im so tired of being used by men, all the lads who it thought who like me have gone off me now. i hate it. im soo bored of falling for it. is it a good idea going of them
2006-11-08 21:12:18 · 9 answers · asked by sarah_squidge 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
im not going to become a lesbian
2006-11-08 21:31:04 · update #1
join the club, ur lucky u found men i haven't but still i feel men are a waste of time until mr right comes my way of course
2006-11-08 21:15:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sarah, I want to start by saying that the concept of "being used" by someone else is a misnormer. During sex noboby is using anybody - it's a give-and-take thing. However, to the other point that those guys are going off from you, it's very unfortunate that your attitude is responsible for that. I'm talking from the perspective of a guy, if you'll be sincere with yourself you'll agree with me that you've been giving each of those guys the impression that you're either frustrated or desperate - or both. Therefore, what you need is simple - a change of attitude by taking things easy; a step-by-step approach. Never jump any step in relationship cos it'll surely backfire. Contact me through my profile for further discussion on this. cya.
2006-11-09 05:22:46 · answer #2 · answered by mykemejeje 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're attracting the wrong kind of men, you need to look at how you come across to them. A break might be a good idea, but unless you're going to change your sexual preferences, ie become a lesbian, then you can't just pretend they're not there.
2006-11-09 05:21:27 · answer #3 · answered by F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to try it, then so be it... Woman are precious in certain ways to where it's more of an intimacy thing, then a sex thing... Woman can have just as good sex as men and woman do but woman are alittle more sensual in certain ways and that's because we know what we really like.... There is nothing wrong with being curious and it's healthy to wonder about it... don't let homophobic people get you down about it... Their just really afraid that it might just be in them.... The only way you'll know if it's right for you is to try it...
2006-11-09 05:22:08 · answer #4 · answered by sexton 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You kill a bad habit by getting on another one, so if you go off men are you going to be lesbian?
When you decided to play the dating game, didnt anybody tell you that u're going to be hurt. Sorry but thats the way it is, when you put u're heart out there, chances are it's going to be stepped on, picked up for a while, then thrown away again.
LOVE IS NOT FOR THE FAINT-HEARTED!!!!!!!
2006-11-09 05:24:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1.Analyse your own value system.You should not expect from other that which you dont practice.
2.Be practicle.Many a time we live in wold of fantacy and get disturbed when our dreams are not fulfiiled by real world ppl.
3.learn not expecting anything in back when you give some thing .
4.World is not that much bad as we see it.It is not that good as much we dream it.All the time it is not same.
5.Pay attention on activity not on the actor.
Ithink this much will do.
Now hope now by appling these principles you will feel much fresh in company of males as well as females.
2006-11-09 05:20:40 · answer #6 · answered by Arun Frm Mumbai 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A friend of mine felt much like what you describe... she became a lesbian and has been very happy since....Good luck!
2006-11-09 05:17:54 · answer #7 · answered by zaytox0724 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds to me that maybe they went off you because you seem to have an attitude problem.
2006-11-09 05:16:29 · answer #8 · answered by MUSHMAN 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sure it is a good idea... now what???
become a lesbian?? have nothing to do with sex ever again???
2006-11-09 05:14:54 · answer #9 · answered by Forlorn Hope 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋