Ok....three months ago, I moved in my internet boyfriend of over a year.
He says he loves me...all that stuff. Yet, he never wants to be intimate....despite the fact that he likes to view p*rn and chat with women about s*x online.
On the upside, he does work really hard and is thoughtful in other ways.
Basically, though....I just feel sorry for him....cause I know he has nowhere else to go...and other than his parents....no one who really cares much about him.
What to do?
2006-11-09 00:32:25 · 21 answers · asked by treefrog 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Move out again... you are too valuable to waste.
2006-11-09 00:41:25 · answer #1 · answered by McDreamy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, sounds like a really weird situation. Basically a nice guy though? Maybe there are some underlying issues like impotency or something else that he is afraid to discuss. I would recommend going to the library and doing a magazine search. Find an old issue or two that have a good article on such topics and others, with of course the subject matter on the cover, check them out, and bring them home and leave them where he might see them. This is just for starters....it will hopefully open up a discussion. Could it be a religious issue for him? Otherwise he's a good guy, a possible keeper?
2006-11-09 08:45:50 · answer #2 · answered by carrieinmich 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As much as you probably dont want to, you'll have to sit him down and say how unhappy you are in the relationship, and talk with him about the problems you are having. It might be best for you to leave, as talking to other omwne online about sex is not really boyfriend material. Find someplace you can stay for a week and move out for that period after talking with him. Then depending on how you feel being away from him, and how he feels, you should be able to leave completly. Just be careful, as sometimes people can get too attached and it can lead to bad things. Make sure you really talk it out first. Hope that helps
Dan
2006-11-09 08:36:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to knock the BS off! I don't think I could be with someone who wasn't intimate with me. That is part of my needs.
Taking pity or feeling sorry for him is not a good reason to keep him around. If he's a grown a s s man then he can find his own way back to his parents house. If anything you should be disgusted enough to get rid of him.
2006-11-09 08:36:39 · answer #4 · answered by Luv My Corgi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, whoever said that it was your respinsibility to take care of the needy.. dont get caught up in a relationship built on pity or sympathy. Are you willing to trade your happiness so that some jerk can feel safe and have a place to crash while he's ignoring your needs and spends his extra time ticklin the keyboard chatting with other girls????
TOSS HIM OUT!
2006-11-09 08:36:39 · answer #5 · answered by Jonny B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be STRAIGHT with him, leaving no doubt in that immature, obnoxious, pea brain head of his that you're NOT interested and that you REALLY do mean it! Not that you need to tell him he's a "pea brain". That goes without saying. Be as considerate to his feelings as you possibly can, BUT BE FIRM, BE SERIOUS, MEAN IT. With the low level of intelligence he's dispaying, at this time in his life regarding his foolish antics, it's not real likely he'll woo any young lady any time soon. If this young man put as much effort into his studies as he puts in to vying for your attention, he would be quite smart and above all of this. I would avoid eating any food, candy, whatever he offers. You might consider discussing this situation with your parents, as I'm getting the feeling this issue has no doubt been left to drag on for tooo long. If you feel at all bullied OR harrassed and feel like you can't "make it stop", that could be a red flag waving that it's time to go to your school's Teacher, Counselor and/or Principal. You're at school to learn. Y'all sound like you've got a few years left in school. You've got plenty of time to meet a REAL prince, the humbler, gentler type. You're too smart to settle for anything less. Now,...take care of business so you can breathe in and breathe out.
2006-11-09 08:36:07 · answer #6 · answered by GLADIATOR 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put him out. Say this is not working for me, I'm sorry. There is a reason nobody likes him. and why would he continue to spend so much time online when he has a real life girlfriend right there?
2006-11-09 08:36:08 · answer #7 · answered by melouofs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes using u for a place to live
2006-11-09 08:34:46 · answer #8 · answered by native,pride 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has no interest in sex that answers any questions that you may have about sex, and why he was on the computer so much. Just be honest with him. Let him know that you don't feel that it is working out. Simple as that. Good Luck.
2006-11-09 08:36:10 · answer #9 · answered by winona e 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
is he your boyfriend or a guy just living with you? You need to decided with him, what the boundaries are..I would think if he moved in he would be your boyfriend, maybe he doesn't think so. Talk to him, and if he is just a friend, then I say let him move back to his parents.
2006-11-09 08:34:46 · answer #10 · answered by Becca P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to get rid of him I recommend to leave ASAP, however you're not going to change him obviously. If you need to know why he acts the way he does I recommend listening to Tom Leykis, if you're not familiar with him check out www.blowmeuptom.com
2006-11-09 08:39:08 · answer #11 · answered by Jeremy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋