How to ask out black girls and what to talk about?

Question

I need help on how to approach black girls. I never had any black friends, and simply never had any contact with black people up until college, but I find myself attracted more and more to black girls. The only problem is that the ones I find attractive, bluntly put, the ones that look like a music video dancer, I have nothing in common with. And to top things off, I am not a good dancer. Is this hopeless situation?

Be serious guys. I feel silly to tell you truth. Kind of like Napoleon Dynamite's brother.

You guys are right. I get really uncomfortable more so than usual and have stereotypical views that would like to shed. I think I'll just take it easy, meet more people and just see what happens.

Forgot to mention, that I went out once to a club and that's when I learned that I didnt know how to dance. What we do is not dancing. This girl danced circles around me. Sucked the confidence right out and she had that look of frustration. Akward situation.

Answer 1

You would ask a girl out politely. Do not assume that all blacks can dance. We are all from the human race. Perhaps you have more in common than your realize. That is the reason for dating. Just realize that if you have preconceived notions about someone doesn't always go over well. Keep and open mind and be yourself.

Answer 2

Ok... your question doesnt say this but im going to go ahead and assume that you are white.
The first thing you can do is loose the stereotypes. Music videos depict black women to be something that I assure you most are not. If you are attracted to black women because you are attracted to the whole video girl thing then yeah... it is pretty hopeless. I know quite a few white guys at my college who have the same idea... and to be honest its difficult to get to know someone when they have preconcieved notions like that. Its the most aggravating thing EVER to be approached by someone who instantly profiles you. Don't do it! You never know what you do and do not have in common with someone until you talk to them. And there is no one way to ask a "black girl" out, just like theres no specific way to ask any type of girl out. You just have to be confident and outgoing. You even seem to stereotype yourself a bit... Napoleon Dynamite's bro? Who cares if you cant dance? The important thing is to flaunt whats special about you and what makes you a good person. You will find a nice girl that you find attractive, all you have to do is put yourself on the line and keep in mind that the person youre talking to may not be that different from you after all. good luck :)

Answer 3

This really isn't even a question. Like all realtaionships, there will have to be some common ground. If you think your inability to get a date has to do with skin color, then my friend, you have bigger issues than your inability to dance. Skin color doesn't have a thing to do with it. It's all about personal relationships and being friendley. For example, when I was in school, our head cheerleader was a drop dead georgeous blond with all the physical attributes that drive guys crazy. She had two other features worth mentioning for this illustration. One, she was a powerfull athlete, outperforming most everyone else in the school. Two she was extremely intelligent. With all this going for her, she was rarely seen out on the town. Everyone assumed she was stuck up and wouldn't date the local guys-she was just out of their/our league. I found out after talking with her (end eventually dating for a while) that very assumption caused alot of misery for her. Those assumptions led to a simple fact, she was almost never asked out and was so lonely she would have agreed to go on a date with just about anyone that would have given her the opportunity-including your truly. We had great time while we dated and parted as friends, but we were first and foremost just two people who wanted to reach out into a world other than our own.

Answer 4

Dude. It's the easiest thing in the world!!

Workout like a maniac until your body is as chiseled as the rapper who the dancing girls are grinding against. I suggest steroids for fast results. Then take a diuretic the night you're ready to make a move and you can pick up as many dancing girls as you like...

Alternatively, you could approach the girl you're genuinely interested in and ask her out on a date, much like you'd ask any other girl out.

If you feel that being blunt isn't the best way to make the approach, drop subtle hints to ascertain whether your interest is reciprocated. If the vibes then say yes, ask her out, but be prepared for rejection.

And if you get rejected, don't get discouraged. Move on. It's all a numbers game. The more you try, the better you get. And I've heard plenty of stories from friends who've tried, failed, and later succeeded when the girl they asked out approached them later in the year. You're not a mind reader, sometimes people aren't interested in relationships at particular times in their lives.

Good luck!

Answer 5

Yes because you are already going into the situation with stereotypical views (music video dancers?)..Black women are not just about dancing...Try concentrating on the fact that you are attracted to the woman...Not the fact that she is a "black" women...You'll do better...You proabaly have lots of things in common with them.

Answer 6

The black girls i know have no desires to be treated any different than any other women.. As for what to talk about? Again they have the same interest's and to converse in area's you have no interest in, or knowledge of is a lie.. The whole idea of dating is to get to know someone and enjoy their company.. If you put on a false front than the relationship is meaningless. Be yourself, not to worry, she will be herself if she is a true and honest women.. As for dancing be honest again, let them know your interested in learning to dance and would enjoy her teachings; that's also a very good date idea.. Good luck.

Answer 7

never ask a black woman if she "likes white guys"...remember jungle fever goes both ways...some black girls prefer white guys, or are "curious"...black's have stereotypes and myths about whites too...stereotypes about whites include that they are sexually "freaky" and will do things black men won't, and not just oral sex...just be yourself, your confident self that is...do not try to "act black"...a black woman who likes/prefers white men WANTS you to be different! I can't dance, do not like hip-hop, don't know the difference between FuBu and RocaWear...I am confident and COMFORTABLE with who I am...if a woman likes me, cool, if not "keep it moving"
Most of that is the way to be with all women...what a suprise

Answer 8

It is hopeless if you feel you have nothing in common. If you're really INTERESTED in them, however, you would make an attempt to see if maybe you do have something in common after all.

Answer 9

I donot see where the difference is. It is all in your head. Treat then like anyone else and u will be fine.

Answer 10

First of all you don't identify them as "black girls". They are African American women.

Don't be limited to the fact that they are great dancers. cause they can sing too you know...Aske them to teach you to dance. Thats the best way to break the ice.... they will laugh, but hey you got their attention.

These women are great period. Just like any other women, girls, babes as we all put it, from different races.

Treat them with respect just like your mother.
Care for them like you little sister.
Make love to them like no other!

Peace!