I have this female frnd,we are very good frnds,but are not dating but flirting a lil though not committed.She flirts with all guys and had 2 bfs before.Now she is alone.She is an attention freak.I did not write to her/call her for about 7-8 days cos i wanted space to myself and had a death in my extended family and was no mood to speak to her.I wrote to her after 10 days and said the reason for not writing.Now she is not responing and is ignoring me.She feels ppl are born to give her attention all the time.should i write to her saying sorry and request her to reply or just behave as nothin has happened cos i have already written and its her turn to respond...i dont like her attitude and cant be put up with it for long but dont want to lose a frnd fo silly reason either.Whta should i do?
2006-11-08 18:51:36 · 17 answers · asked by siddharthmalhotra2001 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't write and wonder whether she writes back and when, just call her!
At least you'd spend less time in thinking it all over from all the different angles, and you'll have the best chance of making up the things between the two of you.
The direct conversation is the best, the result is unclear (i don't know you, nor her), but at least I know this much: ask so as to be answered , admit your mistake so as to have your conscience clear from that on, ypu'd know you've done anything that was up to you!
Good luck
2006-11-08 18:58:09 · answer #1 · answered by venitoo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Based on your description, I would say the your friend is a really egoistic person.
She is no friend if she can't accept nor respect that you wanted to be alone when one in your family died.
Why don't you ask her how she would have wanted you to react if she didn't call/write to you a couple of days because someone in her family had passed away?
If she want others to love and respect her and her needs, then she must do the same thing to them. That is what friendship is all about.
Is she really willing to abandon your friendship just because of you not calling/writing her for 10 days? If she yes, then one day she will be a very lonely person.
You shall not apologize to her, it is she who should apologize to you for being an egoistic jerk.
2006-11-09 03:15:32 · answer #2 · answered by Mathias H 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hi here im sorry that you have lost amember of youre family ,that is a really hard thing to go through ....ive been there ,youre friend hasnt responded to youre letter ,she to could be going through a hard time and sorting her life out ,she might not have knowen about youre sudden loss and is a away on holiday or dealing with her family problems you have been in contact wither ,give her a chance to reply and if nothing why dont you phone her and have a chat you seem to like this girl so dont drop her just because she hasnt got back in contact there could be problems with her..........good luck and take care xx
2006-11-09 03:04:56 · answer #3 · answered by a parent hows been there !! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget it! If she is seeking all this attention, you are in for a lot of headaches, she is not into you only, she wants to play, that's what players do, she is a narcissist if she thinks people are born to give her attention read this page about NARCISSISTS, it's a huge problem, they never change, read up on it, you won't want to be anywhere near her, once this sinks in.
http://personalitydisorders.suite101.com/article.cfm/narcissism_therapy
2006-11-09 03:14:58 · answer #4 · answered by You are loved 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have already explained yourself to her there isnt need to apologize further. You dont want to lose a friend but it seems she hasnt been a good friend after you told her what happened and she is now ignoring you after a bad time.
2006-11-09 02:59:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
give her some time and space and then when things have settled down, try to rekindle the friendship. I would wait and then call her during the holidays or send her a christmas card later to patch things up. but, why do you want her for a friend if she acts like that???
2006-11-09 02:58:08 · answer #6 · answered by bambi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to break this to you, but it sound like she only thinks about herself and not you or anyone, you've made you move now it's her turn, if she doesn't respond that's her loss not yours!
But then again did you tell her why you didn't talk to her in those ten days? She might just think that you forgot all about her
2006-11-09 03:01:06 · answer #7 · answered by Sheepless 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This isn't a real friend evidently. You've already said you don't like her attitude.
What do you think she has to offer you? If it's a one way street with you doing all the giving, then she isn't a friend, and you come off looking like a chump.
Find someone who can add value to your life for the value you can add to theirs.
2006-11-09 02:59:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
God!!!! wats tough in this ,she does not seem to b a frnd at all,first she likes to gather others attention,she does not cares about u'r sadness,she showed no sympathy for the death tat took place in u'r family.......................................plz she wasn't u'r frnd so u shud not feel bad if she's not speaking to u,dont expect anything
2006-11-09 03:15:01 · answer #9 · answered by shambhavi 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Write a letter for her, tell her about ur concerns and tell her she has to learn to live without male attention coz is destructive
2006-11-09 02:58:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋