ok...
well I have this bf his name is chris and we havent talked in a LONG time and we just dont ever talk hardly at all..so I asked a ? before on here and everyone told me I needed to move on..So I have and I feel really bad about it but I love this new guy and he treats me really good..I just dont know why I feel so bad about the other guy because he was never there for me yet I miss him..
can someone please help me out and let me know what I should do ..How do I handle this how do I cope ..How do I love this new guy like he loves me..
please let me know..thanks for all the help
~~~MACK~~~
2006-11-08 18:11:55 · 16 answers · asked by Brittany 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ok ..
I am only 15 and thats why I am askin this..I really want to erase chris but ,I just cant.I really love bryan more than you guys think I do and he was there when chris wasnt and is still there for me..Bryan is one of the nicest guyz I have met in a LONG time...I just think that I am being unfair to him and I am not being the best for him..
2006-11-08 18:36:23 · update #1
after most of these anwsers I have seen I have come to relize that I am NOT being faithful to ma new bf..I really feel bad because of it and I am moving on wit ma life..I am always told I am pretty and loved and all that by bryan and I am not really understanding how he could say that about such a loser like me...I dont know but he is someone I will never forget and i will love for a long time.I will treasure him like he does me and I will treat him like he does me...I wont think about chris anymore and Iwill focus on ma new guy..(bryan)..thank you guys for making me wake up and see who I truely love..and if you would please still anwser the ? as I need more anwsers I would appriciate it..
~~4 ever MACK~~
2006-11-08 18:47:44 · update #2
Maybe this new guy isn't the right one for you. Maybe you are looking for something too soon and the time is not right. Believe me when it happens you will not have to ask. You will already know that the person is right without asking. That is the time when you know that it does not matter to ask. LL.
2006-11-08 18:21:28 · answer #1 · answered by italliansweety67 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off you need to accept that this man is no longer apart of your life, you need to accept that it's over, thats why your having such a hard time getting on with your life b/c you are not allowing yourself to let go of something that you once had, it hurts like hell but you need to realize that your ex has moved on with his life and that he is not letting you or anyone else stop him, what has happened here is you have carried baggage into your new relationship...your looking for your new boyfriend to be something like your ex boyfriend and it's dissapointing to you....you are not allowing yourself to love your boyfriend the way he deserves to be loved why?? b/c you are still hanging on to the past....allow yourself to be happy again by accepting the truth....and i promise you will feel so much better....hope i put a smile on your face, good luck!!!
2006-11-09 02:41:25 · answer #2 · answered by tanya m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
moving on and letting go are two totally different things... sounds like you have done the first but failed at the second. trust me... i've been there. i think almost everyone has. you need to let Chris go... dont let yourself wonder where he is, what he is doing.. etc. if you have any pics or letters then you need to get rid of them. not quite out of sight out of mind, but at least its a start. as for loving the new guy... have you tried to tell him what kind of problems you have right now? you might want to let him know what is going on, and why it makes it harder to love him when you still have really strong feelings for someone else. if he really cares about you then he will be willing to take things slow and help you get over Chris. you cant love him the way he loves you if you still are pining after someone else. it's not easy by any means, but it's not fair to either one of you if you aren't willing/ able to care about the new guy as much as the old guy. true loves will never truly be forgotten, and it does take quite a bit of time to get over them. there is no magic cure... just time. the love and patience from the new guy will also greatly help... you will come to need, love, and respect him as much as the other guy, but on a different level. it's not fair to compare them, and i know thtat you are going to be for awhile. just do your best to avoid this at any cost. if that doesn't work, and i hate to say this, but maybe you aren't ready for a relationship. maybe you need to fly solo for a bit until you get your feelings sorted out and you know that you can care about someone as much as they care about you. when you get out of a serious relationship, the last thing you want is to be alone, but maybe that is for the best. you dont want anybody to be a rebound... they are usually just there for the companionship, and they dont work because you are too busy comparing them to your former love. i know this isn't exactly what you want to hear, but you need to sit down and figure out how you feel and to what extent you are willing to go before you are able to love someone as much as you loved your old boyfriend. I wish you the best of luck.. heartbreak is absolutely horrible and there is no easy remedy. :)
2006-11-09 02:38:41 · answer #3 · answered by firegurl1464 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love is kindled by fond memories, fond memories are best found in unfamiliar spaces or situations. forget the norm and let the new guy create some good memories that will start to fade those that still haunt you. good luck!
2006-11-09 02:22:16 · answer #4 · answered by Al 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont do anything. Just move on by focusing on your newer relationships. You are not required to forget things from the past. They are you memories, let them remain there.
2006-11-09 02:16:17 · answer #5 · answered by Shailesh K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u have to move on COMPLETELY.. which u have'nt..
and do u really love the new guy or love his company?
dun be selfish and giving false hope to the new guy..
if u cant love him,at least give him a chance to find his true love..
give urself time babe...
i was once in ur position n its unfair for u to be wit sumone but having sumone else in ur mind...
2006-11-09 02:26:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, you have tryed by knowing that you are cheating on Brayan but it is always good 2 be trnsparant. 4 me I heat cheet and I Like been faithfull try as much as you can to always talk about your problems with your boyF cheek in with him and figure things out.
2006-11-13 01:57:23 · answer #7 · answered by Tsenpet w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
was it the sex with the last guy was better, and that is what is hard to let go of...if so, think about an open relationship, and see if that will help.
2006-11-09 02:33:50 · answer #8 · answered by wizzard 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
relax, i wish my ex-wife fte and smooth sailings, if i can do that, you can alleviate your compassion or guilt,or other unresolved(preresolved-resolved=hmmmm what next?) just smile and enjoy life, thats what i try and if you have love hang on to it, cause when it is wrecked, its totalled atleast for that moment and maybe unfixable, so dont even wonder, your heart and life should mean all to you, its yours to spend.
2006-11-09 02:20:19 · answer #9 · answered by l8ntpianist 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u cant move on coz u stucked urself to chris. it's either u let go of chris and 4get him, or dumped this new guy
2006-11-09 02:16:41 · answer #10 · answered by pit_bulldog 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋