he never calls me, i always call him, he doesnt ask me how i'm feeling, i've been with him for over a year and he thinks he can walk all over me there are alot of other things he wont do for me that i always do for him and alot of things he does do that i wish he wudnt, i dont no how to talk to him about it eith causing an argument..........
2006-11-09 00:06:36 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
try again to talk to him, if he doesn't want to or doesn't listen to what you have to say, why would you want to stay?
You can do better, he'll soon relies that.
2006-11-09 00:10:24 · answer #1 · answered by Heather 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart, I think you might need to get a new boyfriend. This one, however much you may like him or however well he treats you when you are together, is taking you for granted. Communicatuion is essential in making a relationship work and there is no reciprocity on his part. If you're making all the effort, what is he really contributing to the relationship? If and when you do talk to him, yes, there will be an argument. You're just gonna have to tough that one out. If he starts yelling, just talk in the same voice you were. At least get your voice and opinions out there to be heard. I PROMISE, this will, in the very least, make you feel better.
2006-11-09 00:12:26 · answer #2 · answered by Marcia 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Try NOT calling him, try NOT doing those things that you always do for him....... and see what happens. If he doesnt call you, then he's not interested, is he?
You dont FEEL like your bf is taking you for granted.... you KNOW he is! But you are letting him.
If you cant talk reasonably to your bf about your feelings without causing any argument then, in my opinion, you dont have much of a relationship.
2006-11-09 00:39:32 · answer #3 · answered by Caroline 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Some guys dont know how to take care a lady. Talk to him about it, he should be calling u, asking how u are, buying things for u, taking u out, even words of endearment is lovely when the money is not there. you understand with him, from things he says . dont just leave him Communicate, talk to him, if no changes is made you know he is not interested in u.
2006-11-09 00:20:32 · answer #4 · answered by Jecs O 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like your not happy. I have learnt you cant change men - they are how they are. So you need to decide whether you can live with him how he is - or if you would be happier with someone else.
If you think talking to him about things which make you happy or unhappy are going to cause an arguement - then he really isn't worth it - any decent b'friend would want to know that stuff.
You can do better than him - you just need to find the strength to walk away. Trust me - there are men out there who are willing to take the time to get to know you, your likes, your dislikes. He obviously isn't one of them. He sounds very selfish.
2006-11-09 00:16:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
My dear, you have not been reading the signs on the wall. He doesn't love you. Love is reciporcal. However, you have to tell him about the way you feel and how you would like him to improve on the relationship. Dont be scared about it turning into argument because it would turn to an argument if you argue with him. But you should try to discuss with him on how your relationship needs some little love and attention. And if he decides to stick to his behaviour. You have no future with him and I guess you have to leave. because this loop-sided affairr will only bring you hated, resentment and depression.
2006-11-09 00:43:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Its one of two things:1. Walk away and dont look back. Otherwise, you'll end up losing your self worth and confidence. He doesnt value you at all.I understand how you feeling though. 2. Be more confident and assertive by only doing what you can for him not everything that he asks for. Have more time for yourself and dont be clingy. And also tell him very firmly the things that you dont like him doing. Basically, have self esteem, it makes people notice you and feel your presence
2006-11-09 00:41:04 · answer #7 · answered by missb 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The guy seem like a **** to me. If you really love him, you need to sit down a chat to him, without getting angry (both of you). The longer you put it off, the longer he'll be walking over you.
If you think theres no point in carrying on like this, stop calling him and see how long it takes for the **** to call you.
2006-11-09 00:13:38 · answer #8 · answered by JJ London 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you feel like hes taking you for granted then he probably is. You've made the 1st step by assessing your relationship. Give hiom an ultimatum to change or pack up and ship out. You deserve better hun. No man should make you feel like that.
2006-11-09 00:11:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Most important thing to do is tell him how u feel...dont beat around the bush..tell him exactly how you feel..how his actions are making you feel. If he says you are overreacting, or denies any of this or doesnt change then you need to move on. A relationship should help make you feel good about yourself and the relationship(course you should already feel good about yourself before being in a relationship!!) not feel terrible. Life is to short to have someone in your life that is making you miserable!!!
2006-11-09 00:18:27 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
u better show him that u are there
and if he don't call u.wait for 2 or 3 day without calling him
and seen if he will.if he don't it mean he don't really care about u
and all u need to do is to be very strong and put in ur head that u have a long life infront of u.
2006-11-09 00:22:42 · answer #11 · answered by jojo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋