006-11-09 00:58:36 · answer #4 · answered by hardworkur84 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
your best bet is to get rid of him. he is insiurie about himself u need need a man who going to make u feel good about ur relationship not rushing u into inseriety. look we all looking for love thsi is just a mist. love comes in so much different way but first u must love ur self before u can another. children is not something to go into likely, u cannot take them back after u have them saying i cannot mange, and it hard work u have no time for urself when this happens then the man leave u alone.
2006-11-09 00:57:01 · answer #5 · answered by pauline s 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Okay...Here is my two cents worth. If you have seen the Myspace page and you can get the proof of it, screen shots and the like, then if you confront him again and he still wiggs out then honestly I would get all done with the realtionship. If he is doing it now then he always will.
2006-11-09 00:45:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
you have been together 7 months and he thinks you go to high school, he should know this already whether you do or dont. My advice is to forget him, hes a player and you can do better than that
2006-11-09 00:44:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dump the lying cheating SOB..ur better off without him..all he wants is sex...he's just saying stuff to influence u to give him what he wants.
2006-11-09 00:44:02 · answer #8 · answered by Colin 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your snooping was bad... Him being a jerk is just as bad...
Split up, best thing all round...
2006-11-09 00:44:27 · answer #9 · answered by Forlorn Hope 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
just get rid of the ****** and get with a guy who treats you the way you deserve to be treated
2006-11-09 00:43:19 · answer #10 · answered by czekoskwigel 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋