How to get attention of a shy girl, when i am shy also?

Question

I am highly attracted to this girl at my school who is in my grade but I barely see her. She doesnt really know me and I want to get to know her, I am but every chance I blow it by being shy. My friend and I have contrived for me to write a letter, organize some sort of meeting, etc, so I can actually have a conversation. (I'm 16; and never really asked out a girl I barely know) Plus the girl is the type of girl that you dont just walk up to and ask out. She would have to get to know me completely before I can progress, but I cant even meet her anywhere! I've tried school clubs, and lunch, even in the library

Answer 1

First of all, you must try to make her see you by saying hi, joining her in a bus, try knowing all her routes so that you meet her to be able to chat.
Locate her at school and try to always call her attention during break time, etc.
You can get her attention by giving her simple gifts for starters.
Must also look good and decent.

Answer 2

To asker: I know exactly what you mean! When I was a freshman (I'm a Junior now), I was exactly like you are now and was wondering the exact same thing. In hindsight, the best advice that I can give you is to be yourself. I know thats a MAJOR cliche, but it's true. Don't change yourself. It's really hard to become "loud", if you're a shy girl, and you could just end up saying some things that you will regret later. Just keep a nice appearance, smile alot, and talk to people when they talk to you. Good luck!

Answer 3

make the effort to talk to her when ever you can, find out what she's interested in, try and spend time with her and she may notice you.
if after a while you feel your getting to know her better and she seem fond of you, first make sure she's not seeing anyone and try asking her to the cinema, if she accepts congradsulation, if not i'd say it's worth the risk of rejection if you really care about her, lest someone else beat you to it.
a bad idea would be to tell any of her friends first unless you know any of them well or it might become headline news that you like her.

Answer 4

okey... i'm a shy girl too and the truth about us is we are shy if the people around us is also shy.. so if you really like her... just let her FEEL that you like her(dont literally say that you like her! ).. like first introduce yourself, then say hi to her whenever she pass by.. (remember: if ur shy , she will be more shy..), then if you see her alone in the corridors, go beside her and maybe help her when she has loads of books to carry on... and start a conversation... i know its a hard thing for you to do because as what you said you are a super shy guy.. and if u really really like her u must step outside your shell... i believe in u dude!!

Answer 5

saying hello does help, i remember i know some great girls by just started with hello. Good things dont come easily so if you really like this girl try to be patient and go slow, dont rush things or you will ruin it. Say more hello and wait for the opportunity to come, and when it come you'll know it and will act automatically

Answer 6

well..try approaching her and begin to say hello, and each day that u did that, she might notice you and start having a good conversation like asking where shes going/can u come too, or asking her if you can join for lunch..you know..such and such.

Answer 7

ask a frend of urs to go up to the gal and say that u like her and wait for her answer

Answer 8

I'm sorry but it seems complicated just to talk to her so maybe it's just not meant to be!!!!!!!!!! Take it from me though i know how u feel being shy sucks!!!!!!!!! I hate it but that's me, until u really get to know me and i can open up. So just relax and see what happens but don't try so hard!!!!!!!!!!!! Good luck!!!!!!

Answer 9

make her notice you and then go and talk to her

the worst thing are guys who never make the first step

Answer 10

try to break out of ur shell or it wont happen