My close mate told me 4 months ago that he couldn’t get into a serious r’ship because he hadn’t got over his ex. He said every time he heard from her by email it depressed him. He hadn’t seen her since last Xmas. I told him he needs to move on and he agreed with me. He’s been trying to avoid all contact with her. In between the 4 months ago and now we had good times together.
Now last wk I told him I wanted to take things further between us and he said he only sees me as a m8. We chatted for 40 mins and he only mentioned his ex once because he wasn’t over her. Towards the end of the call I ask if there was a chance he and his ex would get back together and he said there is a slight possibility. He didn’t bring this subject up himself at all. I asked if he was still in touch with her, he said only now and again.
My question is, is he making up the fact that he might be getting back with his ex to make me back off? because he didn’t tell me this right from the beginning of the call.
2006-11-09 00:39:55 · 5 answers · asked by Peter W 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's told you directly that he only sees you as a mate. Maybe if he feels pressured he may make up a story about his ex to put you off a little bit more. Who knows?
Take the hint - he isn't interested in you. So, get out there and find someone who is. That's what you really want, isn't it? Someone who wants you as much as you want them. There is someone who is right for you. Good luck.
2006-11-09 00:52:01 · answer #1 · answered by Sun is Shining ❂ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You obviously have a close relationship with your friend.He also obviously has a lot of respect for your feelings enough to not go into a relationship with the dark cloud that's still on the horizon.He wont commit to you while he has feelings for anybody else and you will thank him for that in the long run.He could never be 100% with you and that isn't fair on either of you.His ex isn't helping his esteem either by emailing him.You obviously have a good thing so I think you should play the waiting game if hes worth waiting for if only to work his ex out of his system.If it is meant to be he will come around.Its probably that he cant see you for who you are with his ex blocking his view but whatever you decide you cant go into a relationship with a person with emotional baggage.
2006-11-09 08:58:02 · answer #2 · answered by egg chaser 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he says he only sees you as a M8 he only sees you as a M8. Be a M8, hope he changes his mind and in the meantime find somenone else. BTW are you a guy? Maybe the name Peter is putting him off a little?
2006-11-09 08:43:58 · answer #3 · answered by MI5 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not only a chance they will get together - it's the fact that he is still stuck on her. After all this time, if he is still mulling over his feelings - he can't get over her.
Take some time off from him - don't tell him - just distance yourself for a couple weeks - see if he comes back. The old saying "if you love something set it free...." comes to mind.
2006-11-09 08:43:23 · answer #4 · answered by Been there 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
guys mostly say what they think if he wanted something from you he would tell you. the girl before me said be a m8 that's right be it maybe later it will happen what you want
2006-11-09 08:52:24 · answer #5 · answered by clair 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋