i met a girl as soon as i came to college and immediatly i knew i could trust her with my life. but some really dumb thing happened that made me look worse than i really am and now she has a hard time trusting me. ive tried for so long just for her to trust me. and to like me more. ive sent her cards and letters and flowers and all the things that i think a girl would want. but shes still scared. we have never had sex and i never planned on it because she is a virgin and i respect her for it. she really means a lot to me and i just wish she could realize that. someone tell me what i can tell her to make her love me. what does every girl want to hear? Girls- what is the one thing you wish a guy would do for you? i need ideas
2006-11-08 16:50:24 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It seems to be you are coming on a too strong and maybe you should give her some space. Just try being a good friend to her first and let her know that she can trust you. You have to earn it back by always following through on your promises and being there for her. But allow her some breathing room first before you scare her away even more.
2006-11-08 16:53:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The one thing I want to hear the most is 100% honesty. Did you tell her why you did that horribly stupid thing you did? Honesty is always the best key to any type of relationship. You are going to have to prove to her that she can trust you again. Sending her flowers and cards and candy isn't going to prove to her that she can trust you. It's not going to sweeten her up. You also can't make someone love you. You are going to have to earn her trust back slowly and gradually. Trust is not something that is given easy, and when you break that trust it is very hard to give back when you broke it. It is going to take a lot for this girl to trust you again. All you can do is show her that you won't do this again to get her trust back. Good Luck
2006-11-09 00:58:32 · answer #2 · answered by Esther V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem is guys don't get what girls want. Its not flowers, chocolates or any kind of cards. one thing is important besides romance people need to have other qualities. I mean what a girl would wanna have is a partner for life and a happy life with him. Tell her that she is important and most of all if you really love her try to be with her in her bad times when nobody is there for her. If you do that you can assure yourself that you are a nice guy who can love a girl for life.
2006-11-09 00:51:51 · answer #3 · answered by miss_magic047 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The one thing I could wish for was being able to trust a guy, to be able to do anything I like to do in front of him and not have to act like someone I'm not.....since thats what your trying to get just be her friend first and get to know her better. let her know that whatever dumb happened wasn't like what you usually do. and that was something stupid and that you wouldnt do something like that on a normal basis.
of course its the 14 year old with no experience talking....
2006-11-09 00:55:43 · answer #4 · answered by Marsha 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that's very cute. You should talk to her just keep tryin` to win her heart. or write her a poem or song, request it on the radio or plan a really romantic date go to the beach walk and talk and plan a candle light dinner in a hotel room, but before she walks in make sure the room is dark and romantic with flowers all over and candles, go on your knees and say sorry for what you did, give me a second chance because i love you, and i need you in my life. never give up. that's all i can really say.
2006-11-09 00:56:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Write her poems or a song, she is probably just nervous but don't give her a reason not to trust you. people are complicated and this isn't going to be a quick fix. GOOD LUCK!
2006-11-09 00:54:45 · answer #6 · answered by jason c 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Back off now, see if she comes to you. Send her one more card or note that says you are going to back off. Tell her that you feel you have done everything and now its up to her. Women love a chase and if she has feelings for you she will contact you.
2006-11-09 00:54:28 · answer #7 · answered by Jan G 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best thing you can do for her is to quit trying to tell her what you think she wants to hear and be honest with her.
2006-11-09 00:52:31 · answer #8 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2006-11-09 00:58:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Will i think you should let her be for a while and maby she would come to you. You just need to give her some space.
2006-11-09 00:54:21 · answer #10 · answered by April M 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋