I have a 4 year old boy and a 3 year old girl and they fight something rotten i spend seperate time with each i have tried everything except ringing their necks so anybody have any ideas as my family thinks it is a joke. I also have a 21 month boy who plays on his owns dotes on his brother and sister but he is starting to copy them so HELP PLEASE!!!
2006-11-08 21:52:08 · 9 answers · asked by jules 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
They are not that bad but sometimes it does feel like it, they protect each other and look out for each other even at their young ages. So I am guessing its a brother and sister thing. One more question My 21 month is a lazy talker how do i get him to speak a bit more??
2006-11-08 22:00:23 · update #1
Sibling rivalry is natural, they will always compete for attention and favor, it's just what kids do. However as a parent, you should be very attentive to what they are fighting for, while not taking sides, you should explain who is right, and make them aware of what they could do to resolve the issue peacefully. You'll also want to make sure that your children understand that verbal altercations are a part of life, the conversation should never progress beyond words.
2006-11-08 22:01:23 · answer #1 · answered by Michael H 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't tell us why they are fighting or what they fight over.
I would start by removing additives and sugar as much as possible from their diets - chocolate, sweets, squash, etc. These things will make them hyperactive.
Ensure they get to bed early enough so they are getting plenty of good sleep - anybody, even adults, will be irritable if they are too tired.
Encourage them to eat fruit and healthy food and drink plenty of plain water.
Make sure they have enough stimulating activities to occupy them.
Reward them with stickers on a chart like on Nanny 911. When they get enough stickers they get a treat.
Time them out when they misbehave - make sure this is clearly communicated to them and stick to it. On Nanny 911 they use 1 minute for each year of the child's age.
Tell your family that this is not a joke and is not funny and try to get them to be more mature and support you as you are having a bad time.
Hope this helps
2006-11-08 22:07:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My children also fight like cat and dog, they are now 7 and 6, both are girls, i used to worry and get anoyed with them and i'd tell them off, when one day after telling my seven year old not to fight with her sister said to me that they think i'm mean and i always stop there fun.
I was gobsmaked, but after that i always remember that and it makes me much more relaxed.
they wont really hurt one n'other,its mostly just there pride that gets hurt.when they are not fighting i see they are really a close unit, they just like each other to be in there place in the family.
I fought with my sister too, and when i think back we were closer than me and my other sister who never had a crossed word with me.
2006-11-08 22:12:01 · answer #3 · answered by tallulaberry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son (3) and daughter (6) can also fight like cat and dog at times and other times they are the best of friends. What I do when they fight is leave them unless I can see that it is getting out of hand or heading to the physical side - I think that this teaches them to fight their own battles and not always depend on mommy to sort it out. I know it can drive you to distraction but I just usually put the radio/TV louder and this tends to distract them. Remeber that one's siblings are usually who you would practise your social skills on as they are the first people we learn to know. Try to relax and let them sort each other out -
2006-11-08 22:32:58 · answer #4 · answered by CLEVER 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have 3 kids 11 years and twins of 7, they fight all the time, i fought with my brother, i thought this was normal. if it gets out of hand i usually remove something they love, ie, playstation, barbies etc.
it works for me. xxxxx
2006-11-08 22:00:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
when my children were younger they fought all the time, i used to say that if anyone wanted children then they could have mine for an hour that should soon change their mind!!!its proberly not much help, but i hope it made you smile!! good luck
2006-11-08 21:55:16 · answer #6 · answered by captain jack 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
nanny 911
2006-11-08 21:54:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its just sibling rivalry mine are at it all the time too
2006-11-09 00:07:25 · answer #8 · answered by JULIE S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It`s normal,still argue with my sister we are grandparents
2006-11-08 22:00:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋