i wanna control my boyfriend's money spending. like anytime he buys something i try to decide if it was worth it or not. he just got an ebay account and i dunno it just aggravates me seeing his purchases. he was saying how broke he is. but then hes buying like a knive belt... why would he need this? and a stungun? i dont even know what that is.. but it looks weird. and he bought me bunny ears to wear... actually i try to control everyones spending habits. i'm very cheap and i only like spending my money on things i know i'm gonna get a lot of use out of. how can i stop worrying about his money/wishing he'd just spend his money on meee?
2006-11-08 19:58:29 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
and when i said he should spend his money on me i mostly meant stuff that he'd get a use out of to. if you know what i mean. which you probably dont. oh well
2006-11-08 20:16:39 · update #1
Perhaps you think you are being helpful but to be honest with you, you sound obsessed with the spending of your boyfriend and others.
They earn the money so they should be able to spend it how they want to and you should not interfere.
If you keep this up you may loose your friends and your boyfriend.
Being thrifty is not a bad thing, but you must try to keep your opinions of others spending to yourself.
2006-11-08 20:03:40 · answer #1 · answered by sadgirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are trying to make him into someone that he is not. It's his money that he earned so he should be able to choose how he spends it. He will be the one to suffer the consequences if he blows it all and a bill or urgent need comes up. If you two were married than the two of you would work out a budget and decide jointly on the finances, but until than you have no right to tell him what to do with his own money. If you keep this up he might leave you over it.
2006-11-09 04:09:55 · answer #2 · answered by BetteBoop 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have got an obsession. You need to relax. You are always worrying about money and whether you will have enough for the things you need in life. This is why you don't like to splash out on other things. You don't want to leave yourself broke, but you have to live a little to you know. You have become so obsessed with managing your money that you are constantly thinking about it and thinking about the way others spend. You need to chill out and stop worrying so much. You can afford the necessities in life along with a few extras, enjoy yourself a bit...
2006-11-09 04:08:55 · answer #3 · answered by Lucy_L_B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thing is you can't control him or his decisions cos he won't change. And since you're not married you have no legal obligations to. Either accept his spending ways but let him know how you feel or move on. Money is such a serious issue and if it upsets you now, you're going to be in for big trouble later.
2006-11-09 04:02:07 · answer #4 · answered by Craiova 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Until he start counting how much he loose is not going to stop. When I loose so much for garbage and the scumbags charge too much. I quite and broke the computer, disconnect net service and no more EBay. I even erase the fa ken icon from my computer to not see eBay, I hate this boll shiet. Is addiction to buy and i experienced you better do something before he loose more money.
2006-11-09 04:09:02 · answer #5 · answered by Toto 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can only control one thing in life - YOURSELF. You can try your whole life to control anything about someone else - it may work for awhile.... not for long. I believe that if you cannot change it, accept it. Or let it go. If you have trouble with this... try getting some counseling - there may be some "hidden" reasons behind your behavior that you will need to work through. Good luck.
2006-11-09 04:40:35 · answer #6 · answered by zaytox0724 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At least you are honest about it. Try asking him what he gets out of buying all the useless stuff. Some people are like that, but will recognise their futile ways if explained to them. However, if your motives like you say are selfish, then it will counter-productive. If you want him to listen, it would have to be for his sake or for the sake of your future life TOGETHER.
2006-11-09 04:10:18 · answer #7 · answered by seek_fulfill 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be so selfish, its not all about you. He only has one life let the guy buy what ever gives him a little joy. I can understand you dont want him to waste and you also may be looking out for him.
2006-11-09 04:06:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh girl. You are a control freak! Leave it be. It is his money and you need to let him be who he is. He will do as he needs. Stand to the side. Not ahead. Not back, Get it?
2006-11-09 04:06:10 · answer #9 · answered by bountyhunter101 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be so controlling this could cause all kinds of problems. Why should he just spend his money on you. Do you spend all your money on him?
2006-11-09 04:02:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋