What do you think of 3 kids? Anyone for or against - any reasons?

Question

Hi girls,

I have 2 beautiful boys aged 7 & 2. I have this obsession about having 3 kids but everyone around me think they can't cope with 2. I love kids, I know they are a lot of work but I just want to find out:

1. Who has 3 kids, and why did you decide to have 3?
2. How do you find being a mother of 3? Is it costly & exhausting?
3. Would you recommend 3 to anyone who want that?
4. Who couldn't have 3 and why?

Thanks girls for your help

Answer 1

Big families are wonderful.

1. I have three but my sisters have 4 each. We love children and family life.

2. It is both costly and exhausting but the rewards are far greater for both parents and children.

3. Anyone who wants 3 children should have them. (assuming they will be cared for properly)

Anyone who would never think of having three-- that is fine. I find a lot of people judge large families as negative.

Answer 2

we have 6 kids!!

1. Who has 3 kids, and why did you decide to have 3? As I said we have 6. We decided to have 6 because DH and I both wanted a large family.

2. How do you find being a mother of 3? Is it costly & exhausting? Costly? of course it is. The more you have the more it costs, LOL same goes for the exhausting part. But we love it and wouldnt change it for anything. I have over the years really learned how to organize and manage my time and can squeeze in a daily nap, which for me is much needed.

3. Would you recommend 3 to anyone who want that? No, not if I felt someone couldnt handle 3. Do you want 3 because you think it will complete your family? Or do you want 3 just because of the obsession? Why does your family feel that you arent capable of 3?

4. Who couldn't have 3 and why? N/A

Answer 3

I would LOVE TO HAVE 3 CHILDREN TOO!!!! I have wanted 3 children since I was little and playing with baby dolls!

3 just seems like a good number to me and it has always been my "least" number, because I think a big family is a blessing, so I would have 6 or 7 children if God would allow!

I think that whether you have 1, 2, 3, or 6 the rewards are so much greater than the exhaustion, finances, etc. And just think, the more you have, the greater the blessing of grandbabies when you're older, the bigger the dinners, the more fun the family trips are, and they will always have each other!

I am totally against 1 child, because I always ask the question, "Who will they have, when the parents are gone." I think having multiple brothers and sisters is a wonderful experience for both children and adults! Most people who have convinced themselves that they could not "cope" with the idea of multiple children, in reality have dreams of fancy trips, new cars, renovated homes, and financial freedoms. Now, there is nothing wrong with that, but the bible does say "Be fruitful and multiply!"
The upgraded lifestyles can wait!

Say alllll that to say, HAVE 3!!!!!!!!!! And after the 3rd if you are still feeling your motherly juices flowing, have 4 why dontcha! : )

Answer 4

I have 3 kids. 2 girls that I gave birth to, ages 10 and 12 and a 14 year old boy that I have guardianship of. I would have had more if my husband had wanted to however he didn't so I got a tubal ligation. Alot of people say having only one child is bad because they are spoiled, 2 is bad because the oldest is the role model and yet does everything wrong where as the youngest is the baby and does no wrong. 3 because you seem to forget about the middle child. I don't believe any of this! I look at my kids through the same eyes everyday! I think if you can afford children then have them. I dont just mean financially either. I mean emotionally also. money isn't everything in the world. Kids are wonderful gifts that are given to you. The more you have the more love you have to give so do whats in your heart!

Answer 5

We have three boys 8/5/3. The third pregnancy was very unplanned. I was not very happy about it, at the time because I was very stressed and we did not have a lot of money. I can't imagine my life without all three of my boys. There is a lot more stress but I felt it was harder going from 1 to 2 then 2 to 3. Just be ready to answer the question Are you going for a girl? or Will you have number 4 if this one is a boy too?

Answer 6

I may like to have 3 in the future - it depends on how things go. I have 1 now. Just because no one else around you wants 3, it doesn't mean you have to feel like you shouldn't have them. You seem like you are the type of person who wants them, and doesn't mind the hard work it takes. I come from a family of 5 kids, so 3 is normal to me. A lot of people in my extended family have more than 2 kids. I don't see anything wrong with it. If that's what you want, that's all that matters!

Answer 7

I dont have children but I dont like the idea of 3...I like the even numbers.

I always thought that one would be left out. The first two bond cause they have been together for a while but then when the 3rd comes along he/she is the youngest and at the time the oldest if off trying to discoverer themselves and do their thing so the attention from the oldest isnt there and then the middle child may develop a complex. I could be totally wrong and your children could get along great but personally I would do 2 or 4.

Answer 8

i am only 23 and i have 1, and 1 on the way and three step kids, and u know what, me and my husband r planning on having 1 more after this one, so as u can tell i am all for a big family. i think being a mother of alot of kids is exhausting, but its worth it. out of all my children my 4 year daughter is by far the most exhausting she has a temper like u wouldnt beleave. all my other kids r pretty calm and listen very well. but there is always a wild one out of the group, and she happens to be it. i would reccomend to anyone to have atleast 3, i came from a big family and it was nice having other siblings to play with.

Answer 9

If you can afford more children, can give ALL your children the attention they need, and the Love they deserve, and you have enough patience for more children, then I say, Go for it! I've got nine, and Love them ALL with ALL my heart and they Love me. I enjoy having all my kids around. There's never a dull moment. The older ones can help with the younger ones and the older ones learn patience by seeing how I treat the younger ones when they mess up. The younger ones learn from the older ones. Everybody helps everyone else. We're a team and they all know it, and show it. I do sleep like a rock at night because they do wear me out but in a good way. Besides, once you have 2, the more the merrier.

Answer 10

well. i have an 11 month old son. i had always thought that i would plan to have two and if a third happened, that would be okay. after he was born, i was so freaking happy that i just wanted to have as many kids as i could. i've calmed down a bit since then and have become a little more realistic about it. it would be difficult to take care of multiple children, especially if they're all young.....and expensive. but, i could still see having 3. i'm at a point now where i'll just see what happens. i'm not a big fan of birth control anyway. i don't like the hormones.