Single Mums.......?

Question

Dear Mums...

Have any of you got pregnant after you and your man split up?

And does it bring you closer together once the baby is born?

I'M NOT PREGNANT AND NOT GETTING PREGNANT.... IT'S JUST SOME FRIENDLY ADVICE AS MY FRIENDS EX IS PREGNANT WITH HIS KID

Answer 1

DONT THINK THAT GETTING PREGNANT WILL WIN BACK YOUR MAN...IF YOU DO YOU ARE IN CLOUD CUCKOO LAND...A BABY SHOULD BE THOUGHT THROUGH AND LOVED WHEN ONCE HERE...NOT USED AS A PAWN FOR YOU TO TRY AND TRAP A MAN WHO DOES NOT WANT YOU....A CHILD'S FOR LIFE NOT JUST FOR CHRISTMAS

Answer 2

it may bring u closer together to begin with, but the reasons u broke up in the first place are still there. Babies are stressful and take a lot of commitment, it is more of a struggle to be a couple after having a child than before. a baby can never fix a relationship, it may distract from the problems for a short time but that is all. there is a reason you have broken up, think first before involving a baby into a relationship that obviously wasnt functioning properly before a child was added into the mix.
I am a single mum and it is possible and also enjoyable being a single parent, rather than an unhappy parent that is part of a couple.

Answer 3

You have to have a extremely strong relationship to stay together while bringing a baby up,
It is such a stressful time, been up all night the baby screaming and crying all day me and my hubby were constantly shouting at each other as we were both so tired, then the other aspect is that you will no longer have as much time for your partner to spend doing you know what that will make him feel not wanted.

plus would you want a man to come back to you just because you were having his child even though he wouldnt come back without it, I think not it surely wouldn't last he should be there because he wants to be with you.
Basically if the man doesn't love you enough in the first place then the added strain of no sex, tiredness irritablility will just make him run a mile and not look back,
your kidding your self if you think having a baby will save a relationship, it just won't trust me just look at the statistics, look at all those mothers living off benefits having baby after baby with all different fathers hoping that this guy will stick around!

First you have to establish a loving stable relationship with someone, discuss having a child then if you both feel ready go for it.
obviously even the best relationships don't come out the other side as mine didn't and i was left a single mum to bring up my son till he was five, its hard trying to keep a good job and bring up a baby with no help but now i am happly married and things are rosy.
Some men just aren't cut out for responsibility

Answer 4

you ask "got pregnant after you split up" does that mean that you have slept together since you split....
does a baby bring you closer after its born ... how could you ask that question, a baby is not the answer to problems in a relationship, and a baby does not always bring the partner back, an if it did would it be for the right reasons..... in my experience love NO ,,, we planned our baby or so i thought, but after being pregnant for 3 months he left me without a word, its now13 years on an me an my kid are just fine

Answer 5

please don't be thinking of using a kid to get back or closer to a man

sleeping with the ex?

not a good idea..

don't wanna sound hard, but unprotected sex is bad enough, never mind the diseases but if u are old enough to be having sex then u are old enough to know u can get pregnant..
are u?
did u want this to happen.

i'm a single mom, my son is 8, and it's not easy...

a kid is for life, not to reunite a broken relationship...

bringing up a kid is a vocation, and it doesn't stop when the "baby" grows up!

whatever ur situation i really wish u all the best in the world! :)

Answer 6

There is alot to factor in when bringing a child into the world unwed. How the people feel about one another and if the child was planned and wanted by both people involved. I defiantly would have to say that it doesn't bring you two together if the child wasn't planned and your relationship with the man is not so good.

Answer 7

No, it was while we were together. We did split up later though, I think it would've happened eventually, but the baby kinda hurrried it up. I realized he's not the type of person to care about being a dad, and I'd rather be with someone who is, or better off on my own. So it did tear us apart, but it is definitely for the better.

Answer 8

I am sure lot of us have , but don't base your situation on us getting close , how close do you want if you are having a baby together,you should be close, you split up for what reason ,the main thing is that he takes care of his responsibility, you can only make him do one thing and that is take care of his child, let's hope with the baby coming he does the right thing

Answer 9

Sorry if you or a friend is but it makes it worse, it brings you close for a short while then the trouble starts.... But hay we all different and who knows no one can really judge on this as you are gonna have a lot of different views..

Good luck either way!!

Answer 10

In some couple it brings them together more, in most it tears them apart irreversibly. Out of the ones that got brought together, most will tear apart within 2 years.

Answer 11

having a mans baby your not with amy more hurts like hell, once you finish with a man you can move on and try your hardest to forget them, but if you've got his child its not as easy.
think about the future of the child and your pals happiness, sometimes the best option is to cut your losses.