My husband and I our expecting our first born in December. And we just cant wait. But this sunday they flew him out to iraq. He's only an admin and Im thinking "he has no special job why do they need him?". Anyways, I have no family in the city Im in and I was wondering why they couldnt just wait 2 more months so he can witness his first borns birth. Do they have any special leave for this situation.
2006-11-08 16:03:06 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
If they know when you are due, they will try to get him home in time. My friend was pregnant while her husband was over in Iraq and they tried to get him home in time. If they can't get him home in time see if there's a way to do a video conference so that he can see the birth. I know its not the same but at least he will be able to see the birth. Tell him now to start talking to his chain of command to see what they can set up.. Hope I helped alittle. Congratulations and good luck..
2006-11-08 16:58:01 · answer #1 · answered by Carrie Z 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say this but your husbands butt belongs to Uncle Sam until his term is up. Uncle Sam can tell him where to go at anytime reguardless of almost ANY situation and can kee him there. Here's what I suggest: If he isn't back for the birth of your child find a new mom's support group, that will help tremendously. Get friendly with your neighbors and keep close freinds near you for the first few weeks. Having help is essential! Caring for a newborn is a lot of work. Plus your hormones will be all out of wack so your are going to feel real down in the dumps for a week or so, being alone duirng that time would be very hard! Make sure that before your due date you have ready made meals stocked and ready to go. Sleep when your baby sleeps, and take a shower when yor baby is down for a nap too. It would also be a good idea to get a friend over a few times a week for about 4 to six hours to take care of the baby so that you can get some un-interrupted rest. Don't feel bad about reaching out for help to others. Most people will be more than happy to help you, everyone loves a cute little warm bundle of love!!!! Good luck!!!
2006-11-08 16:11:02 · answer #2 · answered by Easter Bunny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-28 16:43:35 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you have a high risk pregnancy, no, he won't get to come home. My friend is high risk and her husband was supposed to deploy, but they got doctor's notes and jumped through hoops to get him a waiver.
If complications arise, they may allow him to take medical emergency leave. Otherwise, sorry. The military tries to treat everyone pretty equal across the board. They also like to keep their deployment cycles and paperwork straight. Had he tried to get out of it before he left, he might have stood a chance, but now that he's gone, it's too late.
My husband is Air Force and he will have to take leave days to be with me when the baby is born...assuming they are approved.
2006-11-08 16:30:12 · answer #4 · answered by Sativa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, the military does not take things like little bundles of joy into consideration for time of deployment... sorry to hear your situation.
This is way off topic, but when are you due?! I'm due December 14th with our 1st... have you done a 3D Ultrasound?! Email me if you have a chance... I'm curious to see if you are experiancing some of the weird things I am... Hope to hear from you. If not Congratulations and good luck!!
2006-11-08 16:09:32 · answer #5 · answered by Tiggy's Momma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By law your husband must go because he is bound by the contract by the military to serve his county.
This is hard on families with children but he has to go because he has "sworn" to be dedicated no matter what.
I am sure if he asks if a leave exists they will tell him what procedures he must follow. I did a search on Yahoo and I copied and pasted the link below. It is from the US Dept of Commerce-Office of the Secretary-Office of HR Management Website. It gives specifics about Family Leave.
But for now stay focused and prepare for the delivery of your little one.
Keep in contact with him as much as you can to keep him informed of what is going on with you and baby.
God Bless you....all will be well you'll see!
2006-11-08 16:17:52 · answer #6 · answered by ye 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's hard to say, but your husbands going to have to start asking now before it gets to close to the time...what ever else you've heard about the military, they are as bureaucratic as they get, paperwork takes 3X longer then you would think...that, or he can go to the shrink and tell them he thinks hes having panic attacks because he is so worried about you...you never know, it might just work....
2006-11-08 16:09:55 · answer #7 · answered by mniles21 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the special leave you are talking about is called R&R.. but if u want to know more hit up my wife an she will answer this for you b/c she is in the military an she been over there also..so just leave her an offline message telling her that i told u that u could help her out.. its veronica_navajo if you have yahoo messager.. take care
2006-11-08 16:09:52 · answer #8 · answered by calcutta200224 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No hun, they don't. I'm sorry. My husband was in AIT when we had our first born, they still wouldn't let him come home. I'm sorry. I wish I had better news for you.
2006-11-08 16:07:29 · answer #9 · answered by Niki O'Brien 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry not that I've ever heard of. :( Take care!! and Congratulation :)
2006-11-08 16:12:29 · answer #10 · answered by Thankyou4givengmeaheadache 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋