We both work at the same job. She looks at me and smiles at me at times. She's a nice sweet girl. She flirts with me sometimes. But she has a boyfriend. And she's hitting on me it seems like. Just the way she acts around me and aske's if I could help bag alot. She's a cashier and Im a stocker. Im a nice guy by the way. Anyways I was helping her bag she said "I hope I wasn't bothering you". And I said "no". Then she said "oh well you'll get over it". In a nice way. I think she's starting to realize that she can push me around and get her way. But Im not sure. I used to think of her has a sweet,kind, and caring person. We known each other at work for about 4 months now. I was falling for her. But now I don't know. She didn't even tell me she had a boyfriend. I had to find out myself from someone at work. I heard her boyfriend treats her bad. Maybe thats the reason why she's not so kind anymore. Or maybe she likes guys who tell her what to do. I guess its true. Nice guys do finish last.
2006-11-08 16:57:51 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I feel heart broken right now.
2006-11-08 16:59:47 · update #1
She's probably likes her boyfriend but has a crush on you at the same time. She didn't tell you she had a boyfriend because she thinks you're cute and wants you to like her back. She would probably go out with you if she didn't have a boyfriend. But since she doesn't dislike her boyfriend she has no reason to break up with him and she likes him enough and or doesn't like you enough to change the way things are. Also things are stable the way they are and if she breaks up with him there is a chance that she might not get you. She just wants to have someone.
She probably does realize that you like her and she likes the attention. Don't let her push you around or damage your pride but it doesn't hurt to be nice.
It's hard to tell without seeing the situation and what you are going through but this could be somewhat similar? Hope this helps.
Either way don't stop being nice...Nice guys get all the girls in college. Nice guys also get meaningful relationships instead of flings because they are keepers.
2006-11-08 17:09:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Maybe this girl isnt recognising that shes being flirty and is misinterpreting it for being friendly. I think because shes in a bad relationship she may just be branching out for some kind of support from someone from the opposite sex (being you.) The best thing you can do is try to be there for her as a friend at the moment. Obviously if her and her boyfriend do choose to split and there is something there it'll be something you will both have to discuss but because shes in a relationship I'ld say shes off limits for the time being but it never hurts to be a friend.:) Good luck!
2006-11-08 17:21:22 · answer #2 · answered by lynsc_83 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably does have a little crush on your or she just likes the attention that your were showing her since she wasnt getting it from her boyfriend. I guess it made her feel good knowing that their is a guy out there like you that doesnt mind being a gentelman or not being mean to her. maybe she doesnt want to leave her boyfriend, so dont get yourself caught up in that, if she has a boyfriend you and her can be friends but ont flirt with her and stuff because you dont want to be caought in the middle of anything. To safeguard yourself still be friendly to her just not so open.
2006-11-08 17:04:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like she's not sure of what she wants...Also it sounds like she's talking a lot with other co-workers, maybe they're telling her that you are suppose to be helping her...I'm not sure how it works but that's what it sounds like to me. It sounds like you're a really thoughtful person and you've got a really big heart. Don't get too involved at this time...take your time and let it just happen. If she's involved with someone... leave it alone, you don't need that headache. If it is meant for it to be... it will happen...Sometimes it's just fun to do eye contact...it's what you call teasing. Don't let her push you around...OK, I don't like her answer...you'll get over it...that's pretty blunt! But sometimes we make mistakes in what we say. So don't take it to heart. Good luck.
2006-11-08 17:17:14 · answer #4 · answered by Sheelalake 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she's just teasing you when she says "oh you'll get over it." don't be so sensitive. did you it ever occur to you to ASK her if she had a boyfriend? nice guys don't always finish last. if you are so nice then why are you falling for someone who already has a boyfriend. if you feel like she is being pushy (which i don't think she is) then don't bag for her. stop making a big deal out of what appears to be nothing!
2006-11-08 17:11:10 · answer #5 · answered by sweettee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Basically she doesn't want you. You are just going to turn out to be her go to guy when something happens between her and her b/f. You are basically there to prove that she still has game and can still get men. She is using you to do that. Your like her test subject. I think your better of just moving on and finding someone else. You sound like a really nice guy so it shouldn't be hard for you to find someone. Good Luck
2006-11-08 17:17:43 · answer #6 · answered by Esther V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Harry, She sounds like a fruit cake. Don't trust this girl,she doesn't know what she wants and that is trouble. I'm sure you can find a girl that is nice and doesn't have a B.F.Don't flirt with her and don't pay attention to her when she does. A Friend.
Clowmy
2006-11-08 17:12:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're playing mind games with yourself.
Maybe she doesn't date bag boys.
If you haven't made a move on her in four months she's pretty sure that you aren't interested in her so she quit smiling and flirting. You're a lost cause. Losers finish last.
Nice guys get laid.
Find a girl who's unattached to fantasize about.
2006-11-08 17:09:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your too much of a good guy to be wasting your time with her.
She just enjoys how your doing everything for her, it makes her feel good and powerful. You need to test her back start saying NO to her just show her that your not her pet.
And if she comes around and start asking what's wrong then you know she really might be interested in you too and if not just ditch her she is not worth it.
2006-11-08 17:22:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We do finish last or not at all, but one thing you have to keep in check is you being truthful with your self and her and respectful of your self first! Put out there on the table how you feel, quit the games and the shy stuff. Let her know what you want from her and let her know what your rules are. If she is too immature to follow suit let her be, she not worth it or has too many things going on to know that you are worthit Cutting the BS.
2006-11-08 17:05:45 · answer #10 · answered by Game lover 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋