me and mi bf have been goin out for 7 months and all this time he doesnt believe that i love him. he wants me to prove it to him the only thing is i dont kno how also i moved outa state recently. he said if i dont do somethin bout it its gunna get worse and he will break up with me what should i do
2006-11-08 22:26:09 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
tell him you love him ! if he doesent belive you than how come he is still with you.
i mean between you there must have at least respect,belinving in each other and a small liking.
those are the first basic things people in relationship must have, arent they?!
you may even make a surprice but i dont thing that he can force you to prove him. how about he prove you?
2006-11-08 22:29:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wish someone sat me down at age 20 and said "you will love someone very much and you will lose that someone, most definitly". I am not sure of your age it doesn't matter really and I don't think I would have even understood if someone had told me such a thing.
What I am trying to say is, a persons' first (even first few)serious 'love' is almost always doomed to failure. It is because so much is changing early in our dating life. Really those changes often do not end until one makes it to their late 20's and then it takes longer for some folks than that. Your personality, likes and interests have to stabalize. Your outlook on life and long term goals have to solidify. You have to become mostly in charge of your destiny which is very different than living at home or in dorm. Only then will a serious love have a chance to flourish and grow to the next level where you are looking at a true commitment.
Do that boy a favor cut him loose. Tell him to enjoy himself because you plan to do the same. If he stays in touch, then he is the 'one'. If he stops calling then it was just young love, it would end no matter what.
2006-11-09 06:37:29 · answer #2 · answered by xillith 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a toughie. If you guys haven't slept together, maybe he wants you to do that. That doesn't prove you love somebody, though, so I wouldn't.
I say that because everytime a guy has ever said 'prove it' to me, it's been all about sex. The guys are usually worthless.
On another note, if you DON'T love him, dump him, since you've moved and find someone else who isn't so insecure about those things.
Long distance relationships don't usually last so long anyway. Sad, but true. You do find the ones that do.
Oh, and if you don't want to break up with him, ask yourself: Do I plan on Marrying this guy? Because if you don't, then perhaps it's not worth keeping the relationship up.
2006-11-09 06:29:58 · answer #3 · answered by kenniemcooper 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, 7 months is not enough time to be TRULY IN LOVE. And if it were true love, he would not question it. Since you have already moved out of state your relationship will deteriorate, so let him go and you find yourself a new man.
2006-11-09 06:27:32 · answer #4 · answered by poetonme 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure exactly why he feels you don't love him, but I know you need to ask him why. Don't try to change yourself for him though because he's putting pressure on you to make the relationship work, but it takes two people in order to make or break one. So find out why he's feeling like this, but also question what is he doing to show you that he loves you.
2006-11-09 06:32:29 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u luv him then what's the need to prove it.If he wud have really luv u then he wud'nt have said like that. If he wants to break up vit u then tell he get lost i dont need u anymore i can find many.
2006-11-09 06:32:02 · answer #6 · answered by nutan_nutty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you moved out of the state...how CAN you prove to him...how old are you guys anyway? 7 months is not a long time but enough time to fall in love with someone,,,
if HE really loves.,..TRUST is the word,,he shouldn't be pushing you to do something that is hard...what about him? what does he do to prove to YOU that he loves you..???
think about it?!? is HE worth it?
good luck
2006-11-09 06:30:49 · answer #7 · answered by simon says 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey sweetheart, he is using guilt tactis on u, u have a life to leave, if he truly loves u why not allow u be who u want to be. after all love is two ways thing not one trying to proof to the other
2006-11-09 06:38:14 · answer #8 · answered by jus wanna know 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him go. He's obviously manipulative and really insecure and that kind of sh*t only gets worse. Why don't you throw it back on him and tell him to prove it?
2006-11-09 06:29:02 · answer #9 · answered by LetMeBe 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is full proof advise.
Kick him in the nuts.Say to him that this is how much it hurts in your heart when he talks like that to you.
Call his best friend.Do with him wathever you want and voila problem solved.
Enjoy the new state.
2006-11-09 06:35:37 · answer #10 · answered by alwyn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋