ok, there is this girl that I am thinking about dating but I like to take everything into consideration. The BIGGEST there is, is that my father is partly racist. The girl I am thinking about dating is black (I am white). But I don't live with my father but he likes to keep up with my girlfriends. Should I continue to go date her or try not to set off my dad and not date her? And please don't call my dad any names, I do love him for he is my father.
2006-11-09 00:28:39 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Well, all most everyone want to make their parents happy. But sometimes it take you being happy first (and possibly for a little while longer) and then your parents will become happy with you. Mainly when they see that you are indeed happy. Because most parents are like how can I not be happy for them if they are truly happy? But it does and will take time. So you will have to be very strong, patient, and understanding. So if you are serious about this girl then yeah go for it. And you and you Dad can and will need to talk about things. And do talk to him tell him straight up from the beginning and maybe before and let him know what your fixing to do. Just make sure you don't leave him in the dark to find out on his own. That cold be bad. But if your not really serious about this girl and you really don't think it will work between y'all (because of y'all not because of all the hard times people will give you because of y'alls race) then don't do it. Best wishes on this and I hope it works out for you both!!
2006-11-09 01:21:03 · answer #1 · answered by dixie011406 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right to love your father but presumably if you are old enough to date you are old enough to have your own views on who to date. This is not marriage or a life time commitment at this stage so go on the date if you and she want and tell your father you love and respect him but who you date is your decision
good luck
2006-11-09 08:40:54 · answer #2 · answered by mombro 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to follow in your dad's footprints. His opinions about people are just that: his opinion. You have a right to choose who you want to be with, whether or not your dad approves. Who knows? People change and maybe his ideas will change about your girlfriend over time, but don't press the issue. BUT, she has a right to know this about your dad, just in case she can't handle it, OK? You tell her you like her and that your dad has his own opinion on racial issues and you have yours.
2006-11-09 08:57:05 · answer #3 · answered by Lisa T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand he is your father and as far as that goes i know what your saying, but look you like this girl and she likes you so your dad should stay out of it and racism isn't going to get him far. so i say go for it
2006-11-09 08:36:24 · answer #4 · answered by whay i lost my ?s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes date with her, it's your life that you have, and your father doesn't control you, tell him to respect what you like
2006-11-09 10:24:15 · answer #5 · answered by DlanYer D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋