What do i do about my bridesmaids??

Question

I have 6-7 bridesmaids that all of a sudded come up with these unforseen expences and now cant seem to afford their dress. they have to be paid for b4 ordering them and they have to be ordered b4 the middle of this month and I cant afford to pay for theirs on top of my 1,300 dress. HELP how do i solve this problem easily and without making people mad!!! the dresses are 150.00 a piece and they are from davids bridal... .I havent had any luck finding them anywhere else!!!

Well i never said that i would pay for their dresses when we went in to try the dresses on they all knew how much they were and they all said that was fine and they can afford it and to be honest there are only two of my bridesmaids that i KNOW seriously have problems that they cant help and i understand that but Everyone knew in advance and everyone loved the dresses They were beautiful and none of us liked them untill we put them on Im trying to find them from a cheaper place but im not sure i have time!!! do any of you know where i can order dresses from davids bridal from a consignment shop or a store that does copys?

Answer 1

Why don't they sign up for a David's Bridal Credit Card and put it on that. Then they can pay for it over time. I had a couple of bridesmaids that did that.

Or you are going to have to go with different dresses. But that seems like a hassle if you deadline is coming up, it must mean your wedding is too.

Answer 2

I'm confused. The price range of the dresses should have been discussed months before the ordering deadline. Either this wasn't done or something has changed.

You only have a couple of options at this point in the game. You can tell your current bridesmaids that under the circumstances you can appreciate their problems, but you can't change your plans and change the bridesmaids instead. I would NOT suggest doing that, for more reasons that I care to list.

Realize that the bridesmaids are having money problems and they can't find a nice way to tell you. Your wedding day is exactly that, YOUR day. It should be about sharing your joy with friends and family, not about dresses. Get all your bridesmaids together and have an honest discussion. It's not just the cost of the dress, it's the shoes, proper undergarments, accessories, etc.

A $150 dress can easily run into a $300 outfit without really trying. While it is late, you can still fix the problem. Find out how much they can afford and find a dress that fits into their budget. You have to decide what is more important; the dress that you dreamed your bridesmaids to be wearing, or the bridesmaids in them?

It's an ugly situation and it's unfair that you've been put there, but now it's up to you to handle it. Don't stress it too much, just be confident that you can find a solution.

Good Luck and Congratulations!

Answer 3

I hate to say it but you will either have to pick new bridesmaids, pick an affordable dress, cut down on the number of bridesmaids so you can buy the dresses or ask family members if they can help. Ask your bridesmaids what they can afford. They may not have been aware of the fact that they would have to pay for their dresses. Keep in mind that they will also have to get shoes and anything else. The bridesmaid is also supposed to give you your bachelorette party too. If expenses are a problem, you may not get the things you are expecting. No one should be mad. It's your wedding and they should understand if you have to change or omit them. There are other things some of them could do and not have to purchase a dress. Congratulations and good luck.

Answer 4

Unless you have your heart set on the dress...I'd try www.netbride.com

I had my bridesmaids order their dresses from their. We picked out a dress from Mori Lee that was $160 at the bridal stores and we paid $80 from Netbride. I don't know if you've ever heard of www.theknot.com, it's a wedding planning website, but netbride comes highly recommended from there. I had no problems getting my dresses and they were perfect when they arrived. Lots cheaper and tons easier to work with than David's Bridal. All of the David's around here (burbs of Detroit, MI) get bad reviews for service!

Good luck! That's horrible that they are putting you through this...

Answer 5

This sucks, trying to find a cheaper bridesmaid dress is going to be hard, my bridemaid desses were $$250. I think you need to talk to your girls and let them know that you have to have the dresses ordered by this month and if they can't afford it maybe you guys can go in halfers... I know you say that you can't afford them, but it is your wedding and if you really want these girls in your wedding wearing the dresses then you have to give a little. Use your credit card. If worse comes to worse, go to a dillards,or macys and have everyone wear a formal gown, they are cheaper there. Your going to pay the big bucks from a wedding store because the prices are higer for wedding stuff. If money is the big issue you should try for regular nice dresses from a regular store not a wedding store. GL

Answer 6

OK i had the exact same problem, but atleast urs told u they couldnt afford it....mine didnt tell me but told others and then planned to not wear it at all on the day of and just not tell me. this is what u need to do and what i did when i found this out....pull them all aside talk to them and tell them that $150 is really cheap for a dress that they can wear again....u cant find a dress for cheaper than that anywhwere really. and if they choose not to do it. tell them thats fine just dont be a bridesmaid. this is ridiculous esp since this was already discussed months ago and now they cant afford it...dont worry and try not to be mad...ur friends are jealous and selfish. put ur foot down and tell them to find a way or get the hell out.

Answer 7

You have picked perfectly priced dresses from a very reputable business. Your bridesmaids need to cough up the dough and understand that you will be doing the same at their weddings, if you haven't already before.

You need to be frank and honest with them. If they are good enough friends to be bridesmaids, then you should be able to tell them (nicely) that this is breaking your heart, causing you stress, and you aren't sure why they didn't talk to you about their finances sooner.

If they are still "butts" about it, cut them. You don't need that kind of drama on your wedding day.

Or, find a backer. Can your parents foot the bill? I doubt your friends will skip out on paying your father when he comes knocking at their doors.

This is your day, not your friends'. I hope this all works out in the end. They are your friends -- they will come through.

~Susie

Answer 8

does the whole amount have to be paid - or just a part deposit?
if the whole amount has to be paid beforehand then were the girls aware of this?
it seems a bit odd that ALL of your girls are having financial problems at the same time
how many attendants are you actually planning on having when you say 6-7 now cant afford the cost.
when is your wedding??
maybe you can find something similar that you can buy off the rack without it having to be ordered & that is a little cheaper
there are all sorts of options open to you to sort this out

Answer 9

Change the style and don't order from David's Bridal. Try ebay or local consignment shops (much cheaper) . Cut down on the number of bridesmaids (whoever can support theirself financially would be the choice).
Good-Luck

Answer 10

First of all, 6 or 7 bridesmaids are not required.
A large bridal party ALWAYS increases the expense of wedding.

Cut down on the number of bridesmaids to a more realistic number for your budget and include the ones that are willing to pay for their gown.