Am I wrong if I said I wanted to wait for her?

Question

Am I wrong if I said I wanted to wait for the girl I really love, who previously said that she doesn't like me in that way and is getting uncomfortable with it? I mean I am still 14 and I can still tell her that when I am 16 or 17. I am not afraid of getting hurt. I would risk everything for her.

Do you support me?

Answer 1

This is a very personal question and since you have not give full details of how the girl is like or how your relationship has been before this question, I believe the ball is in your court.Just be decisive and follow your heart. Only you would be happy with your decision. And remember, you are not too young to be thinking of a relationship or engage in a relationship. What is wrong is if you are in the relationship for the wrong reason or motive.

Answer 2

You are young and have plenty of time to meet more people who will return your feelings. Some people are just too serious/sensitive for most of their contemporaries. You could be one of those. I have no doubt you have strong feelings; however, she has said she is not interested in you that way, and that she is becoming uncomfortable. This means you need to ease off and not talk about it or act upon it anymore.

You should never feel you would risk everything for someone else, especially someone else who has said they do not feel this way for you too. That is not a good place to be emotionally or otherwise. Wait, I'm not done. Before you tell me I must be cynical or too old to understand...I just want to say again, you should never be willing to risk everything for someone else. Your heart is more precious than that and so is your soul. Do not spend your teen years waiting for someone else. Go out and live your life in a way that will help you when you're older.

I have a kid sister who has done just that, as a matter of fact, in spite of all the odds against her. She has played on many sports teams, stayed in the top 5% or higher of her class, taken many difficult classes, is very social despite shyness and fear of rejection, volunteers at a nursing home, goes to church, spends most of her time with friends, working or studying, basically. She recently was baptized and although she has some issues, I'm pretty proud of her for not spending all her time living as though she is waiting for someone to come around. She has her pick of colleges and is going to get a free ride to one and be whatever she wants, and is considered upstanding. She has a good reputation, and that is something you have to work at all the time and never let go of if you can avoid it.

Thing is, she has a very bad temper too, and there are other things odd about our family, but she beat it all and is quite loved. She sometimes wishes for someone else like a serious boyfriend, but that was where she started messing up one time. So. It seems better to love and lose and then.... Do lots of hard work.

You can do that too. So on your question, Do you support me? I say I support you in any efforts to better yourself, and that love thing is only going to ruin you if you keep at it. So start away from it, doing good things. Think of your future. Good luck.

Answer 3

You are not wrong in saying that you'll wait for her. In fact, it only shows that you are sincere about your feelings for her. Both of you are very young. Maybe she's not ready, and she knows that you're also not ready for a serious relationship. Try developing a friendship first and get to know each other well before entering a commitment.

As for you waiting until your 16 or 17? Be realistic. Expect the worst but hope for the best. Besides, both of you are still young. There is a big possibility that you'll meet another girl in the future--one who is much more suited for you.

Answer 4

Don't you think at the age of 14 you are a little young to be telling a female that you'll wait for her? I would suggest that if she tells you that she's not interested then concentrate your efforts elsewhere and if you still feel the same way about the first girl in a couple of years from now then try again and see if she's available and maybe a little more interested.

Answer 5

Well, (you expected this line) you're very young. It's hard to know if you really do love someone at such a young age. I've no doubt, though, that you're passionate in your 'liking' for her.

If you trail her like a lost puppy-dog, you're never going to look good to her, you're going to look unstable, and like a 'loser'. She's not going to be interested in some boy she can have if she wanted him. Girls are like that.

I'm not saying move on, because that's advice you probably won't listen to, but I will say that maybe you should at least 'date' a couple of other girls. If this girl is for you, she'll want you back as soon as she sees you looking at another girl and smiling about it.

Don't forget, though, that you can't trail a girl forever, and you may not want to. She's going to grow up and probably become somebody completely different (and maybe even unsavory).

Answer 6

You're fourteen don't let yourself get mixed up like this, expesically over a girl, you're way to young, take it from me, I got married at 16 and didn't listen to a word anyone would tell me about it being to soon, but yes it was, you have no idea what you want in life wether your mind is set in stone right now I'll gurantee in a few years it will change, have fun, live life, and enjoy your imaturity while it's still ok.

Answer 7

She told you she "doesn't like you in that way" and is "uncomfortable"...you need to back off before you find yourself losing her friendship altogether or possibly facing legal charges. Don't wait around...lead a normal life, and if it is meant to be this girl in a year or 2 then it will work out naturally...you cannot force someone to like you

Answer 8

There is nothing wrong with this action. It's all up to you to take the risk right? Just let the girl know that you're serious about this.

Answer 9

u can wait, if its not affecting ur routine work, i suppose this is the time u must be into studies n stuff. so make sure that waiting for her does not hold u back..........
and ya, 1 thing that u will know from experience is that love is good when successful but too hurting when u fail..........so be careful in whatever u choose........ best of luck

Answer 10

Well, okay to wait on her if you are occupying yourself with a variety of girls. You are too young to know for sure even though you think you will always be in love with this girl. Don't settle down to one girl till your college years at least.