this guy i like is just out of a long term relationship of 3 yrs and says that all he wants is fun and not a relationship with anyone, his had enough of relationships, i told him i couldn't just be there for fun that i had feelings for him and would end up getting hurt, so it was best to stop texting and seeing each other, thinking i should give him time to get over the relationship am i doing the right thing?
2006-11-08 23:56:12 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you did!... He needs to clear his head and dump a spot of baggage before you even figure in the picture ~
Keep in touch , stay friends, or choose be the martyr he's looking for. I think you already know the answer and good onya!
2006-11-09 00:04:21 · answer #1 · answered by renclrk 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was in a pretty much the exact situation last year - just got outta a 3.5 yr relationship and then met someone else. He was great and I liked him but had to get the other relationship outta my system before i could think aboutletting anyone else in. Give him time, don't be his bit of fun - try being his friend maybe? Things work out, the guy I met have been together 9 months now and it's going really well - I had some fun, messed about as a single bloke and then settled down
2006-11-08 23:59:47 · answer #2 · answered by lord_c_immunitas 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont let urself get to the point where ur in love or put pressure on him.be there for him and however long it will take.then a year or two from now he might think that u are the one.and yes give him time.i dont think id like to leave a long term relation then go str8 into another one.id wonna partie and have fun without a chicken head askn wot time im coming home or any of that.for the time just be his friend and try too keep it closed when ur drunk together lol
2006-11-09 00:03:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Society says that after the end of a long relationship, you should live the single life and have a blast; therefore, we believe that that is what is best for us at that time. You should do what feels right for you. I have recently come out of a 7 year marriage, and the 'single life' is a far cry from what I want. So, you see, it all depends on the person and what they think they want.
2006-11-09 00:02:11 · answer #4 · answered by JJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really like him and he is not ready for a relationship, then maybe it would be best to try and keep a freindship with him rather than just have nothing to do with him. If it's all or nothing, then he will feel a bit pressurised into jumping one way or another, and in the long run that'll probably cause problems or push him away. Keep it light and fun, but have a timescale in your mind of how long you are prepared to keep it lighthearted and casual - dont be taken for a fool and try not to get hurt!
2006-11-09 00:01:28 · answer #5 · answered by mrs2moo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He did the right thing and be honest with you, so you should respect that. If you can't handle just 'fun', then maybe stop contact with him for a while. Give him a couple of months, get in touch with him again. If he's still only in 'fun' mode, then you know where you stand and leave him to it. There are probably plenty of other guys interested in you, get out there and meet them!
2006-11-09 00:02:37 · answer #6 · answered by melfromhell001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you are. If he just got out of a relationship, you'd just end up being a rebound, and if you really like him, then that's not what you would want. You'd both end up getting hurt in the long run.
2006-11-09 00:00:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely. You have shown that you have self respect and that you're not going to be used and abused. You've set the expectations and he knows the score. So when he gets over the 'just for fun' stage he knows that you're free, but don't wait for him. Get on with life and enjoy finding true love not lust.
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2006-11-09 00:04:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are doing the right thing. If he doesn't want a relationship then don't try start one with him.
2006-11-08 23:58:41 · answer #9 · answered by Mathias H 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Definately- you're letting him know how you feel, but letting him sort himself out before starting a relationship with you and you both possibly getting hurt.
2006-11-09 00:11:02 · answer #10 · answered by jowigley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋