what do u do in a situation like this?

Question

I have this cousin thats so F....kg jelous of all the preety ladies
she gossips alot makes stupid marks about them
and even makes fun of ME!
Im freakn pissed shes always talking bad things about me infront of my friends...

ex:we were talking about our fav color when I said my fav is red
and then she said :who ever wears red wants attention badly!
I told her whats ur fav color?she said black
then I said who ever wears black likes to look constipated!

then the B* started telling my friends how mean I WAS!
I was freak'n pissssed and felt like slaping her!
but thats not my style
and shes done other things too for over a year...
and I cant leave her coze shes my cousin....
what should I do with her?

Answer 1

I think this girl would like to be you but she has realised that she cant. Thats why she is trying to make your life hell. She probably thinks that you should not be happy because she is not happy. So what if you like red, I read somewhere that people who like red have more confidence in themselves. So go girl,be what you are and more let her rot in hell, cousin or not its not your fault she is screwed up!

Answer 2

Your cousin has a very low esteem about herself and she probably has a lot of anger in her which she is unable to control. Why she behaves the way she does is something you need to pull her aside and talk about her behavior. Though she is your cousin it makes it all the more easier to talk with than a friend. You did right in controlling your anger. She could learn much from you but you have to speak to her on a one on one level. She could be dealing with inner hurts that she can't handle. Though you did not describe if she is just as pretty as anyone else, perhaps looking at her and helping her to improve her looks with dressing and make up could help boost her self esteem. That is the least you can do as a cousin and friend. Befriend her and see what comes up! Good luck!

Answer 3

Do not react to her stupid comments the more attention you give her the more she is going to talk bull ****. Consider the source cousin or not she has issues. She may actually be jealous and you can not do anything about that but be yourself. If your friends believe her oh well then they are not your friends. Ignore her, change subject, be up one and continue being you. Let her know that if she has a problem with you to take it to you and that you do not appreciate the fact she is always putting you down. Stop reacting and avoid all gossip with her. You can walk away and not listen to her stuff. You change your reactions to her and her stuff will decrease or stop. Tell her your feelings if she doesn't get it.....walk away....no one has the power to upset you unless you allow them too.

Answer 4

Definitely tell her how you feel, calmly and politely. Have examples of things she's said (like 2-3, don't go on and on and on) and see what she says. Be super nice and see what she says, and if she denies it or argues or says anything other than "ok, sorry" or "i'll try not to do that anymore" then tell her you don't want to hang out with her anymore. Be prepared to hear some criticism about yourself too, and try to be open minded, because maybe you do some things too maybe without even noticing it. Then you can set the example and say something like "I never realized I did that and sorry I hurt your feelings." Maybe she'll take the hint and apologize too.

Answer 5

Ignore her plain and simple ..she sounds to petty to be around and gossips love the attention ...steer clear of her cousin or not sounds like she would make a good enemy instead of a friend and cousin

Answer 6

Sit the girl down and explain to her that she's being an attention whore, and it needs to STOP.

She needs counselling. She's making herself the victim when she's bought what she's recieved.

You need to tell her how it is. Confrontation can save the trouble later. If she continues, you're going to have to stop speaking to her and stop acknowledging her.

Answer 7

If u get more sarcastic, & mean with her, she'll just turn it around on u. There's no winning by tossing words @her, ignore & enjoy wearing red ( color of desire - i think)

Answer 8

Im going to tell you something my MOM once told me, Just because she is your cousin, does not make her your friend.

Answer 9

whenever she tells u something u dont like or hurts, try to tell her in a funny way: "ouch, that hurts.." or "am not!" i always do that to my friends when they tease me or hurt me unintentionally sometimes, and it really works. and control urself. don't react to what she's telling to ur friends. becoz if they are you're true friends, they will not believe those mean things your cousin is trying to tell them. its either ur friends believ u or ur mean cuzin.

Answer 10

You have to understand this that,
you know she is bad, and not only you other also know she is bad, they will never take care of what she is saying.. they will smile for not to make the situation werse.