what do i do. i really like him. i cant say no. im single but he has a gf who he hasnt known for that long and she lives overseas. he keeps wanting to come over and everything just seems so right bout us being together except for the gf.
2006-11-08 23:27:58 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well guys like that are useless and unreliable, so what if you like him? emotion always mess up the minds to make a good decision, so listen to some suggestions and opinions from us and sleep through it and then next morning make a decision.
p.s. that guy might just want to have sex with you and what he told you might just be the same of what he told his overseas gf about you
2006-11-08 23:37:13 · answer #1 · answered by jeff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By saying, "You cannot say no", you've said, "I am soooo insecure, and I have to have you, so I guess its O.K. for you to have somebody else far away." Have more self confidence girl. If he's not willing to commit totally to you, then why should you want to commit totally to him? Besides, since he knows you're so crazy about him, and he is obviously not as obsessed with you, he will have you jumping through hoops, and always be threatening to go back to his other squeeze if he doesn't get his way.
You sound like a very nice girl, who needs to have a little more self assurance. Start right now. Tell him that if he has feelings for somebody else, then you really think you'll start playing the field too. I've lived long enough to know these one-sided love affairs are very unhealthy, and usually end up fizzling out, with the one who obsessed over the other feeling hurt, used, scarred, and left out in the cold.
2006-11-09 07:36:12 · answer #2 · answered by rhino 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him. I have a boyfriend overseas and if I found out that he was cheating on me I would be very hurt. I would probably want to go over there and kick her head in, but I'm not a voilent person so I would probably just go over there and make sure he wasn't going around behind my back cos I'm been faithful over here. Leave him alone now before she finds out and gets hurt. Get yourself someone who isn't attached to someone and get a life. I have been there before with a guy that I didn't even know that a girlfriend overseas and he told me when he left on a holiday back to his country and I was a broken mess so don't let it happen to you. Now I have a amazing man (This better not be my boyfriend that you are talking about then).
2006-11-09 09:52:07 · answer #3 · answered by Aunty Jules 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has a gf, then you are the other woman. That means he just wants you for the booty call honey. You deserve better -- dump the bumb. If he's cheating with you, then he will cheat ON you!
2006-11-09 07:32:23 · answer #4 · answered by kja63 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that he needs to decide who he wants to be with. Its not fair to you, or the other girl, for him to have both. It just means that he doesn't have to be serious about either of you.
Also keep in mind that he's cheating on his girlfriend with you so whose to say that he won't cheat on you at some point or dump you if/when the girlfriend comes to join him.
2006-11-09 07:33:41 · answer #5 · answered by Tammy I 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has the best of both worlds. One on the side and you are the side. How would you feel if it was you getting cheated on. Just remember that what goes around comes around. You should just dump him and forget him. You will be better off.
2006-11-09 07:31:41 · answer #6 · answered by NEED HELP 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He keeps coming back for more because you keep freely giving it up. Get a man of your own.
2006-11-09 07:45:54 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he has a body to love here and a heart to love overseas
2006-11-09 07:34:38 · answer #8 · answered by lostship 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is just using you for a piece of meat. That is all he wants from you.
2006-11-09 07:42:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, he wants his cake and eat it too. Can't be that way. He has to make a choice!
2006-11-09 07:30:49 · answer #10 · answered by melfromhell001 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋