How do you explain to a 3 year old about strangers,what to do, and about telling me if anything is done wrong?

Answer 1

Well, I explained to my 3 year old (he's four now), that there are bad men/woman in the world. Didn't go into any detail...I told him to never talk to people he didn't know unless mommy or daddy was with him. I told him there are good touches (ex: pat on back, high five, etc...), and bad touches (i didn't go into much detail on this one...) in a kid friendly way, and to always let mommy and daddy know if someone touches him and makes him feel uncomfortable, sad, etc... Now that he's four I've got book we read at least once a week about this very subject...Be Safe Pack. Good luck, use you intuition, and your child's personality as your guide. I didn't want to scare my son...just make him aware not everyone is as nice as friends and family... good luck!

Answer 2

Well, with the help of my mother-in-law, we have taught my 3 yr. old...STRANGER DANGER! He's a little cold to sweet old ladies in the supermarket, but better safe than sorry. He doesn't talk to ANY strangers and we go over who is a stranger and who isn't a stranger (ex.: Is Uncle Matt a stranger? toddler: NO mama: that's right, because we know him....Is the man at the gas station a stranger? YES ...that's right, becasue we don't know him. I just go over it and over it. All strangers are bad and we don't talk to them at all. I bring up every so often to keep it fresh on his mind. One time while at a stop sign, I waved for a lady to go ahead and turn in front of me and my son says...OOOHHH, I'm telling daddy! You waved to a stranger! I also explained that NO ONE could touch his special parts- not even mommy or daddy and to TELL, TELL, TELL even if someone said not to. You just can NEVER be to sure.

Answer 3

All the answers given are good but you also need to teach the kids that some strangers are GOOD.... policemen, security guards, even people that work in stores. If they get lost in a shopping centre they will be scared to death thinking everyone is a bad person.

But also like the others said.. at 3 years old the best thing is never to let them out of your sight.

Answer 4

You need to be honest but try to keep it as simple as possible!!!
We are actually doing this with my 4 year old right still!!!

You can start by asking if grandma, aunt so&so daddy or whoever are strangers...make sure she know specifically who is NOT a stranger...this is key!!!
Then think of people the two of you might see often or daily...the mailman...a neighbor you might wave to and make sure that she knows that just because we see them alot that they are still strangers because we don't know them!!! Use patience it will take consistency to get the result your looking for!!!!
Turn it into a game!!!
Also be sure to tell her what she CAN do if she's in a public place and someone tries to talk to her ...let her to know to scream...anything teach her to yell "fire" or "He's not my daddy" or" She's not my mommy."

Answer 5

When it comes down to it a three-year-old shouldn't be in a situation where parents or care-givers aren't around, so the thing about not talking to strangers shouldn't be an issue this young.

You could, of course, simply tell your child if anyone ever touches him/her in private places he/she should tell you. You don't have to dwell on it. Just mention it once in a while.

I spent I don't know how much time telling my kids about never, ever, talking to strangers. So did my sister. Between us we have six kids. One day we were visiting my mother, and the children were out in the cul de sac-type neighborhood. They were pretty much playing in the front yard. The children were not all that young - the youngest may have been six, there were a couple of ten-year-olds, and a couple other ages. Again, she and I thought we had drilled and drilled these children into NEVER, EVER talking to any strangers they don't know.

They came in and brought some advertising-type material. One of us said, "Where did you get that?" One of them said, "From the lady and man in the car." I said, "You talked to people in a car?" One child said, quite confidently, "They were nice."

My kids and my sister's kids were all pretty smart kids, and they had been told over and over again not to talk to strangers. We had said sometimes people look nice. It became clear to me that children just are not always capable of remembering the rule or of using sound judgment. Again, these weren't three-year-olds and they weren't stupid kids.

News programs have tested children and even college students about strangers, and the same kind of thing always happens. A three-year-old just has to be watched and cared for by trustworthy people and not expected to be able to really grasp any rules about strangers (or even touching).

Answer 6

Read Protecting the Gift. It's a great book about protecting our kids from predators.

I think a big key is to have a very good relationship with your child. Always listen to him/her and contradict their feelings. If they say they are cold, hungry, hot, tired, don't tell them they're not. If they feel you listen to them they will be more likely to talk to you if anything bad happens.

Answer 7

TELL HER TO NOT ALLOW ANYONE TO TOUCH HER PRIVATE PARTS EVEN IN FUN OR TICKLE HER TELL HER TO SHOUT OR CRY AS LOUD AS SHE CAN SCREAM IF ANYONE TOUCHES HER