Do people who are despised in their childhood grow up to have low self-esteem and dependent on ego?

Question

If so, why is it their fault for have very low self-esteem and become so overprotective of their ego that they actually hurt people?

So if Hitler or the Green River killer are burning in Hell right now, it is of no fault of their own?

Answer 1

Yes, we have had very low self esteem.

Yes, some of us have become very overprotective.

So, what is the purpose of your quesiton?

Answer 2

It has been proven that our prison population is made up of a very high percentage of persons who had a despicable childhood.

In my opinion, your childhood can affect your self-esteem. Ego is a convenient way of making something appear to be more than it is. Harming another person should not be part of the solution to fixing low self esteem, but it does seem to be a solution for some people.

Answer 3

children of alcholics often grow up to be alcoholics--it is the behavior they saw modeled for them in their home when they were children. Children who were despised as children sometimes grow up to be abusers for much the same reason. It is a sorry cycle that takes a great deal of courage and usually counselling to break. Some people who have been put-down and despised become very compassionate people who don't want to see others, especially children suffer as they did. So it is not fair to say all who were abused will become abusers. I think one reason that some people are so "dependent on ego" is I think many of these people so hated being despised that they vowed to themselves that "it won't always be this way, some day I will conquer my despisers and then I will show them how it feels!" Millions of dollars have been made advertising to skinny boys who think themselves weak and unable to stand up to bullies who'kick sand in their face'. Weight lifting and physical finess have been sold to young men with the message "never be despised again. You can have the respect of men, the adoration of females by building muscles and being the strongest guy around. Nobody will make fun of you. They wouldn't dare!" This is called "overcompensation" and I'm sure women have the same issues going on-- they just express it in different ways--"I'm going to make myself so pretty and attractive that no one would dare to despise me. Men will admire me and other women will be jealous of my beauty!" None of us likes to be despised and it also does not excuse one becoming so overprotective of his or her ego that they lash out when they feel threatened and hurt people. It is a defense mechaaism: I'll hurt you so much you won't ever come around and despise, mock or ridicule me anymore. I'll hurt you more than you hurt me. You'll see, then you won't dare disrespect me again."

Hope this helps. I am not a trained psychologist, so take what I say with a grain of salt.--just observations.
-Spec

Answer 4

Low self esteem is of its holding u back from stuff. For example if ur nervous to go to class becuz "oh maybe my hair is messy" then thats low self esreem. Everyone thinks themselves as low. I bet even super models think once in a while "oh my body can be better" and stuff. But u said ur social so dont worry bout it.

Answer 5

possibly. but everyone can learn to live past their childhood by simply turning their back on it. I know a guy who was told he would ammount to nothing because his parents were the town drunks, yetas a teenager, he moved away, and learned a new way of living and is now the millionaire owner of a computer software corporation

Answer 6

I think it depends on the person himself, and his level of education and awarness...Many people were dispised in their childhood and lived through very tough times, but grew up to be great thinkers and writers

Answer 7

Probably, but I can't see how exactly is it "their fault." Maybe you need to learn English first. The only "fault" such people have is not seeking help from professionals.

Answer 8

Yes
The trick is to minimize the damage by bringing it to yourself instead of other people.

Answer 9

ya that's true. So what's ur point?!?

Answer 10

somewhat .....yes they do