If the mom and dad are divorced, who do you think the child will appreciate more in the long run...?

Question

the lenient parent or the strict parent? In this case, dad is lenient and mom gets most responsibility for making sure there's discipline.

To Jason A: Wow, I'm really sorry if you came from a broken home. Sometimes, I imagine the issues I don't have that my daughter will, and of course it makes me very sad. But, trust me, sometimes staying together is worse. What's really to blame is not that the parents messed up the perfect home, but that the parents themselves are not perfect, and they made a mistake.

Answer 1

The mother, she will be there for all the ups and downs. The father isn't doing his part to support the mothers rules. the child will get more from the Mother.

Answer 2

I don't know what to say. I hope everything works out OK for your family. The most damaging evidence is that you've caught her browsing websites that give advise on how to avoid being caught cheating. I think that's the answer to your question. Although, I'm confused about your time line. You say she's goes to meetings and stays a lot longer than expected. Then you say she's unemployed. So those meetings she was going to were what? work meetings? or what kind of meetings? I ask because that's an important part of the details. Also, you mentioned the guy she may be having an affair with is Mexican. Is your family white? Just curious. Regardless it seems that even though you've told your dad. He seems to be in denial or simply doesn't care. You obviously do care. I would just propose an ultimatum to your mom, and tell her how much she's hurt you guys, and that you won't tolerate it anymore. Thus, if she continues you won't speak to her or she can't be a part of you lives. That also depends on how old you guys are. Are you guys 18 and older?

Answer 3

Yes, without a doubt. The more linient parent will be fun as a kid but in years to come the stricter parent will have the child prepared for the real world & that will be so more more helpful. My ex husband had a very strict but great man as a father but to his mother he could do no wrong. She saved him time after time but when he got in trouble after 18 the judge didn't care that is mother thought he was a good boy. I guarentee if his dad was alive he would have turned out fine, but hes 41 & back living with mommy

Answer 4

If you are a teenager who is a spoiled brat like my niece, she's been playing her divorced parents for years. Her dad is so lenient with everything she does, so of course, she thinks he is so cool. Her Mom is the one who makes sure she arrives at practice and games on time, makes sure the homework gets done, makes sure she's in bed at a decent hour on school nights, etc....so of course, she looks like the nagging, non-fun parent.

I would hope eventually that the tables will turn someday and the child will realize that her Mom is only doing it for her own good. To make her a responsible human being and hopefully molding her into the person she needs to be to survive in the world on her own.

Answer 5

I think that the dad when you are young but in the long run the mom because she will be the one more trusted and also because she will be the one tellign you to get your work done and the dad will be the one like oh okay if you do not want to do it it is okay you can stay home and finish your homework and then that will just make you more behind in school which will cause you to get bad grades and then you will start hating school and also you will then have a difficult time trying to get your life straighten out.and vice versa with the mom

Answer 6

The one who behaves themself the most. I was in the exact situation when I was a kid. My mom though was really over bearing and my dad felt that if he educated me I would make the right decisions.
I have respect fro both their parenting styles and the things that I look back on and frown about is the childish stuff that they did to each other, at the end of the road that is what you remember the most.

Answer 7

right now, the child will most likely be on the fathers side, but in the long run, the child would take the moms for shaping the child a certain way, unles the mother is completely out of control then the child will stay with the dad.. unless its a boy, if its a boy then it doesnt matter to them as long as they have someone they know they can talk to they dont care who it is

Answer 8

In a good healthy family where there is two parents, there is often a difference in the parent's personalities. Often one parent is more of a disaplinarian, and the other one is the more lenient one; however it is important that when the disapline takes place both parents are in agreement in how the disapline is handled. When the parents divorce, both parents become the disaplinarian in their own home, and must remember to support the other parent's decisions in their home for the sake of their child. The child will learn that he/she must respect both of their parents and their differences in their personalities. If the child respected both parents when they were together, they will continue to respect them in their individual home when they are with them. Respect is a huge part of love, and if your child loves both of his/her parents he/she will give them his/her respect no matter where they live.

Answer 9

I think the child will appreciate the parent that try's their hardest to be friends with the other. I had a friend when I was younger from a broken home. Her dad was really nice and always told her how wonderful her mum was and her mum kept telling her that her dad was a loser. 10 years later she has a wonderful relationship with her dad and hardly see's her mum.

Answer 10

I think you would appreciate both, because with out dad you would be way to desciplined and like a perfect child who doesnt know how to have fun, but without mom you wouldn't be disciplined, and you wouldn't know when is the right time to work, and when is the right time to play around and have fun.