I’m not interested in what you think they should do to change themselves, I am curious what you think when you see someone who is anywhere from chubby to morbidly obese. Do you think less of this person? If so why?
2006-11-08 18:33:49 · 22 answers · asked by ~moon~ 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
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2006-11-08 18:38:45 · update #1
I dont' think less of the person. I think they should get exercising though.
2006-11-08 18:34:59 · answer #1 · answered by Jae 2 · 3⤊ 2⤋
As a guy who has moved from the morbidly obese category down to the chubby category i feel sorry for them.
Not because they are fat, but because i know what it feels like to have people look at you, or judge you for having an ice cream when it is hot as hell. I hate that people who have never experienced being larger than most can not see past the layers of insulation to the real person inside.
The only time I can admit I do think less of someone who is big is when I am serving them in the supermarket, and 9 out of 10 items are junk food. It is not a "how could you put this into your mouth with that body" type of thinking less, rather "someday you will see that all you are doing is making yourself more depressed by eating this".
Being fat is a vicious cycle, and any person who thinks less of a person who carries an extra couple of pounds should try and walk a mile in their shoes. Then you will truly know what it feels like to be persecuted.
2006-11-09 03:48:13 · answer #2 · answered by shauny2807 3 · 8⤊ 1⤋
I generally don't pay attention unless they're wearing something that makes them look really ridiculous (like the mid-forties/overweight women who show up at WalMart with tiny shirts, no bra, and a foot of cleavage that they wouldn't have if they didn't weigh 180 lbs.).
Other than the person who calls attention to themselves with horrible, tacky, clothing I don't think anything at all about other people's weight. They're them. I'm me.
I do know, though, that many people with weight problems take in too many calories because they have a whole lot of demands made on them and need the energy to keep going. Stress also makes cortisol levels rise, which makes people hungry.
I live in my "wonderful" little self-absorbed world where I only worry about my own kids and me. Its great.
2006-11-09 04:23:19 · answer #3 · answered by WhiteLilac1 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is a very interesting question.
I do have a weight problem, but it's small now. I would like to lose about 10 lbs. I love to eat and I do eat for comfort (psychological reasons) and not just when I am hungry.
When I was younger, I was more overweight, but I managed to lose weight through Weight Watchers and then I just realized that I would always have a weight problem and must forever be on my guard with food.
The reason I mention this is because I think it makes me sympathetic to people who have a weight problem like obesity. I feel that I understand them and that I could easily be in their shoes.
My sister-in-law is obese and she tried to lose weight, which she did, but she did not succeed in keeping it off. Even though, she is obese, she carries herself with confidence, always dress well and looks her best. She also has won awards at her job. My brother loves her madly and she is a wonderful mother as well. I must admit that I admire her, but her obesity does concern me because I know it's very unhealthy for her.
I would sum up by saying, I empathize with their problem, but I wish all these obese people would make every effort to lose weight because they are endangering their health.
2006-11-09 06:36:44 · answer #4 · answered by happy inside 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't judge a person from there outward appearance...inside is a person with feelings just as any other person..
I won't say that sometimes i see people eating all this fast food and think~~"yea you really need that".. but i am saying that cuz they should be eating healthier..
there is many reasons why people overeat~~medically and emotionally
People should offer the hand of "help and understanding" rather than "ridicule and judgment"
2006-11-09 08:18:54 · answer #5 · answered by Katfish 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You can tell what a person values by the way they look and act. If they are fat and eat when not hungry, they value oral gratification more than being trim.
Being over weight does not mean lazy, dum or useless. It just means that fat people place a high value on oral gratification.
I think about oral consumption just about all the time but because I value being trim I don't allow myself to over consume.
2006-11-09 03:03:32 · answer #6 · answered by Kuntree 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think of them as PEOPLE. I judge them by their personality and actions, not by their weight or looks. Their weight is none of my business. I don't think less of them for having a problem. Everyone has problems, some people just have more obvious ones than others. It doesn't make them any worse than others.
2006-11-09 02:42:52 · answer #7 · answered by undir 7 · 5⤊ 1⤋
That's hilarious...do i think 'less' of someone b/c they're obese. Good one.
I think less of them in the sense that they have no discipline. I believe that discipline comes in many forms and one of them involves telling yourself not to eat the 12th donut. I'm always amazed at obese, succesful people- of all the hard work it took to become successful, they just couldn't discipline themselves to stop eating. I think even less of obese people who blame their obesity on things outside their control- like, "oh i have a slow metabolism"- that has nothing to do with it if your pumping your system with fast food and candy.
2006-11-09 04:40:36 · answer #8 · answered by theWord 5 · 2⤊ 4⤋
To be honest, my first impression is to think less of them. I just feel if they'd stop eating and move around a little, they'd drop the weight like water. No one expects fat people to become supermodels, but why in the world can't they make a little effort to take care of themselves.
On one hand, there is a lot of research out there that at least a minority of fat people have conditions that prevent them from feeling full, so they eat and eat and eat. On the other hand, most countries in the world don't have obese people. They COULD do something - keep chowing on celery and carrots, not cake and cookies and chips.
Once I talk to people their intelligence and personality definitely take over as the first impression, but if I see a monster in front of me my first thought is definitely "damn, take the cookie OUT of the mouth..."
2006-11-09 02:55:12 · answer #9 · answered by ZenPenguin 7 · 3⤊ 7⤋
I think it's a problem and a very obvious one. I don't think I'm better than them. I guess we all need help. But I can't lose someone's addiction for them. Fat doesn't make a person good or bad, but I don't necessarily sympathize with them either.
2006-11-09 02:45:36 · answer #10 · answered by will 4 · 2⤊ 3⤋
No I dont feel like they are less of a person,I just like to see their inner beauty.I feel sorry for them,just because ive seen close hand how it is to be fat,and there are cruel people,who think they are somehow less of a person.I really truly like to treat everyone with dignity and respect.
2006-11-09 02:36:50 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 2⤋