Im Extremely Shy, scared of hell of rejection, just need help approaching women...?

Question

I recently got out of a relationship and I have been really in the mix because I was dating her for like over a 1 year now, and she actually approached me lol so I was wondering how can I get in the mix with girl, like my friends and I go to clubs but im always to shy and I just sit there and hold my drink and watch others, im too scared to death to approach someone to dance and to be honest i dont think i can do it, what some ways I can just get back in the game and have confidence im too scared of rejection so I dont think i can approach a girl, what can I and what should I do?? thanks in advance...

Answer 1

Hmm. Just don't think about it. Like if you just go for it you never know what's gonna happen. If you get rejected you'll get over it, it's not the end of the world.

Just have some confindence and be assertive and you never know what you'll get. If you just wait in the corner for something to happen it may never come. Just go for it.

Answer 2

I'm sure if you go to the club long enough a girl will approach you, but it may not be what you need.

All men are afraid of rejection, just like you. If you don't try, though, where will you be 5 years from now?

If you want a companion, you will have to buck up and take the chance of approaching someone you think you would be compatible with. Just do it.

Answer 3

Hey you, You're not getting any younger, so face it. If you want to date others, you're going to have to put yourself out there. Got an idea. Go to a bar where you know the really gorgeous girls hang out. Pick out the prettiest one and then ask her if she wants to dance (if there's dancing) or ask her a silly question. When she rolls her eyes or makes you feel stupid, just say thanks anyway, roll your eyes, and walk away. Then try it out on someone else. I can almost gurarantee you that in 2 weeks of rejection, you will develop a veneer of indifference. You'll see, It's just no big deal. And you'll realize that in 2 weeks if you just stick with it. Maybe you're not scared of rejection, but scared they'll want more than you want to give. But in that, you're in the driver's seat. Give her a chance to show you whether she's worth it or not.

Answer 4

get over the rejection by building your confidence. I would start getting into some physical activites, and start resuming some hobbies you're good at so you can develop as sense of accomplishment and worth. If people reject you it's probably because they're not worth your time. Not that you're a bad person, but that you're not compatible and they see that. but putting such emphasis on others... who cares what they think? You're a catch! You obviously drew the attention of someone who thought you were worth hanging out with for a year.

Answer 5

Wow your very sure of yourself. Its good to be confident but not cocky. Women prefer to be approached rather than approach. And you've got a fear of rejection. Its quite common but its stopping you from finding a girlfriend. You've just got to suck it up and go for it my friend. otherwise you'll never know what its like. Everyone has been rejected by somebody at least once in their life.

Answer 6

What are you afraid of? Back when I was in the world of sales, we had the 20% rule. That meant that out of all the people we talked to, only 20% were going to like what we had to say. That means, 4 out of 5 people were going to think we were full of crap and we needed to get over our fear of rejection real quick or go broke. My point is, the more girls you talk to, the better luck you will have. Go out, have a good time, walk up to a girl you like and smile. If she smiles back, talk to her. If she don't, go smile at another one. You didn't even have to say a word. Just smile. That usually is good enough to break the ice.

Answer 7

When you start to think too much about it, STOP. Just talk to people as if they were some person you could "give two shits about." You probably talk to your average person just fine, until it is someone who you care what they think. Forget about "hooking up" with someone and just enjoy each moment without thinking about, before, after or what is going to come of it. Enjoy the moment and don't try too hard. Chances are, there is someone who has been watching you, and you are probably oblivious to it because it's not "exactly" what you've been dreaming of, and you've had "tunnel vision"....enjoy every moment...it's hard to do.

Answer 8

Just say WTF and go for it. Always act like you're cool, laugh it up with your friends, dance (or headbang whatever you like or the situation calls for), don't just stand there like a bump on a log, interact.

If your friends have girlfriends or you have a girl friend that you know ask them to dance and look like you're having a good time (girls like that). They don't want the fly on the wall, who wants that guy.

Be a man, even if you get shot down. So what, their loss, right? If you ask 10 girls to dance and the last one says yes your in. The more you ask ( sorry don't ask just say "Let's dance" politely) the better your chances are.

Get in there, baby, handle yo bizniss.

Answer 9

let me tell you if some girl rejects you don't sweet it. don't feel rejected just keep going until you find that special someone.the first thing you have to get rid off is your shynes some girls like it some don't, it depends in how you approach to the girl .if you shy try to make a conversation with her not stupid conversations they loose intrest quick..and if you go to the clubs you have to know how to dance if you dance good some girls might aproach for a dance .nowwwww if that happends and you dancing with her smile ,smell good and dress nice not ghetto. while at the time you dancing with her ask her if she wants a drink after you stop dacing with her. the most important thing is that your breath is not kicking and don't drink to much the smell of beer will keep her away from you . converse with her in a nice way be more gentleman like,be respecfull with her meaning no cursing if she does, no sexual comments with her only if she ask you. nowwww one other thing never tell her about your past with other girls that will be the end of the date if she ask you about your other girlfriends just tell her it didn't work out but don't give details just keep it simple.and if things goes well and she ask you your phone number just give it to her then things will go better just don't go crazy in calling her it could get annoying and that will end it all. let her call you. now if she doesn't call you remember you need to converse with her to know a bit about her she might be working or doing something important. now if she calls you and she tells you call me back and she gives a time to call her but let say she not there what you do is wait for to call you beacuse she might say to her self why didn't you call her and you will tell her i did but don't say what time beacuse she will say to her self that you where waiting for that time to be exact .example= if she tells you to call her at 3:00 pm don't call her wait at 3:45 and then call her why beacuse you don't want to sound sooooo desperate to call her, just take your time and then call . now if she was waiting for you to call her 3:00 just tell her i was a bit busy but i was going to call i didn't forget you.

Answer 10

The worst thing that she can say is "no", it wont kill you. She may say no just based on the fact that you lack so much confidence in yourself.. What did you do to make the first girl you were dating approach you.. You obviously had something that turned her on.. Whatever you did then, do it again.. I say "fake it until you make it", good luck...