This isn't my problem, but was asked by one of my aunts... Her son is 11 years old and will be 12 in April. She received an email from a 14 year old girl, which she forwarded to us to help her out with her problem. The 14 year old girl insists that she's in love with my 11 yr old cousin and is doing the whole "let me prove it to you" bit. Now, seriously, 3 years isn't a big difference when you're an adult, but it's a huge difference at that age. How should she approach this girl and get it through to her that my cousin is too young to have a girlfriend of any kind? She doesn't want to be mean, but she also doesn't want Z to be "dating" some 14 year old girl.
2006-11-09 00:20:44 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
The email was sent to my aunt from the girl.
Also, sorry for putting this question in this category. I was sure I had placed it in the family and relationships section, but I guess not.
2006-11-09 00:33:32 · update #1
I would email the 14 yr old back and kindly say "this is Z's mother and at this time he is not allowed to date. So please respect our decision at this time and just settle for being friends." And if that don't work, I would take the emails to her parents and have a talk with them.
2006-11-09 00:30:36 · answer #1 · answered by btyboo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow ... I would say it would depend on how the boy feels?
You can't really go off and speak to the girl and tell her that you don't want her seeing your son if the son is interested and is going to want to get together with the girl.
I think your aunt should be speaking to her son and I mean REALLY talking. I'm presuming he has had the 'sex talk'?
Your aunt should try to make sure she has a close relationship with her son so that she can explain to him that it is not a good idea for him to be seeing/dating a 14 year old girl and let him email the girl back to say that he really isn't interested.
IF by chance he is interested maybe your aunt could ask him to wait 6 months and see if he feels any different. By then either he or the girl may have changed their minds????
Lol - I really don't know what the answer is, but I think this is how I would handle the situation. I have a 13 year old son who has girls who are friends but he is not at all interested in girls as girlfriends yet. But then he is a shy sort of kid.
Good luck to your aunt!
2006-11-09 08:28:56 · answer #2 · answered by Libbypeace 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to say something to the lil girl... No way in heck I am letting my child at 11 date... She needs to tell her if she keeps persisting the boy that she will let the lil girls parents know... Plus the part where she says let me prove it... Oh heck naw... Now she's talking about having sex with the lil boy or something of that nature... If your aunt doesn't feel comfortable with going to the girls parents go to the school counselor... Let her talk to the girl and to the girls parents... Sometimes it saves drama... If you don't say nothing or do anything this lil girl will be persistant and your nephew may do something he gonna regret later... Tell your aunti I feel for her and good luck... Lawdy Lawdy Lawdy... Lil girls these days... umm umm umm...
2006-11-09 09:55:55 · answer #3 · answered by SweetOne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with visionsof, go see her parents and if they don't care, try in some way to keep her away from him (hopefully he does not return her feelings). But what I am worried about is - are they sure it is a girl? This is how sexual predators bait their victims. You hear about it all the time on how they pretend to be someone else on the computer.
2006-11-09 08:32:57 · answer #4 · answered by Doreen R 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
email back and just say stay away, but omg girls use guys for that sometimes too! how awesome..i wish there were more girls my age like that.
But cmon he's 11 and you wont let him date? i understand not allowing sex at that age, but dating is a good social bonding, and learning new processes and things in life. give him the chance to socialize with women, as long as there is no sex..
2006-11-09 08:29:31 · answer #5 · answered by §†reet R¥dA 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
His parents need to approach her parents and make it clear what is going on. Let them know this is unacceptable. Her parents just may be shocked at what she is doing. If the parents are the kind that don't care, well, then his parents will have to trust him to not make a stupid decision at such an early age.
2006-11-09 08:28:00 · answer #6 · answered by visionsofforever 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am 13 and my new birthday Sept 22, 2014 14-year-old
2014-07-14 13:02:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you people ask Z what he wants
and before all of you got involve like you are on Jerry or Maury
get him to invite the girl over and see what ind of girl she is
(be nice) before you guys do have her come over talktoZ
explain to him that he is so young that it willbe best if they are friend for now
2006-11-09 08:32:17 · answer #8 · answered by waiting for baby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she can't .. was the email addressed to her??? if it wasn't there is nothing she can do .. if it was then she can politely tell the young girl that he is not to date until he is 15 she will get bored of waiting and find someone else..
2006-11-09 08:25:04 · answer #9 · answered by mum 2 Cameron and Ewan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kick that *** girl 14!!!! 11!!! oh no kick her *** peace
2006-11-09 08:30:04 · answer #10 · answered by Terry G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋