Is my ex messing with my head?

Question

This is a follow on from a question I posted earlier this week.
Ok, my ex ended our relationship 2 months ago. I have repeatedly asked her to stay away and let me get on with my life (I’m not the begging type) and heal myself but she has made excuse after excuse to come to my house for small items of stuff. So I took advice from people on this board and packed everything I could find into bags and put them in the garage and told her to collect them the following day while I was at work so I did not have to see her. So I get back from work and she has collected some (not all) of the stuff. 10 mins later she knocks on my door asking if her son (who is 17) can store some of his stuff in my garage cos she does not have the room.
She has 2 sisters, a brother and her parents who can help her son out with this…. she says she does not want to be with me so why is she still bothering me with all this crap when I am trying everything to I can to move on without her.

Answer 1

I think you need to ask her that. Tell her that she is the one who ended it and that you're getting on with your life and don't want her in it anymore. Tell her that you're not the only one who can store stuff for her and to leave you alone.

Answer 2

hi, it seems she is just using this as an excuse to see you, have you got a female friend who could say she is your girlfriend, you could then tell her that you are going out with someone and your new girlfriend isn't happy with you having contact with her, she might back off then, but on the other hand she might feel that if she can't have you any more neither can any one else, if she really cared for yout hen she would respect your wishes not play mind games and get her jollys from seeing you upset, you sound like a really nice guy i'm sure most women out there would jump at the chance to go out with you and treat you a damn site better, dont let her make you feel this way no matter how much you are hurting stay strong and be firm with her, good luck and i hope you find someone nice who really does love you.

Answer 3

I didn't see last weeks questions.You are done. there is no doubt about that. But she is not! I mean , she could be done with the relationship, but doesn't know just how to do that.
You sound angry for some reason, and she may be bother by that? Does her behavior surprise you? She is looking for answers or reasons? Try not to be so SO, Time will come between the two of you, don't worry about that. give it to her( a little time.)People are funny when things end no matter what the circumstance are.Being so in her face and so direct with nothing else, (is hard for both),you seems to be giving her something that she feels the need or its your need, your hurt.

Answer 4

Yes, she IS messing with your head. and Oh boy, and is she doing a good job of it!! My friend, never heard the saying "just say No"? If she wants to store stuff in your garage / garden / spare room / street..... SAY NO. Tuff if she thinks you are being mean. Just ignore her if she gives you the old nag nag bit. And don't answer the door next time. If she SMS's you - ignore it. If she phones you - put the phone down as soon as you hear its her. If she still has stuff in your garage, here's a suggestion : Put it in your car and TAKE it to her sister / brother / parents house! Case dismissed! (If you don't have a car - ask a mate!) If you get a new girl, do you think she is gonna like this set-up!

Answer 5

I think that you are not trying hard enough and obviously by the sound of things it seems like you are getting frustrated by the way things is going. I suggest that you be a bit more colder with her. When she comes around unannounced tell her that you are busy and she has to leave. Her leaving her stuff there, throw it out or drop it all at her place so that she gets the message loud and clear. And if she still bothers you about her son, tell her to go to her family for help as there is no ties between of you guys. Best of luck amigo

Answer 6

She doesn't mean to but obviously she hasn't moved on... She's trying to look all vulnerablw when she knows she can ask others for help, I think she still loves you because she's still trying to find excuses to still be a part of your life. Put your foot down and tell her that breaking up was the best thing and that you have to cut all ties so you can move on. If she continues to ask for these little favors you have to refuse to help - thats the only way she'll get the message...

Answer 7

She doesnt want to end the relationship-that's why she is making all kinds of excuses to come by, but you already figured it out. She may have had a change of heart. I assume the son you speak of you are not the biological father? If you are, you may want to keep communications with his mom on a good level so that you do not alienate your son. 17 years old is an impressionable time and the way you two behave will have an impact on how he perceives relationships in the future. You may want to have a real conversation with her regarding her feelings and yours. Good luck

Answer 8

I get a funny feeling that she was upset or hurt that you accepted her ending the relationship without a fight (or begging). And wants to be wanted/needed, to do that she is constantly reminding you that she is here to gain some sort of reaction. Or it could be that you took it so well that she expected alterior motives and is trying to catch you with another women so that she can have the staisfaction of a good cry, argument and the feeling of being betrayed which will afford her loads of attention and sympathy from her friends as she revels in blubbing to them on the phone [I'm not cynical!]

Answer 9

It sounds like she wants you back or she is trying to mess with your head. It seems like she has a mental problem. Don't put up with her cr@p. Don't let her son store anything in your garage. Tell her you are going to get a restraining order against her if she doesn't stay away. Tell her if she comes by again you will call the cops. She just sounds weird to me. Good luck.

Answer 10

its time to put an end to all of this. your relationship with her is over. you need to come out and tell her no she can not use your garage to store anything, and if you know where is she is living take her things to her, so this way she has no excuse to come to your house. if you have to take the stuff to one of her family members homes. she is using you, she knows that you still have feelings for her so she is taking advantage of that knowing that you wont tell her no. well unless you want this to go on and on then you have to say no. if you have to, tell her if she does not stop coming to the house that she will leave you know choice but to file a order of protection against her.

Answer 11

I don't think she is over you. Yes she might have ended it with her and he intentions might have been good but she still like you. Just sit down and talk to her ask whats going on and why she is still hanging around. Break ups are hard enough but being in close contact with an ex while getting through the break up is worse. she might still care for you and want to get back together who knows but it all in the end is up to how you feel.