i just had a lil girl 6 weeks ago my son is 11 he loves his lil sister she was born on his bday 9/27 what was the odds of that. anyway every one raves about the baby and he looks and acts left out i tell him everyone did this to him when he was the baby this is baby time i tell him i love him but when people are talking so is he he wants to be acknowledge to i have to tell him to chill out there's a time for that no one ignores him but any suggestions
2006-11-08 18:06:12 · 11 answers · asked by k2u 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
all of your answers were great expect 1 but i thank you all for your wonderful suggestions
2006-11-08 18:59:34 · update #1
My son means the world to his older sister. I got her really psyched up about him when I was pregnant, and constantly reinforce ideas like "the baby loves you so much", and "you're so good at helping to take care of your brother", and "aren't you glad that *we* have a baby? Your very own baby to play with, you're so lucky." Mind you, I only speak to her this way because she's four years old, but you get the idea.
As far as your son goes, I suggest giving him responsibilities involving the baby and then rewarding him for them, like babysitting whilst you do the laundry or something. Putting him in a position to care for the baby will put him on a level above hers, and he'll no longer see her as competition. This will also give them time for bonding.
2006-11-08 18:17:47 · answer #1 · answered by Jade 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations on your new baby. :) I am mother of 2 one is 9 and one is 17. My son was born on the 26th of December. My daughter loved him but envied the fact that he got Christmas and birthday presents so close together.
I was born on one of my sister's 6th birthday and she was very jealous until she was an adult. She would do things to hurt me,....etc.
I wish I could tell you a quick fix for this problem. But unfortunately I can't.
Just spend as much quality time with him as possible. Best of luck to you and your family.
2006-11-09 08:49:39 · answer #2 · answered by Dana A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
set some time aside where the two of you can have a day with just you and him so he wont feel so left out..poor little guy just wants some attention , the way it used to be before the lil girl came along, My brother used to say " yea I got a little older, got a little sister, got a little smarter." Its nor easy when you have been an on;y child that long.
2006-11-09 02:10:56 · answer #3 · answered by twysty 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
awww, congradulations. That is so cool that they were born on the same day 11 years apart . I think it is the age difference. He's had you all this time to his self . My Daughter is 17, an only child, and she gets jealous when her friends call me Mom. She's says , your MY Mom . I tell her " yes,and I wouldn't have it any other way".Then she's all happy and felling secure again. So, my suggestion is that you make time for him and you alone, like it was before.
2006-11-09 02:20:35 · answer #4 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's no big deal, I know this must be killing you but that's what happens.Make him more involved in the baby's day to day life. Because I'm sure You spend the majority of your day watching the baby, tell him todo it with you.Teach him how to hold the baby, change the nappy, feed etc. Trust me, he'll get sick of it and leave it to you, hopefully he'll understand.
2006-11-09 02:13:04 · answer #5 · answered by Nemo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will have to set some time aside just for you and your son even if it's just to get an ice cream cone.. Take him somewhere a couple days a week let him pick which days and make sure he knows that these are his days..
2006-11-09 07:25:16 · answer #6 · answered by Tracy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your boy he means the world to you and that you would not trade anything for him. I am the youngest boy in my family of 3 and my brother had a hard time dealing with me since he was the youngest for a long time..Mom just made sure that my brother was the world to him along with me and my sister.
2006-11-09 02:09:04 · answer #7 · answered by Go For Broke 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be patient and nice to him ,try to make him understand that there is room for everybody in the family try to point out the advantages of hanving a sister
and give him some responsibility that is relevant to this.
make him feed the little thing
2006-11-09 02:15:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take him some places far from your locality or another city for 6 months if you have nearest relatives in another place. He may learn more from the difficulties that he faces than from his advises.
2006-11-09 02:17:41 · answer #9 · answered by Mesi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Plan one day a week that it's just you and him. Go to the movies or to the Mall or even just lunch.
2006-11-09 13:04:45 · answer #10 · answered by KathyS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋