I left my job a month ago to go abroad and one of my work colleagues who is a bit of ladies man but rather cute said he wanted to keep in touch with me so I was quite pleased and we started emailing each other.
He was always quite flirty in the emails and paying me compliments etc. Then one day he asked me what my sexual fantasy was and I was so bored at work I thought I would play along. I mentioned it involved being in an office and having sneaky sex with a handsome colleague.
He responded and said I should have told him earlier because it could easily have been arranged. Then he asked me what I would have done if I had been working late and he had come on to me.
I thought there was no harm in replying honestly so I said I would have liked it.
Since then I have heard nothing from this guy! It's gone from emailing everyday to nothing! I don't get it - he was the one who was being all flirty and then when I'm flirty back he backs off! What's going on?
2006-11-08 23:23:17 · 25 answers · asked by tangomango 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The thing is that you played his game and he's won. You've fed is ego and in his eyes you are no longer a challenge for him. I wouldn't be so gullible next time! Keep things flirty but draw a line at anything else.
2006-11-09 00:46:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, some men flirt at work b/c they're bored, and flirting makes work a bit more fun; i.e. gives them something to look forward to, and nothing more than that. That what it sounds like this guy was doing. Because you said he's a bit of a ladies man makes me think that he does this sort of thing alot, and that he's probably good at it since he's been doing it for awhile now. I wouldn't read anything more into it, and when you run into him during the course of the workday, don't make any mention of it. I doubt that he'll continue the flirtation, because if he wanted to continue, he would've done so already, or at least led you on some more. I sure hope this was helpful. I've experienced things like this several times in my life.
2006-11-08 23:31:58 · answer #2 · answered by Crystal L ™ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, it's HIM not you.
Telling him your fantasy was being flirty, yes.
But telling him you would have liked banging him in the office was not.
Possibly he is now in "a man's cave" and resolving the issues of cutting off a possible good relationship, pros/cons of long distance romance, or he's working on going abroad too.
On the other hand, I tend to agree that he is merely an A...
There are many guys who care more about the pursuit than they care about the gal. Once they 'get some' they gone as fast as a canary at a cat show.
2006-11-08 23:32:10 · answer #3 · answered by Trailcook 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's flirty in general then you might have been one of several irons he had in the fire. He's probably involved with somebody else right now. If he starts on the flirty emails again, beware! It probably just means he's between women and is looking for somebody to fill the gap. It doesn't sound like he is after anything long-term or meaningful.
2006-11-08 23:29:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send him an email and ask him outrite tell him you were calling his bluff and you were just having a bit of fun and you miss his emails.. tell him more or less what you have said on here and be honist with him.. if he was genuine he will reply as you say he could be just a ladies man and you kept him stringing on and over done it a bit and made your self out to be easy pray..
2006-11-08 23:39:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A ladies man likes the thrill of the chase, perhaps you were a bit obvious with your intentions. When I've been single I'm just the same.
Sounds like he's a game player to me.
2006-11-08 23:35:50 · answer #6 · answered by gareth_bancroft 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him go hun, could be one of a number of things. He may deciding how to take it further with you, too busy to answer, family problems etc. Just enjoy being young and away and if it happens it happens. If not you've not lost out cos you never had him in the 1st place.
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2006-11-08 23:31:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You might of scared him off by ruining his fantasy. Most likely probly not but who knows. He might of just been looking to get some and he finally realized that it was not going to happen with you being gone. Your best bet is to just forget him and find someone that is after more than just that.
2006-11-08 23:29:22 · answer #8 · answered by NEED HELP 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-28 23:05:17 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My brother is like this he says it is because he likes the chase and when he knows he can get it off with the woman he flirts with he looses interest and goes on to flirt with someone else.It's an ego thing.
2006-11-09 00:08:36 · answer #10 · answered by MANC & PROUD 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋