Is this normal or is there something wrong with me?

Question

Ok well just yesterday my dog that I've had for 8 years died out of nowhere. I was in the house he went outside to do whatever like he always does. I am about to leave and I look out the window. I see my dog laying out on a little grass area. It was fairly hot out and I found it weird he would be laying out there. I opened the door and started calling his name. He didn't move the slightest bit. I started walking towards he getting more worried each step and yelling his name, until I got close enough to realize he was already dead. I was really frantic and crying and insane and couldn't bear to look at him with ants and flies around him already. He had only been out there for 20 minutes. He was never sick, never showed any signs of having anything wrong with him, and I had just seen him walk out the pet door healthy as can be 20 minutes earlier. There he was just laying there dead. I was in shock that he could just die like that, no warning, nothing. I was trying to figure out how it..

happened. There was no wounds, no blood, other than some blood in his mouth. I called my vet to see if I could take him there and see what happend to him. I was worried if he ate something poisonous because I have another dog and I didn't want something dangerous to be in the backyard. Anyway my vet doesn't know for sure but his best guess is that my dog had a severe seizure. He said the blood at his mouth is probably from him biting his tongue, which I guess is common in seizures. I'm still in shcok this happened. It was so out of nowhere. Is it normal for me to be so upset? Fortunately, I haven't lost a human that was really close to me. But I don't know how I will handle it because I can't even handle losing my dog. I'm constatly thinking about him and the image of him lying there dead with flies around him is burned into my brain. It's horrible. I really can't believe im this upset about it, but I am. I feel bad for my other dog (who's younger) and grew up his whole life with...

Fluffy as his sort of parent. The two have never been apart, EVER. I don't know how he will deal with being home all by himself and losing his best friend and playmate. I felt so lonely coming home today. Usually I have both of the dogs howling and barking for me to give them a treat and pay attention to them right when I walk in the door. Today it was dead silent. I found my other dog lying in my bed upstairs quiet. It's so depressing. Is it normal to be this upset? I don't know how I will deal with a human dying, If I'm this upset about my dog. Sorry for the rant, I just needed to vent.

Thanks everyone, I feel a little better.

And as for poison, that was one of the first things that came to my mind. But my vet said there was absolutely no signs of poison, so I am pretty sure it was a seizure. Although I never knew that could happen. I knew dogs could get seizures but I didn't know it could be fatal like that and so fast. I feel a little better knowing how it happened pretty much for sure.

Answer 1

My dear Gandamak went out for his morning walk, and didn't come home (large farm) I found him just as you did, and it hurt so much that it was hard to breath..
No, you are grieving just as any of us do that have lost a beloved companion..Those who have never known the deep love of a dog will never understand, but it hurts as badly as losing other family members.
Just know that he is waiting for you, and you will see him again.. I have proof of this, and it brings me such comfort..

Answer 2

It is perfectly fine that you grieve in this manner. I too have felt the anguish you are experiencing and it is perfectly understandable as a pet is as much a family member as any human. Let yourself be sad, let yourself think of seeing him and know that he knows that you loved him..... usually an animal knows when it may be near something so intensely traumatic, so worry not for he knew that you would find him. Perhaps a small gravesite on your property would be appropriate....not sure if you can bury him there, but at least you could place a chair there where you've established a place of rememberence....maybe a small plaque or statue or whatever.....but just a place you can go and be quiet and think of him. Don't worry, because his spirit lives on inside of you and will be carried to the next dog you own. Make sure if you can to allow the other dog to smell that this dog has passed away....it will be healthy for him to know.....or at least that he/she can spend time in the same area. Surely it was a seizure. Some chemicals in food can adversely affect a dog over a long period of time.....Personally I only use organic food for my dogs and they do quite well. I wish you calm and I am sending you positive thoughts. be well, jack

Answer 3

There is nothing wrong with you! Our pets are parts of our family, so much more than just an animal. Losing one is heart breaking, you are completely normal! I would be worried if I had an animal for 8 years and didn't feel sad when it passed on!! As for how he died, that is odd that he was only out for 20 minutes and flies had already swarmed him. Maybe he went outside to die to be away from the family when it happened. Animals are known to do this. I would definately look for signs of trauma though. Poison could be the cause if he ingested it at a much earlier time as poison takes time to work through the body and most times they convulse with poison. I'm so sorry for your loss.

Answer 4

Your reaction to the situation is very normal. It's our nature's way of handling anxiety from loss or change of something we got used to. We go a couple of stages of grief until we are able to resolve the loss. And it' wouldn't be normal (you wouldn't be a normal human being) if you don't experience this. I guess what we have for loved ones when they die equates itself with losing a beloved pets. and it's normal to cry over a beloved dog. At the same time, your other dog may also be grieving for a lost friend.

There are five levels of grief according to Engel's Model. shock and disbelief, Developing awareness, restitution, resolving the loss, idealization, and outcome. Right now you're on the stage developing awareness where you are beginning to realize the reality and meaning of loss.

Don't worry, a sane mind does this. It's okay to mourn over your pet. Cry over it if you must. If you can't carry the load/burden seek for help. Time will come that wounded hearts will be healed and new ones will come to replace the loss. I'll pray for you.

Answer 5

I am so sorry for your loss! You are absolutely normal! Like so many have said before...pets are like family members, and to lose one is devastating! I had two cats, the second I got when she was 4 days old, she had never been without my first cat. When my first cat died, not only did I mourn, my other cat did too. Your other dog is probably mourning Fluffy's death, just as you are. Don't worry, you will get over this, and your other dog will bounce back and be playful again. Maybe, once your feeling better, you can get a puppy, not to replace Fluffy, to give your other dog a companion. I hoped this helped...again, so sorry for your loss!

Answer 6

First of all I am very sorry about your dog. I have 4 dogs and have lost dogs in the past. It is very traumatic to lose a pet in any circumstances. From what you have said it sounds like your dog had a seizure. Your other dog sounds like it is grieving and you should spend as much time with it as possible and in time get another dog. Dogs are pack animals abd do better in pairs or better. In time the horrible image you have will pass and you will cherish the good memories of your pet.

Answer 7

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Answer 8

Awww, I am so sorry this happened to you. I am a dog lover myself. Used to be a cat lover until I watched my kitty die. It stayed with me for a long time. But rest assured that with time you will feel better. I know it sounds impossible right now but time does heal all wounds. Again I am so sorry this has happened to you. I have two dogs now and every once in awhile while I watch the older play in the backyard I wonder how long he has left. He is 13 in human years.

Answer 9

I'm so sorry about your dog. My little dog died almost 3 months ago, and I'm still very much heartbroken. This is very normal for you to feel this way, pets are our family. I'm comforted because I believe our pets that have passed on to the other side are happy and waiting for us there. It will get better with time.

Answer 10

What your feeling is VERY normal!!! Dogs are a member of the family, sometimes even childlike. I lost a dog last Christmas and it was horrible...we were sick with grief!! You will grieve for your dog but with time you will feel better and better. Keep the good memories and get rid of the bad one...think of your happiest memory of him and when that one horrible picture comes into your thoughts..replace it with that happy memory. Big hugs...and soooooooooo sorry for your loss!!

Dawn