What kind of a toy was it? Did this happen to you as a kid?
2006-11-08 15:49:25 · 19 answers · asked by Lori Lynn 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I have never thrown a toy out, but when my daughter misbehavies alot (more than a day or so) she has to pick out a toy that she likes to donate to needy children.
2006-11-08 15:51:54 · answer #1 · answered by notAminiVANmama 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
What? What kind of parent would do that? Geeze....
What ever happened to just plain ol' time out?
What about...any toys they don't pick up at night, goes into a bag that you put away for a few months. Then on a rainy day or when they're behaving good, bring out the old bag of toys and it'll be just like new toys. They'll stay busy for hours. They'll also miss those toys and more then likely will pick up their toys better in the future.
Break the toy? Damn. Didn't you work hard to pay for that toy? Geeze. I'm sorry, I just can't understand that way of thinking.
Good luck there
2006-11-08 23:52:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My children are teens now but when one of them was only 2 he had a habit of breaking things intentionally. A valuable vase, fruit bowl, glasses, etc...
After repeatedly telling him not to do it ; he continued. I told him that those things belonged to mommy and that I would have sad feelings when he does that. Finally, I was at my wits end trying to teach him how to respect the belongings of others. I went upstairs and got his favorite MegaPowerRanger guy that at the time cost about about 50 bucks which back then was alot for a toy. I brought it down stairs and showed it to him and said, "This is something that you like alot isn't it?" and he nodded. I asked him who it belonged to. He said his own name. I said this is how mommy feels when you keep breaking her things. I then broke it.
He cried but he never broke another thing intentionally again.
I cried the rest of the night and to this day wish that I hadn't done that. However, I was a first time mom and didn't know that I simply needed to put away the delicate items from his reach. I didn't have that problem with the other children I had later. To this day I wish I hadn't ever done that. That is my punishment and it wasn't worth it. I have since forgotten what those things actually looked like that he broke but the image of that particular toy and my son's hurt and betrayed face left an indelible impression on my mind and heart. I realized too late that my actions were malicious and his weren't. He apparently liked the sound and how he could control mommy which is typical of a 2 year old testing his boundries in an effort to be autonomous.
Don't Do This Ever. Just take the toy away and don't give it back for a really long time.
2006-11-08 23:42:24 · answer #3 · answered by AVA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I have. When my son was 3 I told him to clean up his room and he refused. I offered him the choice of cleaning his room, or losing all his toys and being spanked. He chose to lose the toys and be spanked, so I gathered all the scattered toys into a large trash bag, spanked him and put him to bed. I didn't break the toys, but I never gave them back either. He understood from that day that I meant what I said and rarely doubts that I will follow through with whatever directives I give him, but I also give him a choice. He is 14 now and we have a very close relationship because there are no mind games or inconsistencies.
2006-11-08 16:52:50 · answer #4 · answered by Michele S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I have to clean my kids room they lose their toys. I usually do not break the toys because half the time I end up taking them out of the trash. This sure did happen to me as a child. Its a very effective way to motivate children to clean their rooms or lose their stuff.
2006-11-08 15:53:52 · answer #5 · answered by me_laub 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with taking them away. Even for a long time. But I wouldn't throw them out, and I certainly wouldn't break the toy in front of them. Think of that image! That kid will remember that the rest of his life! That would devestate a kid, and really hurt.
Well that's just my opinion.
2006-11-08 15:58:41 · answer #6 · answered by Nikki 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I burned my nephews toy truck after I told him a few times not to hit me with it. We were outside watching a fire and I had enough, I grabbed it and threw it in the fire because his mother wouldn't do anything about him hitting me with it. He was 3 at the time. I knew what I did was wrong so the next day I went out and bought him a new one. He has never hit me with another toy.
2006-11-08 16:14:58 · answer #7 · answered by Rennie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Once i lied to my mom, and she gave away my FAVORITE barbie toys ever. (it was a set of four toys). she told me to never lie again, and that if i wanted those toys back i'd have to go to the store and pay for them myself (i got an allowance, but it took a good three months)
2006-11-08 16:14:32 · answer #8 · answered by UNCBballGirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have never thrown a toy away. But, there have been times when I have taken one away and hiding it, until they earn it back, I have taken Game boys and Barbies etc. It has worked great for me.
2006-11-09 03:04:23 · answer #9 · answered by Urchin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The neighbors kids and I were playing with the vacuum cleaner one night when they were over. After they left it did not work. My mom started screaming at me telling me that she was tired of me breaking her stuff (I think they broke it btw). She went in my room and came out with my record player and ripped the arm off of it right in front of me. When my dad came home from work (he worked nights) he fixed the vacuum, but could fix my record player. I still bring it up to my mom to make her feel bad. That and the time she threw orange juice in my face because I kept bothering her that I was thirsty while she was watching a movie.
I would never do that to my kids BTW.
2006-11-08 18:53:13 · answer #10 · answered by billy f 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋