I have been with my boyfriend for a little over a year and I am 9 months pregnant with his child...things have been really rough and he thinks that the baby might be my ex's but, it's not...the problem is that he keeps telling me he doesn't want to try to make things work and that we would be better of not together but, then he wants to sleep with me...hardest part is we live together...I need help, advice on what to do...he keeps giving me mixed signals.
2006-11-08 16:21:10 · 13 answers · asked by sweetpradagirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you are in a bad situation...why are you giving him so much power??? he doesnt know what he wants, he's confused and it's not making you feel any better...however i truly hope that he is not trying to run away from his responsibilities and just using that it's not going to work crap as an excuse to end things, if i were you i would stop sleeping with him...b/c if he is not trying to make things work than why is he there? and i think he wants you to ask him to leave the reason why he's doing this he wants you to be the one to end it so that it wont be any guilt on his part...give him what he wants sometimes we have to do that in order for a person to wake up....he don't really care about your feelings b/c look at what he's doing to you while your pregnant, instead he should be caressing you....but he rather put you under alot of stress, girl do yourself a favor and get rid of the headache.
2006-11-08 16:46:42 · answer #1 · answered by tanya m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Poor girl! You've been used for nothing. He sleeps with you because he has nowhere to go and no one to provide him free sex anymore. Don't be STUPID! Most importantly is you're carrying his child but he's shifting his responsibilities away, what are you going to do when you've given birth and what'll happen to the baby? Who's going to bring up the kid? You - yourself, alone? I really think you should leave this guy and get a better life for yourself and your kid. Start afresh and get prepared to work harder when the child is born. My concern is how are you going to take care of the baby in a single-member raised family environment? You better think for yourself now, time is running out. Don't let him keep using you for shelter, money & FREE SEX!!!!! Get rid of this jerk, he's worse than a beast!
2006-11-09 00:28:07 · answer #2 · answered by PoshBerries 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What mixed signals... He wants free sex with no commitment. He feels you owe it to him because you are under the same roof. He cares nothing about you. What is confusing? He has treated you like a come dumpster and you let him. You should have left him a long time ago.
2006-11-09 00:28:33 · answer #3 · answered by Mr Cellophane 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to said that you have a man who does not want to have a family of his own. What he is doing is for himself. Either you leave him or bear with it but the life will be tougher if he do not want his child. So get his or your family for help on this. Take care and Bless you and your baby by Chirst the Lord,Amen.
2006-11-09 00:36:14 · answer #4 · answered by Cindy L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By saying that the child is ur ex's,he is coolly trying to get out of shouldering responsibility.Plus he is not at loss as he still gets to sleep with you.He is a jerk and the sooner you talk things out with him,the better it will be for you.
2006-11-09 00:27:57 · answer #5 · answered by money money 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YOU NEED TO LEAVE HIM ALONG HE PLAYING GAMES, AND
THAT NOT FAIR TO YOU, IF HE DOES NOT WANT THE
RELATIONSHIP THEN THAT FINE BUT DONT CONTINUE
TO SLEEP WITH HIM. I KNOW THAT YOU ARE CARRYING
HIS CHILD AND YOU WILL ALL WAY BE TOGETHER IF
NOTHING BUT FOR THE CHILD. BUT YOU DESERVE RESPECT AND YOU NEED TO TELL HIM THAT YOU WILL
NOT PUT UP WITH THAT CRAB MAYBE TIME FOR SOME
ONE TO LEAVE FOR YOUR SAKE AND THE PEACE OF
MIND IN THE UPCOMING MONTHS BEFORE THIS CHILD
IS BORN THIS IS NOT GOOD FOR YOU.
2006-11-09 00:32:28 · answer #6 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mixed signals is confusion and confusion is a red flag.
if you two live together and you pg with his kid,then of course he is gunna want sex with no strings attatched. until something better comes along.
2006-11-09 00:24:05 · answer #7 · answered by beachgirl90 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
signals aren't mixed , he's willing to have sex as long as your willing to give it to him. sex isn't going to keep a relationship going. get a blood test and prove the child is his. you're going to have to if he's going to support it. sounds like you're going to have to go to court anyway. good luck
2006-11-09 00:26:54 · answer #8 · answered by uknowme 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i say you sit him down and tell him that you need to know waht he wants then you tell him what you want and be honest with him and tell him you want him to be honest with you and if he keeps on telling you he doesn't want to work it out then don't sleep with him and make him leave or you leave good luck i hope whatever you want to happen, happens for you
2006-11-09 00:26:38 · answer #9 · answered by sam 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop sleeping with him...sounds like he doesn't want you, but is more than willing to use you!! you don't need a loser like that!
2006-11-09 00:26:26 · answer #10 · answered by honestypleeze 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋