He's very indecisive, but I love him deeply. I know he is the one, but am getting impatient. I have known him for more than 10 years, so has my mom and did I mention he's my brother's bestfriend? We have been dating for 20 months - any help would be appreciated.
2006-11-08 17:35:43 · 9 answers · asked by Jennifer B 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
20 months is still a relatively new relationship. Marriage is a big decision, and should not be rushed. Just give him some more time. It is better to wait until he is completely ready than to rush and have an uncertain husband. My boyfriend and I have been together for six years and are just starting to plan our wedding. If you were to ask me four years ago if I thought that i knew enough about our relationship to approach marriage I would have said yes. I am glad now that I did not rush into it. I have learned more about our relationship every year. People evolve, and you have to let them find out what is right for them before marriage.
2006-11-09 05:12:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Jennifer
If u think u both ready for marriage then go for marriage otherwise if he is not ready then leave it to. U think about it that why he ready then take time to decide. what happened b/w u both that's why he want time. Indeed dear if he loves u then he marry with u one day but after 10 or 20 months he wants to decide how heartless is he. if u said he is indecisive then why u trust him or love him. ignore him for some days or month if he returns to you then he really loves u if not then he always play a game with u or make a fool. Because true love never bound any one in a such boundaries. leave him for some days then he feel ur value dear.
2006-11-08 17:56:02 · answer #2 · answered by care 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is called a "ham and eggs" relationship, that is, the chicken is only involved in this relationship and the hog is committed. Be careful with someone who does not want to commit or be the hog too. A good marriage requires two hogs not two chickens!
2006-11-08 18:54:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you so impatient? It's obvious he's not ready to get married yet. If you push him, you'll lose him. Just be patient. When he's ready, he'll ask. If he doesn't ask, then you'll have to decide if you want to stay with him or not.
2006-11-09 01:47:56 · answer #4 · answered by married2004 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why the sudden rush about marrying
if your man is not yet ready give him some more time
if he no longer wants it ask him why
but whatever you do dont push someone to do something that they are not so sure of
especially marriage
2006-11-08 17:39:18 · answer #5 · answered by haringmarumo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no use of rushing things, but if you want to encourage him in being a great husband just point out time to time on how great he is. We enjoy that.
2006-11-08 17:38:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some men just do not want to give up their single status, even though their are living with someone
2006-11-08 18:20:46 · answer #7 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
refer to the person with 3 rings
well, BF is probably not sure who he wants to marry
you or your mother
or your brothers bestfriend
don't blame him
2006-11-08 18:04:32 · answer #8 · answered by Martin T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U HAVE WAITED 10 YRS, WHATS A COUPLA MORE DAYS, MARRIAGE IS A BIG THING Y R U TRYNA RUSH IT, WE CANNOT HELP U, WE CAN JUST TELL U TO WAIT, GODDAMN WOMAN.
2006-11-08 17:38:17 · answer #9 · answered by t_a_s_t_y 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋