i have been with my man for 4 1/2 years and we have two great kids, i have just gone back to work and feel like im doing everything. the only time he cuddles up with me is when he knows he will be getting some!! we have been engaged for 4 years and every time we talk about a wedding he makes a joke. sometimes it feels like a confeneance realationship for him. i found out he had an internet fling and i decided i loved him enough to stay with him but said he had to try harder with me. like a nice text in the day or just a note lying around anything realy. but he cant do it i send ecards and texts and all i get back is "you soppy thing" i just dont know what to do any more it realy hurts when i feel i get nothing back from him.
2006-11-08 21:08:12 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
from the sounds of it, there have been a few changes in your relationship. how old are the kids?
if you've just gone back to work maybe he's feeling neglected.
was he used to having you at home, a nice meal on the table when he gets in and your undivided attention?
now you have a life of your own and wanna share that with him. he could feel less important to you, like maybe you dont need him as much. and i'm sure the kids take a lot of your time as well
so he could just be in a huge sulk.
talk to him, dont try and force affection from him it will just make him worse.
explain how you feel and ask him for his fellings on where your relationships going.
try and keep the communication going, let him know you love him but give him breathing space as well.
if after all this he doesnt change, sorry hun but you could do so much better
good luck
2006-11-08 22:08:38 · answer #1 · answered by emboo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love is a very funny thing but it definitely needs to come from both sides. i suppose u have to think That men and women are very different and show love differently but if u r struggling with this u need to talk to him about it and then depending on the result of that conversation, take it from there. u may find that u were only ment to be with him for a short while and have 2 great children together but in the long run Ur true love maybe out there just waiting for u. u have to make up ur mind for urself as it will ultamately be u making the final decission. u will always be in eachothers lives because u have children but that doesnt mean that u have to stay together. i dont feel like i can offer to much more o the situation but talk things thru and take it from there. everyone deserves more, dont ever settle for less than great.
good luck and take care
2006-11-09 06:16:28 · answer #2 · answered by Tbees 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds a little like my parents, there working throgh it know my dads quite cold sometimes and your never know where you are with him, my mum puts her attention on me cause she does get attention from my dad much.
Hes an entertainer an charms people making out hes a perfect gent forgeting about my mum whos left in the corner upset. When my mum tries to join in he takes the mick or is snappy.
I dont know what going to happen with them but their trying there best to work things out they both love each other but ther communication is shocking.
I wish you all the luck in the world, and look aftre those kids of your make sure they are okay.
Claire x
2006-11-09 05:19:40 · answer #3 · answered by darbys_babbs 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
give this man a kick up the butt! make him think he's gonna loose you and be prepared to go through with it, everyone need to feel wanted and he isnt doing that for you. why cant he do it? how hard can it be to just send a txt saying thinking of you? he's making no effort at all and needs to be made aware that he will actually loose you. course, it may be he just isnt bothered and takes you for granted. i think you've done all you can do, the onus is on you bf.
2006-11-09 05:52:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
from ur words i can tell that u'll die withiut him !
u don' thave the right to fell like that ! u know why?
cause u need to know that the world is full of men who can appreciat ur love!
he don't want u anymore so he don't deserve u or ur love or ur thinking about him !
don' tthink about him , try to concntrate on ur life ( work , babies, urself) and beleive me when the man fell that the women he used to fell that he owns her now don' tthink about him and she's not crying on the spiled milk he'll get crazy !!
if u want him back do as i told u , and if he hadn' t come back beleive u'll find ur man ( the real one who deserve u)
but always take care of u r looking (be hot )
don't be sorry 4 him and ignore him even in ur thinking and u'll be ok!!
wish to u a better man and my best regards to u and to ur babies!!!!!!!!!!
2006-11-09 05:27:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm more concerned about the 4 year engagement. He's got other issues if he's strung you along for that amount of time.
2006-11-09 05:14:20 · answer #6 · answered by aaxmym 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u to need to talk a big one. tell him how u feel. give him options 1 stay an love u or 2 throw him out, up to u but u need to talk good luck
2006-11-09 05:13:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him your relationship is over and mean it. He doesn't sound worthy of you and needs a big scare to see how life is without you. Hope things work out for you how you want. Do not bother trying to change this man, people only change themselves if they want to - you will only alienate him if you try to change him.
2006-11-09 05:39:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi.
I think that his proposal won't solve any of your problems. He will probably stay more or less on the same affection level with or without the ring. You should better learn to live with him and accept him as he is, of prepare for continuous disapointments....
Gal
2006-11-09 05:13:53 · answer #9 · answered by Gali A 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
he sounds like he is bored i guess,
you two need a big talk find out what you both want, dont waste your life with someone who dont want the same as you.
xXx good luck xXx
2006-11-09 05:35:50 · answer #10 · answered by Fader's Girl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋