he wants to have sex..and im not sure of what to do..?

Question

we've been steady for more than 7months by now..but still, i really dont know what to do..this would be our first intercourse, that is, if i agree..

Answer 1

tell him NO...your not ready...i know this because if you were ready you would not be asking this question...if the time is not right than the timing is not going to be right...when your ready you know...besides most of the time people give in to temptation the relationship heads south and then they wish they did not give into temptation...

if he has any respect for you he will understand when you say NO

Good Luck Friend...

Answer 2

If you're not ready for intercourse yet, don't do it. Or else you'll be a like fool, making things worse. Read up some sexual books available in the library or visit websites that guide you on the tips of good love-making. You can try this website at www.ivillage.com for more details to get you started and going!!!

Answer 3

If you're unsure, DON'T DO IT!!! It's not like being a virgin is going to kill you. Hell, I'm 21 and virgin by choice, not because I'm Christian or anything, but because sex is something that two people who truly love each other do. How do you know you love each other? Time will tell. (Like, years if need be).

Coinsidently, people that love each other form bonds called "marriage" and figure that if they can dress up goofy in front of their family and friends, agree to a few things that a church-guy says, and commit to a vow or two, then they're ready to get dirty.

But that's just my take on it...

If your boyfriend really and truly loves you, he'll quit badgering you and either whack off to your picture or he'll dump you because he's a horny f*ckwit.

Answer 4

"That is if I agree". Sounds like you are negotiating a business deal. It's only been seven months. Cool it! If you don't know what to do then don't do anything at all. Concentrate on growing up. Both of you get your heads together and start acting mature with each other. Anyway chances are if you give in to him he'll dump you.Think about it.

Answer 5

I dont no how old u are. But also, I didn't no that there are guys who are that patient - 7 months! Looks like he respects u. If u are not ready, I suggest u don't do it.

Answer 6

Of course you did not mention age. I believe you should go with your gut feelings. All of what you have experienced,learned,and believe are within you. Just by asking you really already know the answer in your heart of hearts.

Answer 7

If you are hesitant, then don't do it. Don't have sex just for the sake of giving in to him.

Sex should be a mutual agreement/consent between 2 mature individuals who should know what are the responsibilities and what are the consequences.

Answer 8

No don't have sex with him. Because you might not know if that guy is your prince charming and anyways virginty is the best gift you can give to the right person...so don't have sex with him yet let him wait until you're both married...

Answer 9

If you are in doubt, then don't do it. The length of time does not justify it. You have to be comfortable with this. All guys basically want to get sex, that's foremost on their minds. I know it, I am a man myself.

Answer 10

Friend, you’re clearly very stressed by your boyfriend’s wanting to have sex with you, which means he has been pushing you to do it because he wants it very much. A seven-month-old relationship should make him love you as a human being and not want you in some average and small-minded way. Sorry to say, it’s always typical for a boy to want sex as the next step. A girl I once knew was seduced by her boyfriend twice, got pregnant the second time, broke up with her boyfriend for pushing her to have sex, had an abortion that nearly killed her daughter (who will grow up fatherless and handicapped), and is now a boy phobic lesbian. You don’t want to end up like her and this is why you have to take this as seriously as possible.

But maybe I can help you make your mind up. The best sexual education guide I’ve read was this piece from a booklet by Journeyworks Publishing. Read it carefully and think about each and every one of the fifty reasons not to have sex because (1) this is emotionally, physically, and psychologically one of the most important choices you will have to make during your teens and (2) you could have to make it again and again if you wind up in other relationships.

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Think you’re ready to go all the way? Are you sure? Sexually transmitted infections, unplanned pregnancy, and emotional doubts are all good reasons to wait! Before you go too far, take a look at this list. Or make up your own ways to finish this sentence:

You’re not ready to have sex if…

(1) You think sex equals love.
(2) You feel pressured.
(3) You’re afraid to say no.
(4) It’s just easier to give in.
(5) You think everyone else is doing it. (They’re not!)
(6) Your instincts tell you not to.
(7) You don’t know the facts about pregnancy.
(8) You don’t understand how birth control works.
(9) You don’t think a woman can get pregnant the first time. (She can.)
(10) It goes against your moral beliefs.
(11) It goes against your religious beliefs.
(12) You’ll regret it in the morning.
(13) You feel embarrassed or ashamed.
(14) You’re doing it to prove something.
(15) You can’t support a child.
(16) You can’t support yourself.
(17) Your idea of commitment is a 3-day video rental.
(18) You believe sex before marriage is wrong.
(19) You don’t know how to protect yourself from HIV—the virus that causes AIDS.
(20) You don’t know the signs and symptoms of sexually transmitted infections (STIs, also called STDs).
(21) You think it will make your partner love you.
(22) You think it will make you love your partner.
(23) You think it will keep you together.
(24) You hope it will change your life.
(25) You don’t want it to change your life.
(26) You’re not ready for the relationship to change.
(27) You’re drunk.
(28) You wish you were drunk.
(29) Your partner is drunk.
(30) You expect it to be perfect.
(31) You’ll just die if it’s not perfect.
(32) You can’t laugh together about awkward elbows and clumsy clothes.
(33) You’re not ready to take off your clothes.
(34) You think HIV and AIDS only happen to other people.
(35) You think you can tell who has HIV by looking at them.
(36) You don’t think teens get HIV. (They do.)
(37) You don’t know that abstinence is the only 100% protection against sexually transmitted infections and pregnancy.
(38) You haven’t talked about tomorrow.
(39) You can’t face the thought of tomorrow.
(40) You’d be horrified if your parents found out.
(41) You’re doing it just so your parents will find out.
(42) You’re too scared to think clearly.
(43) You think it will make you more popular.
(44) You think you “owe it” to your partner.
(45) You think it’s not OK to be a virgin.
(46) You’re only thinking about yourself.
(47) You’re not thinking about yourself.
(48) You can’t wait to tell everyone about it.
(49) You hope no one will hear about it.
(50) You really wish the whole thing had never come up.

It’s OK to wait.

From “You’re Not Ready To Have Sex If...” Copyright 1996 Journeyworks Publishing, Santa Cruz, California.

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My opinion is you are certainly not ready to lose your virginity because in your case many of the things listed above are probably true, because you would not be asking other people what they thought if you did not have a lot of good second thoughts. If, after your second thoughts, you don’t want to have sex (at least for the time being), you have to make it very clear to your boyfriend what’s acceptable and what’s off limits. If he truly cares about you, he will respect that. If he doesn’t, it will be time for a new boyfriend.