My boyfriend of 2 and a half years and I received some really good news today. We have been going through a difficult time recently but the good news was like starting a fresh. My b'friend likes his speed and crystal meth. I don't participate and try to encourage him to cut down. He has tried to hide his drug taking from me but as I am quite suspicious I tend to find out. Tonight I looked at his text messages and he sent a text today asking if he could 'score tonight'. Tonight he could have taken me out for dinner, but instead he wanted to score some drugs. Any advice?
2006-11-08 22:30:19 · 28 answers · asked by Zakerine 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Speed can be a pretty bad drug at times, I have had it many times in my past. Have you confronted him about it? Is it kept to the weekends or is it a daily event? The use of speed can get out of hand and lead to crime and aggression. I would not want to be going out with a speed addict.
2006-11-08 22:37:23 · answer #1 · answered by Rossco 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
with drugs,,our spouses 'allow' us to continue by not making us choose between them and the drugs. im not in any way blaming yourself but as you just ,shrug and let him get on with,,what is essentially ,his life you are not stating how much you want him to quit,,he is having a great time,,for now anyway,,but it does take over and i speak from experience,,sorry hun but he is taking speed so you,re not going to get a sit down dinner out of him.if this isnt your idea of a good boyfriend you must make it clear that your life plan does not include a drug using boyfriend,,i mean ,it isnt every girls dream is it and unless you make it clear,,,not just saying ,c,mon,,not tonight,,i mean make it clear this isnt who you want to be with,otherwise he isnt gaining anything is he,,he already has you and you dont moan so much so he will continue.its nice when he sits there chewing on his own face isnt it,,,,,no,,didnt think so.given you could have more or less anyone else if you wanted,,why should he expect you to stay when others wont do this to you.
2006-11-08 22:43:02 · answer #2 · answered by lex 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes get rid. My last b/f i was with for 3yrs and have a son too, he did this behind my back and it led to heavier drugs. I got rid met someone new and have been together for almost 9yrs. You dont need a man in your life that lies to you and takes drugs. You can do better hunni so do it. Good luck and i know its not easy when you love someone.xxx
2006-11-08 22:33:43 · answer #3 · answered by spensmum 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get him to smoke dope or dump him speed freaks are weird
don't make a addict mak a decision like its me or that because you will loose not becaus he loves it more than you but becaus its an addition.
and you want him other wise you would not be on here asking the question but try to get him to 1 quit 2 swap for a less destructive habit 3 dump him as a last resort
2006-11-08 22:33:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to find more serious help about that, some medications, rehabilitation centers....people like that are very difficult to change by them selfs. the drugs take their mind out and the only thing they can do is use it untill that kill them. you can make sure that he uses drugs if his eyes are red, he is pail and makes a lot of mistakes in his talking or writing as well.... and if he doesent change leave him !
2006-11-08 22:35:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is sad to say but just because you want him to stop he won't. I was an addict for many years and everybody who cared about me tried to get me to stop. I wouldn't listen. I lied and stole stuff from my loved ones. He has to hit rock bottom. You can talk him into going to rehab or NA meetings or you can have an intevention. If he doesn't want to stop you should get on with your life. If not you are only going to be miserable. Believe me I have been where he is at. Good luck
2006-11-08 22:35:27 · answer #6 · answered by kitten 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would run like the wind. He just tells you that to keep you around. you don not need to be around someone who does drugs because that is all they think about and want. They have the potential to treat you like crap, abuse you and any kids that may be involved. Lookout for yourself. Go out and find someone who is drug free that will treat you like women are supposed to be treated and not let him use you.
2006-11-09 00:00:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might be very deep into drugs. Its starts with lies, then stealing cash then worse. If u care about him, to everything in your power to get him into rehab. U don't want to but your life in danger. Good luck.
2006-11-08 22:36:56 · answer #8 · answered by Phoenix21 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol
tell him to go to rehab and drop the drugs or find himself a new woman.
i have a relative dependant on drugs and always lies, now cheats and steals. it only gets worse. you need to make a stand before he sells you to pay for his habbit!
2006-11-08 22:34:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave him your better of. like you said he could have taken you out to dinner but speed came first. or stay with him join in his habbits and end up just like him, someone that no one can depend on.
2006-11-08 22:34:40 · answer #10 · answered by ellierckworld 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋