Are girls intimidated of guys in wheelchairs?

Question

Im a quadriplegic. I was in a car accident 3 yrs ago. I'm in a wheelchair. Its way harder to attract woman ever since my accident. Sometimes I sense a closeness but then they kinda back off. I'm not an ugly guy and I was doing ok with the ladies before my accident. Is it pitty, intimidation, or just lack of interest? Maybe they think I can't have sex(it might be that important to some people?). I can have sex. Should I let them know that I can before they back off? Sorry I ask so many questions. I haven't had a relationship ever since my accident and I'm pretty sure one of these problems might be why. So if any girls can give me advice on how to treat this completely different way of dating, it would be way helpful. Thanks.

Answer 1

Perhaps there is an element of fear, fear of the unknown. The sex could come into it and there will be girls who would not consider a relationship without sex. Best no to mention the sex straight off, they might think you are propositioning them!! Just be your natural self, the girl who really likes you wont let the wheelchair bother her. Good luck

Answer 2

Well I don't know if intimidation would necessarily be the right word to use in this situation. I think like most people the women you are coming in contact with have a fear of the unknown. They probably have never known someone in a wheelchair or dealt with someone in a wheelchair romantically. I'm sure they have a million questions so maybe by talking to them you can give them some information about things others commonly ask about to make them more at ease with the wheelchair. It isn't your job to make others feel better about your accident but it helps people when they are educated about topics like this. Good luck!

Answer 3

Yes, that is probably the problem, they probably feel as though you are unable to perform the deed. However, my sister dated a guy in a wheelchair, and I asked her, she confirmed that they did. Yes, my morbid, nosy curiosity. So, I would suggest that when you find someone you are interested in you would make it known that you are not only able but do have the same desires as men that have total use of their bodies. If they are attracted to you, this may be something you could say in a gentle way, it is probably the only issue. however, most people are not going to feel comfortable just asking. I just happen to feel if you want to know ask, most are not that forward. I also have a friend whom I attend chruch with whose husband has had both of his legs removed and is in a wheel chair, they met and were married after his accident. So, there is hope! Good luck to you and God bless

Answer 4

hay com,n what did you write is wrong, i can consed re it as a feeling you have, even life is so hard to be but you have to know that there are many people around this world don't agree with you.
had an ac, so what!!!
is it for the beauty or sex or what ever the relations going on (NO)
sure no
i know there are too many ( bad) people_ i don't know if there are bad_ whom thinking the way you wrote but believe me those people are not impotent to you to be sorry losing them
you can fund love if search into your sorrow, and the emptiness you feel will fade away
I ll be glad if you accept me as a friend of you
please send me [e-mail]
love
Hamada

Answer 5

All girls are nt the same and the reasons might be different. And some reason will be hard for you to accept. I can't say abt others but only abt me. Am afraid to approach people with disabilities nt because i feel they are inferior people but afraid of they rejecting me, afraid they may take my frensdship for pity or start comparing. People with disabilities are psychologically weak and am afraid of hurting people. I just try nt to get close to them coz it will cause more problems to them than me. U see if there's serious involvement and all that the person may back down later ...inferiority complex etc.

Answer 6

ok ummm sorry for ur accident. god bless u. now 4 ur question, it may be difficult, coz girls secretly n sumtimes unconsciously think of marrying the guy they r dating, n sorry 4 being blunt n there aren't much nice girls out there, ...who will ignore ur wheelchair n instead focus on who's sitting on it..try online dating/chatting..tell ppl in the beginning about ur chair n if they still talk, they r genuine n intersted. go out, socialise by all means, n work on ur looks n communication; be casual n at ease eith ur chair as if its a body part. believe me, ppl will stop noticing t after a time. n once u r comfortable with ppl in general, focus on dating. all the best for dating n life. :)

Answer 7

Girls are but not Women!!! You are not attracting the right ones. Those ones that backed off are not good enough for you,be glad they did. They only care about themselves. And no you shouldn't have to disclose your ability to have sex. The right woman will come along. Take care and bless you

Answer 8

My good friend is in the exact same situation. I think girls (and by girls, I'm really only speaking for myself) don't like what his personality has become. He's self-loathing, for one. It's hard to love someone who doesn't love/care for themselves, especially when they are depressed all the time because of it.
Personality is slightly more important than sex. Or at least it's the first hoop to get through.

Answer 9

it may just be uncomfortable for them,,they want to ask questions but are afraid of how you will take it,,whether or not you will get upset,,because they dont know you it is just easier to get up and go to save the embarrassment,,when you do meet someone,,try not to go overboard on the light entertainment at your own expense,,this isnt a turn on,,it just promotes pity,,you may get a fake laugh but as before ,,they dont know you to tell whether or not your 'jokes' are genuine or just a cover for your insecurity . be yourself,,do what you always have done,,it will make it harder to date,no point in saying otherwise but if you approach women as you do life,,im sure you will be fine.

Answer 10

i wouldn't say intimidation, unknown, maybe, different , insure with themselves and you?? i dont know.. i have a guy friend in a chair, he said the same thing, if he wasn't in a chair would i go out with him? that would be the question, hm mm, make me think of it in another way, because i might have. maybe I'm prejudice?