Internet Relationship(Advice needed)?

Question

Hello, My name is Karen.
4 years ago I met a man on the internet who lived 5 hrs away from me and my native Chicago.
He and I chatted everyday mostly at night, for hours. He was very lively, stimulating, and considered himself an Artist- singing, dancing, and carried himself as a much younger man, than his actual 54 years. everytime I got online, he approached me constantly with lavish, attention, concern, and made me feel Happy and Complete, because I believe he cared. he requested that I come to see him on a Regular basis, I was unable to come but a few times. a year ago, I felt close enough to this man to send him money, gifts, and engaged in a Sexual Relationship. he told me his mother had Cancer and I gave him money, claiming he was broke I offered money and support. it took me 3 yrs to feel comfortable to do it. I wondered whether or not this man was a Sweetheart Swindler, I posed as several different people and he was Flirting with many women online, He dumped me. What to do??

Answer 1

A painful lesson was learnt. You need to go on a diet and then go and meet people in the flesh, you feel badly about yourself hence you hide behind a computer. Relationships rarely work on these things, very rarely. In a world of instant fixes that is all you shall get an instant fix, if you see it like that you will not get so badly hurt, although the emptiness after you have had your high is the penalty of thinking with your genitals

Answer 2

you poor woman...dear, its unfortunate what happened, he sounds like a creep, maybe he has done this to many people, you should go ask the police to see if there is anything you could do about this..maybe theres a way that he could be traced and stopped..dont ever trust anyone but your own family and closest friends..i met this guy online and just in the first 30 mins talking to him, he was already in love with me and wanted me to send him money to come see me!! be very careful of what you do..again, im sorry you got duped by a scam artist..they just know how to work people...

Answer 3

prolly it was all about money.
some ppl ask you for money 30 min later but some other ppl ask you 3 years later.
i know a girl who met this guy online. they chatted everyday for hours for 1 year and she decided to meet him.
she was raped by him on the day they first met.

online ppl are tricky. they seem to be nice and if you have talked to them for over a year you would think you can trust them.
NOPE. not really. they target you and wait till the time is right.

Answer 4

Pick yourself up - dust yourself off - close your wallet - don't be so generous.
My skin creeped as I read your note.
Be VERY careful in future.
He's probably swindled many others out of money and places on their hearts.
Be thankful that he's gone.
Move on.

Answer 5

Date a real man from Chicago contact me.

Answer 6

You should leave him completely alone. If he asks you why, you can tell him, but just don't accept any of his lame excuses and leave him alone. Acknowledge that he's a player and learn your lessons from that. He doesn't love you. He used you, for whatever reasons. Think about it objectively.

Answer 7

You need to put the computer in the window. Open and closed it as hard as you can several times.

Answer 8

delete all of his messages! And forget about him. Burn all of his pictures, donate his gifts, & just burn everything. Trust me you'll feel better!
Get over him fast so you can move on to bigger & better things.
:)

Answer 9

Live and Learn.

Answer 10

gurl i am so sorry that you spent several years of your life with this man, he is a bunch of crock, you poor thing, :-(