I have been seeing a guy i work with since Feb time. We started seeing each other but he had a g-f but we continued 2 see each other until i gave him an ultimatum & about 2 mths ago he finished with his g-f. We started 2 spend more time with each other and really enjoyed each others company without the hassle of sneaking round.
Yesterday he admitted that his ex was staying with him at the mo - and had been for 2 wks - her lease was up on her apartment and she said she didnt have anywhere else 2 go. apparently they are sleeping in the same bed but have not kissed or slept with each other. He said the reason he didnt tell me was because he was scared of losing me and that he cant stop thinking about me and feels sick every morning he wakes up, and that he's not happy about the situation anymore than i am. does this guy really want to be with me or is he just stringing me along? if he didnt want 2 lose me then why allow his ex to stay with him if it meant jeapordising his thing with me?
2006-11-08 23:32:36 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
personally i agree with the others. if he thought your relationship was strong and that there was trust there he'd have told you. does she not have any friends to stay with? renew her lease, or find somewhere new blah blah. if she wanted to she could find somewhere. as for sleeping in the same bed? hun, you need to get rid. his loss not yours. once a cheat always a cheat. harsh but true hun. find someone who is all yours and deserves you.
good luck babe v xx
2006-11-08 23:47:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, i would say as you and he were sneekin around behind his girlf's back what makes you think he won't do the same to you. Does he not have a sofa either he or if she has to stay, she cannot sleep on? If i were you i'd be very warey, has he only told you cuz he knew you'd find out anyway? If he feels sooooo sick when he wakes up, he wouldn't put himself in that situstion in the first place. I'd finish it before you get really hurt, i understand its easy for us to just tell you to do that, its alot harder to actually do, but by the sounds of it, he wants his cake and eat it!!! You could do so much better. Could you ever trust him?
2006-11-08 23:38:47 · answer #2 · answered by wavebreakin 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh my, sounds like he's stringing you along. Can 2 people who have been dating really sleep in the same bed without "doing anything?" I find it hard to believe honestly.
Talk to him girl: tell him you are not happy with the sitaution & the ex better get her act together. Ask him to imagine himself in your shoes & he'll react right away. Best luck!!
2006-11-08 23:43:35 · answer #3 · answered by Luvy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds Extremely Dodge to me?? If he respected you he would take your feelings into consideration and tell the ex to find somewhere else to go. There's a lot of history between them obviously wish means there's emotions to. Sorry love but personal past experience tells me that it probably isn't as Innocent as he's making out!! Best wishes
2006-11-08 23:40:24 · answer #4 · answered by BIGMOUTHSTOPTALKING 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the fact that you work with him, makes it MUCH MORE complicated.
what i would do if i was in your place was, cut all ties with him and completely ignore him - can you do this or do you have to talk to him for work ?
if you can, then just completely ignore him, dont take his calls, dont listen to him and dont involve in any conversation. if he insists, the most you should say is 'leave me alone and talk to me when you have sorted your priorities out then we'll see'
completely cut him out of your life for the time being, leave your job if it is not the most important thing in your life and if you can easily find another one.
this way he will be abandoned by you and he will get a bit of a 'reality kick'. he HAS to stop messing around, or he looses you.
he has to get his ex out of his house - sleeping in the same bed ? that doesnt sound good ? why not on the sofa ? eh ?
my instinct tells me this guy is playing with you and you need to put your foot down.
is he prepared to kick his ex out of his house and his life for you ? if not, he is not worth your time, love and tears....
good luck, be strong and dont let him mess your life.
2006-11-08 23:41:16 · answer #5 · answered by GorGeous_Girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hurt you but this guy is cheating on you both and perhaps never stopped seeing her. Dont you visit him at his place if not I would say that she has been there all the time. Good luck find another boyfriend this one is not the one for you.
2006-11-08 23:42:07 · answer #6 · answered by Kirks Folley 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the fact that she is sharing his bed says it all - if he was just being nice and giving her a place to stay one of them would be sleeping on the sofa, even floor - anything rather than in the same bed - he is stringing you along!
2006-11-08 23:48:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but i believe in "what goes around comes around!!"
He cheated on his girl friend with you, so what makes you think you are any different?
You pinched her boyfriend, now she is the other woman,
How does it feel to be on the receiving end of it?
2006-11-08 23:46:44 · answer #8 · answered by T - C - B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry girl I think he's just strining you along. His ex is staying with him, they're sleeping inthe same bed and they haven't done anything?!! Girl drop him. It will hurt, but if he's the one for you, he'll come back.
2006-11-08 23:36:15 · answer #9 · answered by tammi_alley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take it from a guy,,,,,
Let him go, he is no way just sleeping in her bed!!!! Move on and get someone else, he seems to want the cake and eat from 2 get a life be real to yourself get a backbone and kick him out of your life you are no door mate girl tell him to hit the road, in 2 months there will be another excuse he is talking sh*t to you....
2006-11-08 23:53:26 · answer #10 · answered by clinton o 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋