What do i do about my bridesmaids??

Question

I have 6-7 bridesmaids that all of a sudded come up with these unforseen expences and now cant seem to afford their dress. they have to be paid for b4 ordering them and they have to be ordered b4 the middle of this month and I cant afford to pay for theirs on top of my 1,300 dress. HELP how do i solve this problem easily and without making people mad!!! the dresses are 150.00 a piece and they are from davids bridal... .I havent had any luck finding them anywhere else!!!

Answer 1

Did the bridesmaids have a say in picking them out? If so, then remind them that this is what they chose and they knew in advance that it would cost $150.

Is it possible to choose a less expensive dress? My bridesmaids paid $99 for their dresses. It was the ones they agreed on.

Can they find it on eBay? I sold a BM gown on eBay and it went quick. It was a David's gown too.

Have you talked to your BMs about this? Could there be other issues behind this sudden inability to pay for the dress? (for instance, being a BM can sometimes be stressful. I've been in weddings where the infighting among bridesmaids have made alot of us wanting to make up any excuse to quit.)

You shouldn't have to pay for the dresses yourself. If the person can't afford the dress then let them know (nicely) that it's okay if they aren't a bridesmaid, that you'll understand and no hard feelings. Maybe make that person a reader. Being a bridesmaid is expensive (dress, shoes, hair, accessories, shower gifts, bachelorette parties) and some people don't realize that until they've already said yes. When I was in college I had a friend who just couldn't afford the expense of being her roommate's bridesmaid. The roommate understood and gave her the special role of reader instead.

Congrats and good luck with the wedding planning!

Answer 2

David's Bridal is always changing their dress styles and colors and discontinuing them. About a year ago I lucked out- the dresses were originally $150. When the other bridesmaids and I went to try them on they had been marked down to $100. But when we went to purchase them they had been taken down another 50% because they were being discontinued. We got our dresses for $50.00. Needless to say, we paid more for shoes and accessories than we did the dress.

So ask someone at David's if they are going on sale anytime or being discontinued. Or you can ask if there are any styles that are going to be discontinued so you can get them for "cheap". *But make sure they have the sizes you need in stock or can get them from another store.*

As for you friends that you know are having difficulty with paying see if you could go in half with them and let them pay you back. Don't forget holidays are coming up and people will be a little short changed during the next few months. And if you are worried that your best friends won't be able to make the deadline for ordering them. Bite the bullet if you really want them in the wedding and pay for the dresses and let them pay you back within six months. And tell them what you did. Or scale down the amount of attendants. Also let them know that you don't need a wedding present from them because their present to you is standing in your wedding. (I've been "yelled" at because of that).

Answer 3

You may have to give up your dress and find something more affordable. Or else only have those who can afford the dress as bridesmaids. Those who can't, instead of being a bridesmaid, maybe ask them to do a reading or take part in some other way. There's nothing worse than being asked to be a bridesmaid and having the bride insist on getting a dress that you know you can't afford. Remember the wedding is going to cost them as well and it's not as important to them as it is to you.

Answer 4

while i firmly believe in 'it's your wedding day, you're the bride, do it the way you want, i've never understood the custom of brides demanding their 'girls' buy expensive dresses that in all likelihood are something never to be worn again!
first of all you say 6-7 bridesmaids...are you not even sure of how many gals you have in your party????????
our daughter was recently married, we found beautiful dresses, that in fact, were simple and understated and the girls could wear them again! we paid the cost ourselves. and no we aren't well off we just don't believe in asking someone to do you the honor of being an attendant and then handing them the bill for it. the four girls and flower girl did not have to pay for anything, from hair salon to panti-hose, we paid the bills.
be a good person here, go with the girls find a pattern and fabric you all agree on, cut your wedding costs elsewhere and pay for it yourself. sorry, not the most popular answer, but ...................you did ask!

Answer 5

your bridesmaids knew in advance and I would let them know how hurt and upset you are that they didn't make it as important a priority as you did. $150 for a bridesmaid dress is good. I have had to pay up to 360 and that wedding didn't happen. They should borrow from someone or ask not to stand up if they are having that much of a financial crisis... afterall you will remain friends.

Answer 6

I was once in a bridal party and the bride gave us patterns and material swatches and we made our own dresses. It was pretty easy.

For you, however, the answer might be to pare down your wedding party to those who can afford the dresses.

Answer 7

if you hadn't agreed to pay for their dresses when you were hunting for the dresses, than you should not have to pay for them now. however, if they can't pay, and you really want the dresses, you might have to. or if your flexible, you could always opt for a less expensive dress in a similar style, even if it means you (or more specifically your gals) have to break out a sewing machine.

Answer 8

talk to them

Answer 9

HAVE A SMALL WEDDING